Nani went to far?

Nani's explanation for giving the sandook to Rashi seems to be excepted by all of us here. We all think that its pretty good reasoning for it, majority of us at least. But, I like to point out something, she tells Koki that she was more strict with Koki because of her color, she wanted Koki to be more strong. She loved Koki the most. But it seems as though Koki never knew how much her mother loved her. In fact, she always thought that Nani was partial with Koki throughout her childhood. So do you think Nani went to far to teach Koki to be stronger? I think so. Nani knew that Koki will have to face a lot of problems because of her skin color (which I don't think is dark at all..if someone see it please do tell me at which angle) So she became ruff and tuff with her, leaving a permanent mark in Koki's heart. I also think that Koki is making the same mistake. She is using the same reasoning that Nani used on Gopi. She is being hard on Gopi because she wants Gopi to become stronger, but she forgets in the process to actually show Gopi that she still loves her, just like Nani forgot with Koki. Acknowledgment is a big necessity when it comes to showing love. You must acknowledge that love or care. So I hope Koki not only takes Nani's advise to bring Gohem together but also learns from the mistake Nani made, constant strict behavior will make a person stronger from the outside but not so much from the inside, it will leave a few scars in their heart that cant always be healed.

tara not just gopi she did not tell her children how to love respect etc she instead made them into machines

that is what I am saying.............I don't understand y you must teach a person to be stronger by being more strict with them.....you can have a medium, where u love and set rules and principles at the same time. To me it seems like Nani gave bootcamp to Koki and she did the same with Ahem and Kinjal..........n now Gopi

even i dont see her as dark in colour. she is a bit more sawli than the others but i dont think she is kali or dark

Koki is not even dark. I don't agree with nani's tough love ok so Koki turned out strong for it but some people would take it the wrong way and lack self esteem. A bit like if you call someone fatty all the time they will either try to loose weight the healthy way or end up becoming and anorexic or bulimic.

My mum is always putting me down its not encouraging its damaging my confidence.

What you told here must be used as a script that Koki must deliver to nani. Yes, its true...very true, nani is responsible for how Koki is today to Gopi.

Originally posted by: angelic8219

Koki is not even dark. I don't agree with nani's tough love ok so Koki turned out strong for it but some people would take it the wrong way and lack self esteem. A bit like if you call someone fatty all the time they will either try to loose weight the healthy way or end up becoming and anorexic or bulimic.

My mum is always putting me down its not encouraging its damaging my confidence.

It certainly isnt encouraging.most people will loose confident...if koki is raised thinking she is not loved by her mother,it certainly is not good....i think it answers many questions,,,,she is not a warm person at all...look at her realtionship with her husband ,mota bhabhi and jigar...they all respect her but she doesnt care about anybody.....Showing the photo doesnt change a persons lifre at age 50

Originally posted by: angelic8219

Koki is not even dark. I don't agree with nani's tough love ok so Koki turned out strong for it but some people would take it the wrong way and lack self esteem. A bit like if you call someone fatty all the time they will either try to loose weight the healthy way or end up becoming and anorexic or bulimic.

My mum is always putting me down its not encouraging its damaging my confidence.

Originally posted by: taral83

that is what I am saying.............I don't understand y you must teach a person to be stronger by being more strict with them.....you can have a medium, where u love and set rules and principles at the same time. To me it seems like Nani gave bootcamp to Koki and she did the same with Ahem and Kinjal..........n now Gopi

i agree with u taral the best way to your younger is a normal way neither too strict neither too soft otherwise result will sometimes like kokila. she is insensitive that is what aham becomes insensitive by his nature and i think no one like person who is insensitive by nature

Rashi is a liar,always greedy,selfish.Period.No amount of justification of being a good wife blah blah will make her the winner of sandook.I hate nani..