Coming down to the topic...I feel divorce should be used as a last resort. It is always better to fix something that is broken, rather than chuck it away...of course I'm not thinking of relationships that involve DV...but if you just simply cannot live together, then it is fine.
Too true. Only when one thinks that things have gone past the point where you lose respect for each other as persons and where you would only see negative in your spouse, should one go for a divorce - har pehle jhagde pe agar divorce hone lage toh mera 30 yrs ka benchmark toh koi achieve hi nahi karega :)Society...we make it...so if all of us stopped judging the divorced person...things would get better by themselves.Then again, we only judge them negatively because we want to feel good about ourselves...
As I mentioned on another forum, in a separate discussion, men tend to see a happily divorced woman as a threat and therefore talk badly about her. They feel threatened because they see a woman with the guts and gumption to break out of the bounds of patriarchal society. They feel compelled to denigrate her because they think that otherwise the women in their own homes might one day kick them goodbye (tired of the ill-treatment they are getting).
As for women it is a simple case of jealousy. They put up with DV, emotional and physical abuse, constant humiliation at the hands of the in-laws and a slow eroding of their personalities and potential. They live with all this in the myth of a "marriage is sacrosanct" and when they see a woman who is successfully able to get out of a similar hell-hole they feel jealous - jealous that they didn't have the guts or the support system that the other woman had. So they start passing judgement on the divorcee, before someone asks them why they didn't do something to make their own life better.Anyway, as long as (ex) miya (ex) biwi raazi, to kya kare ga qazi? 😆
Ohh and since we seem to be plagued by an acute sense of paranoia and persecution complex - my views are my own and not aimed at anybody. I've said as much and more before I knew of your existence and as for what you think and feel - "frankly my dear, I don't give a damn"