Originally posted by: serialjunkie
@dewdrop - you've covered everything and took the wind out of ensuing arguments in favor and against each family system👏👏👏
ab kehne ko kuch nahi reh gaya hai !! So let me try a different angle.
Why do more and more women (surprisingly) choose to live in nuclear families?
I say this because of a recent experience of a very dear friend of mine who is in his mid twenties, well-educated, handsome, tall, well-spoken, owns his business and runs four huge hosiery factories - all commendable for a guy in his twenties.
While he found many many girls who were happy to date him, go clubbing and have a good time, the girls gave him cold shoulder when the subject of marriage came up. When asked point-blank most girls responded that it was because he lived with his parents, the girls did not find the arrangement to their liking. Most of them went on to add that he should consider moving away from his parents. He decided to go down the path of arranged marriage.
Is it that women have chosen independence over joint-family system as a way of asserting their departure from all that is traditional, and therefore, perceived as a detriment to progress?
Hey thanks yaar, glad you liked my analysis 😳.
I have lived all my life in a NF, so to be frank, I am used to certain characteristics of NF, like certain privacy, no unnecessary interference, nobody to judge you, and no necessity to be selfless just to satisfy someone else's self-esteem. I believe everyone has the right to grow and be what they are capable of being, and reach whatever heights they are capable of reaching, as long as you follow the right means. What is life without ambitions? So I also don't agree to the concept of sacrificing what one is capable of achieving, just cos someone else might not be able to achieve it. And in my personal experience, JFs are not as sweet as the one you see in SGP. People are too quick to judge you just because you are different from them and have certain high expectations. One thing I personally cant stand is people judging me for what I am and what I do in life, and criticising me for the same, as I believe everyone has the right to live their life the way they want, and not the way someone else wants them to be.
The above is only my POV. However, I wouldn't deny the advantages of a JF.
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