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@allizzwell

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: *dewdrop~pearl*

Thanks a lot yaar 😳...and you know wat, even I was getting the same feeling when I was writing 'Advantages & Disadvantages', as if am back to school days 😆...I remember we used to have soo many questions on Advantages, Disadvantages, Compare & Contrast, etc 😆! Suddenly even I remembered school when I was typing it out, infact I think in Social Studies or somethng, we had a chapter on nuclear and joint families and we had adv, disadv & comparisons between the 2, mayb thats y I got a dejavu when I wrote this 😆! But the only difference being, I think those times I used to memorise such adv & disadv, but today when I typed this out, it was purely from inside, from my understanding of life and these concepts 😳...only if I had studied this way back then, wouldnt have had to memorise so much 😆...but then at those times where we had the maturity or understanding of life to study lik that.

Very very true..... 😉 yes..... thank god ....come a long way from those memorising days.....though now it's my child's turn.....🤣.... but to sit with him to make him understand those long answers........😲.I might crash..........

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luv07prida

@luv07prida

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Posted: 15 years ago

#12

lovely topic

i guess everything is covered

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Nice topic.

Laxmi and Aparna, you both have written a thesis on JF vs. NF 😆

Nice analysis. It becomes nice when we mix our experience also in it.

Hmm, I dont have any preferences actually. For me, it all depends on the head of the faimly or the person who is taking the decisions in the family. If I have to live in a family where a character like "Badi Ma" is the head of the family, then I have no issues in living together. Infact, it would be a nice journey.

Good going girls... Am peeping in SGP forum mainly to catch you both here.

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Smriti

@serialjunkie

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Posted: 15 years ago

#14

@dewdrop - you've covered everything and took the wind out of ensuing arguments in favor and against each family system👏👏👏

ab kehne ko kuch nahi reh gaya hai !! So let me try a different angle.

Why do more and more women (surprisingly) choose to live in nuclear families?

I say this because of a recent experience of a very dear friend of mine who is in his mid twenties, well-educated, handsome, tall, well-spoken, owns his business and runs four huge hosiery factories - all commendable for a guy in his twenties.

While he found many many girls who were happy to date him, go clubbing and have a good time, the girls gave him cold shoulder when the subject of marriage came up. When asked point-blank most girls responded that it was because he lived with his parents, the girls did not find the arrangement to their liking. Most of them went on to add that he should consider moving away from his parents. He decided to go down the path of arranged marriage.

Is it that women have chosen independence over joint-family system as a way of asserting their departure from all that is traditional, and therefore, perceived as a detriment to progress?

Edited by serialjunkie - 15 years ago

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428419

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Posted: 15 years ago

#15

Ok...now for some of my jhol😆

I guess everyone has made their analysis and have included everything needed...so i am saying all this keeping me in my mind...

First of all I have been born and brought up in a nuclear family with only my mom and dad.....so my upbringing has been in such a way in a nuclear family that no matter how great family i get ,may be better than the kashyaps consisting of members like badi ma,etc....I can never adjust in a joint family....I am not saying JF is bad but the way I have been brought up...staying in a nuclear family has made me more personal,confined only to a 2 bhk flat....I have become so personal that I actually hate socialising with people much...so for a person like me who has just seen 2 members in a house till now..he/she wud actually feel awkward living in a family of 13 ppl😕so i guess its the same thing with Suhana too😭

Second about the NF v/s JF thingy...I

I guess there is more privacy in a NF and u can actually do whatever u want without any limitations or restrictions from someone...and it also leads u to being quite selfish at times....And i guess in a JF there is a level of secuirity...u actually feel secure in a JF b'coz u know that someone is there to support u during ur bad times😔which is missing in a NF😭

But I guess the family which is potrayed in this show is very rare to find these days...nowadays people have become so ambitious that they can go to any heights or stoop down to any level in order to achieve what they want ..even in a JF......However sweet family it may be..there is an amount of back stabbing,kitchen politics..etc etc.thing in a JF nowadays......nevertheless..living in a family like The kashyaps wud be a dream come true😍

So for me its a thumbs up for NF as of now👍🏼.......coz i am assured I will always be staying in a nuclear family..coz my dad is the only son and I will never have to go to a sasural after marriage😆coz i am a boy😉

@dewdrop-I just wanted to say..where were u during my board exams???😭I had the same topic for my english assignment for 50 marks😆I almost struggled to jot down points for the topic...only if i had joined IF then and if SGP wud have aired at that time...i wud have surely copied ur points and wud have pasted it into my notebook😆hmmm..let me see what is my nxt eng assignment...I will open a new thread for that topic..and as soon as u reply...fultoo copy and paste😆dont worry I wont give any credits to u😆😉

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Aparna

@*dewdrop~pearl*

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: reguser

Nice topic.

Laxmi and Aparna, you both have written a thesis on JF vs. NF 😆

Nice analysis. It becomes nice when we mix our experience also in it.

Hmm, I dont have any preferences actually. For me, it all depends on the head of the faimly or the person who is taking the decisions in the family. If I have to live in a family where a character like "Badi Ma" is the head of the family, then I have no issues in living together. Infact, it would be a nice journey.

Good going girls... Am peeping in SGP forum mainly to catch you both here.

Hey nice to see you here Pallavi 😊. So even you started watching SGP?

Ya basically the decision regarding JF & NF also depends upon the members of the family itself. If the family is like the one in SGP where everyone is quite loving and easy going, the journey is good. Actually in a way its nice, as there would always be some hungama in the house, you would never feel lonliness or boredom at any point in life. But in NF, there might be times when you would feel lonliness as in JF, there would always be someone at home. Now thats another advantage of JF 😉!

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Ambrosia

@Ambrosia

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

I think a family is a group of people who love and care for one another and share in many aspects of life,the joys and pains the trials and successes. Labeling them as joint,nuclear is societies way of stereotyping.We should as any kind of family take care of each other no matter the situation.this day and age the world is made up of families that are very non-typical so who is really to say what is best.

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Shwetha

@Shwets1502

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

great post again...NF Vs JF...this is wat i have to say...

i am born in a nuclear family...just my mom and dad...i dont even have siblings..

i have always felt lonely...my mom is a housewife,,,she has done her best to spend most of the time with me...but is that enough...

i dont think so...i have never had a fun time with my cousins also(7 of them..)...they live in different places...and live their own lives...even when i go for vacations it has been a very formal visit..this had made me thrive for a big joint family..

i dont know how a real joint family will be...if i consider it to be like SGP or Baa Bahu aur Baby...

then i will do anything for it...yes wen we live in a nuclear family...privacy becomes a big issue wen going into a joint family...but wen we want to go into a JF cant we sacrifice our privacy??iam ready to do it...

next wat i want to put forward is the success of a JF..it solely lies with the brothers-sisters in the family...they should be united and trust others...they should consider others problems and hapinnes as their own and take part in it...hence when their children see that they too will have that bonding with their siblings...if they look their own brothers down then JF will never succeed..

Another factor is money in JF...i always liked BBB in that case...eveyone giving their share for the family...and then they see their personal expenses...this will not bring status into the family...

taking everthing into consideration..this is why SGP family is successful...

Dadaji and Dadiji has never made a difference between Alok and his brother...has treated Bahus as Daughters and thats the reason Badi maa is still in the house...alok treats badi maa as his elder sister and respects her a lot...seeing this their children..ishaan,inder and ilesh has the same bonding...rajni and disha(hopefully suhaana too...)are like sisters...thats the bonding we get in a JF...and money everyone gives it to Badi maa...that solves the problem...and also wen u have such a bonding family..no one thinks about money...

i always think JF is the best...we just have to leave our privacy and money...u will have a great life...

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@allizzwell

Stunner

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Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: reguser

Nice topic.

Laxmi and Aparna, you both have written a thesis on JF vs. NF 😆

Nice analysis. It becomes nice when we mix our experience also in it.

Hmm, I dont have any preferences actually. For me, it all depends on the head of the faimly or the person who is taking the decisions in the family. If I have to live in a family where a character like "Badi Ma" is the head of the family, then I have no issues in living together. Infact, it would be a nice journey.

Good going girls... Am peeping in SGP forum mainly to catch you both here.

Pallavi.....creep in freq. here and believe me here we have lovely brains here too who put totally unbiased views on any character.... So enjoying ....as so many intricate points of a relationship becomes a thread topic or a character itself sometimes.... the forum members come up with so much valid points pallavi..... plzzzzz creep in freq. and post in your lovely views.......😛

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Pallavi

@-Pallavi-

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

Pallavi.....creep in freq. here and believe me here we have lovely brains here too who put totally unbiased views on any character.... So enjoying ....as so many intricate points of a relationship becomes a thread topic or a character itself sometimes.... the forum members come up with so much valid points pallavi..... plzzzzz creep in freq. and post in your lovely views.......😛

Yes, will do that ......😊

Indu has become orphan in Bidai....He was singing the other day "Dost...dost na raha....pyar...pyar na raha.."😆