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to add to arshi's synopsis...in Amar Prem they did not show any physical intimacy between Rakesh K & Sharmila...after a few scenes their relationship was depicted as more platonic & meeting of minds ...
@smrth...mystery is solved...it was her choice ...poore hosha hawaas mein...
But I do want to express a major misgiving that I have restrained so far in some token disagreements only, normally as an avoidance and also as a deference to the 'opinions'- so to say.The prevailing refrain is 'Her willing 'choice' in opting to marry'. 'Her wounded 'pride' in her 'choice' to marry'. In short, Her 'hasty' (and!) 'decision'!! None of this has a just base in objective facts that narrative is presenting (even much more NOT SO in the source). A one easy finger is, "but she did marry 'in spite of' her being a modern, decisive, adult person, 'that she is'. It becomes a 'choice' and 'decision'."...Can't see a logic more twisted to browbeat entire portrayal of the narrative... Questions are; 1) was she decisive? And even more 2) 'was it her choice?'...The back episodes clearly showed; a) an inert numbness after the fatal stab. And b) it was her complete submission to what her father is 'deciding' for her. Her father's honour and family's compulsion. She was accepting what is being 'thrust' on her as dead acceptance. There was a specific dialogue on her,' bapu janha kahenge...' And VC had avowed, 'Kumud shall get married on the same day.' Also,"meri zindgi ka faisala me nahi...and 'i have no dream now, i would only fulfil parents' wish and guidance..." A two way thrust, imposed on her by a reneging suitor and panicked father. How do one take away any liability from these two 'deciding' forces??As for 'choice', when since a dead acceptance/ submission- like a doomed person unable to maintain foothold under force of flood torrent- would be deemed a choice?! Two scenes are enough- her indifference to see the photograph of 'choice'. And her inability to participate any ritual in the marriage- so much that a parent had to come and nudge her onwards.What a convolution? A culprit who individually alone has opened a floodgate, is granted lee way of a 'past trauma rendering him incapable of rationale' and hence not truly culpable of the 'action'. But victim of that flood- because she is 'adult' and happened to be in the way of an unleashed flood- is actually a culprit for allowing that flood to sweep her away! Amazing. 'Decision' and Choices?! Indeed.
As a rejoinder, quoting the original post from CB 7/8 that we were discussing. Also, let me reiterate the context that I was countering- Kumud's wilful 'haste' and 'self infliction' Decision! For which she is responsible herself...😕
Originally posted by: pasumarthisa
We talked a lot about social stigma. I said social stigma arising from a called off alliance is like an acute illness. While Kumud's heartbreak is like a chronic ailment. the acute one needs to be addressed right away. Its a huge thing in that village setting. And kumud did exactly that. And with the right thought. She was much more responsible than her father. The CVs might not think so, most of the audience might not. But I just cant take the blame away from VC.
- all the concerns kumud highlighted in yesterday's epi about her family's prestige, her siblings laughed out and tainted by society are very real issues even now
...and prestige is not being highlighted here in a superficial way...it is about
- her father's standing in society / 'prathista'
- his pride / self respect
- his keeping one's head high
- his social parity with his peers in society and family
- his having to answer questions about his method of upbringing of his children
- his having to defend kumud's character
- his own lifetime of guilt for screwing up kumud's life (he had said yes both times - once to LN and once to saras)
- tremendous pressure to explain the why and why not for kumud and for the other kids
- his being the only head of the joint family
- his being reduced to a laughing stock - do baar topi pehnaya LN ke family mein
I suggest all of us try to internalize and feel if we can allow our father reduced to this!!!
There is a also subtle strategy catering another contingency. For her, much serious and grave...a devoted daughter's valiant attempt to take away onus of 'decision' from a majorly erring father. For can we honestly believe this subtle 'usurpation of the 'coat and tie' that squarely 'belongs' to a - repeat- majorly erring father?!..her conscious or subconscious Preemptive move; she would soften a body blow of 'realisation' and absolution to a sinking father in whatever degree of mitigation that she may recoup. (objective base; her fierce protection of her father throughout the story. And, "Pramaad ki galtiyon ke liye apne ma bapu ke paas ansu nahi bahaogi") Also, we will see this when VC will start showing 'regret' and lament in her presence.
Originally posted by: happychappy
Disclaimer - I know I'm going to be on the losing side here, but knowing CB-wale, atleast I wont get lynched...😃Santhi's use of imagery above inspired this "Guru-Sishya ki kahaani"...Think of Kumud as the teacher. and Saras is her student; instinct tells her he is Special 🤓, but...Saras fails the pre-Term Test😳, and K forms a poor opinion of him. (swaarthi, darpok, rishton se bhaagnewaala.)🤔During the course of the term, Saras gets many lessons, and his performance in the continuous assessments shows remarkable improvement, the graph has a few stutters, but is mostly a steep rising curve. 😊 Wow, Kumud is delighted 😃 to have found a star-student, who shines in all his subjects and is so popular as well as hardworking and always tries to keep teacher's smile (and pride) intact.If anyone needs reminding, the tests included:- Saving boy from pond- Saving K's father's from the fire in the kaarkhaana👍🏼- Playing Hide-and seek with K to see her face- Saving K's kite from *that* pond- Saving K's brother and family from the fall-out of his bad driving..😆- Learning to make pots, sell pots, etc. etc.- Learning all about special RN etiquette as in chaar-kadam-ki-doori🤢- Saving K from rioting crowd in Town- Learning to dance the garba while relentlessly compared with K's bachpan ke dost- Applying mehndi, haldi, etc, etc.- Proposing to K in front of a hall full of family and neighbours👏- Saving K's family from elopement of youngest daughter with a married man..⭐️- Keeping above test a secret to help K's family⭐️⭐️- **Genda Phool night**🤬- Defending K's honour when GP night news reaches the Local Spy 🤗- Giving ICT lesson in Video-conferencing for K's family😊- Saying Good-Bye at any cost before leaving for Dubai- Decorating room in K's then to-be sasuraal to delight and re-assure ❤️- Kadva Chauth Test❤️❤️Unfortunately, Saras fails the main Board exam ... Turning up for the Shaadi!In fact he called Teacher the night before exam and mumbles some gobbledygook about how after all the efforts both of them had made for so many months, he is no longer interested in appearing!!😡Kumud the teacher then unhappily (and insanely) tears up all the assessment sheets and burns the shreds. She goes back to the pre-term Test result..."kamzor, darpok, rishton se bhaagnewaala"😲She declares Saras has failed the exam, and let Her down... But nobody questions her as to how, why the hard-working student who showed stellar credits in all the assessments should be declared a faiiure!
As usual precise, clinical analysis in broken lines.👏And reflecting a relevant 'seize' she is affecting (from p7)...To what effect, as an individual viewer, attempting a personal impression...As a seppaku committing Samurai wrote somewhere-"My Life, came like dewdisappears like dew.All of Naniwais dream after dream."But she is firmly planted in 'reality'. She is a fighter and 'rejuvenator'...Will coup water even from the 'dews'.She is attempting her own resurrection...unless that pivotal point.
