Age differences b/w couples - Page 2

well i always find it weird, and sort of feel awkward when i watch such stuff. but maybe its just me! i guess the person needs to be understanding and caring, thats what matters.

Originally posted by: Kal El

I wanted to point out that in Episode 2, Isha said that her dad is 55 years old and that Naina is approximately 20 years younger than him, putting her at around 35 years old.

The "she'll be 67 when you're 80" statement does put Huzeifa at 32 but then Rohan could have been exaggerating. Or maybe not. Besides, just because they were in college together doesn't mean they are of the same age. Maybe Huzeifa was their senior? Maybe he took a break after school and started college late? Who knows. Maybe it's a little goof-up by the script writer. 😆

I think ultimately it depends on the couple. As long as they are both mature and their "wavelengths" match up like nureat101 said, it should work out fine. I admit though that Surina's case did bother me a bit, not because of the age difference itself but because she's 19. A bit too young. Let's see where their relationship goes.

Originally posted by: ftm_ca

I guess, it's the maturity of the two people in question that becomes the make or break factor.

Originally posted by: nureat01

Yes, this is what I think too. And yeah, Sureena's motivations are yet to be seen fully....time will tell I guess....

Originally posted by: cute2stay

Very interesting topic Anu. :)

Lol this is something I bhais about with my mom everytime I watch this show with her. And she is absolutely against a huge age gap, and more specifically older people dating or getting married. And that is also one of the reasons she doesn't like this show much, but interestingly enough she still sits down to watch it with me every week!!! lol so I think maybe she does find the show a little interesting. ;) lol Orrr...she's just bored....or wants to spend more time with me...(I doubt that's it because I usually kha her sar enough anyways).... orrr she likes the bhaisa-bhoosi with me. haha I think it's the show. :D LOL this sounds so cute, Pallo *pulls your cheeks* Actually my Mom loves the show too....even though she may not agree with or approve of some of the more 'controversial' things they show once in a while😆....but she enjoys it nevertheless....

....*ahem* sorrry for getting carried away there, but what I mean is that there's lots of people like my mom who are against age differences because of the way our society is shaped, epecially in India.Yes, absolutely....in general, most ppl do have a pretty conservative point of view about this situation....huge age gaps = strict no no....although ironically our history has sooooooooo many examples of men especially marrying women MUCH younger than them😆

Something I found really interesting in the show was when that older man with the grandson who had a crush on Isha....yeah you know who I'm talkin' about right? Well, when they showed him getting along with that woman in her 30's or whatever, and they seemed to be hitting it off really well. And then suddenly he calls her 'beta'!!! That came as such a surprise to me!! And no doubt it surprised that woman too..lol. I don't think she saw that coming at all. But I guess, that man's subconcious idea of a romantic partner was someone around his age only. Even though he stated outwardly that he was fine with someone in their 30's, inside his head he actually wasn't at all. I guess it's just the way our society is shaped. The societal influence was really heavy in that man's subconcious mind, so he would automatically regard women much younger than him as his children. That whole perspective was shown SOOO well in that episode I thought! I guess the man was really lonely after his wife passed away and needed a friend more than a romantic attachment first. But I guess he just could not look at women much younger than him in that way at all. I LOVED how they showed this too....it was such an unexpected moment but you can't help but empathize with the poor guy so much.....yes I also think that he subconsciously was not fully comfortable with the idea of dating a woman that much younger than him and his blurting out 'beta' in that moment was sort of the wake up call that made him realize that while he can socialize and chat with someone that way otherwise, when it comes to an actual relationship, he does feel that much older than them....they reinforced this by later showing him wondering if the women he would be meeting might turn out to be classmates of his sons from college....so it was quite an interesting take on this whole age gap situation I must say :-)

So I guess it's all about how you look at people. For example, my mom has told me many times that she just wouldn't look at a man in his 60's or older in that way. She would look at him like a father figure or an older man she should give respect to. And with someone much younger than her, she would regard him as a son. She would automatically compare him to her own kid's age, much like that man in the show reacted when he learnt that one of his potential matches graduated from the same college in the same year as his own son!! So I guess it's all about how you percieve that person! Most definitely it is....perception plays a huge part.

And especially our Indian culture is SOO built upon relationships. I mean we call our mom's friends aunties and our cousins are our brothers/sisters etc. So automatically when maybe an older man sees a younger woman, he would build that relationship in his head of an uncle and a beta. And similarily for a younger person looking at an older person, they may regard them as an uncle or aunty etc. and start making the connections to their own parents/grandparents etc.

Anyways, I hope I'm making some sense...I feel like I'm just rambling on....LOL no yaar, you're making complete sense....yes in Indian society especially, we give labels to all relationships very quickly....like anyone older in a certain age group, we would automatically call uncle or aunty😆....while in the west, ppl don't put those labels up that easily.....they usually just use names unless the are ACTUALLY related to a person😆

And in Huseifa and Sureena's case toh, Huseifa starts off with a romantic kind of a connection with Sureena even before knowing her real age. So after meeting with her, Huseifa is attracted to her personality and he likes spending time with her. It's only after he knows her age he starts thinking about society and people etc. And Sureena doesn't even ask Huseifa's age! So I guess to her it's irrelevant.Yes, Huzeifa was indeed first attracted to her warm personality which resonated through her voice on the phone....I guess he kinda fell in love with her voice in a way😆....and as of now, Sureena does seem to portray that age is irrelevant to her...let's see what they show in the future vis a vis how this relationship progresses😆

But in the end, it all depends on the two people involved. How those two people percieve and see each other. If two people can make that kind of connection, then I don't see why age should influence their love for each other. I mean if they both don't LOOK at each other with respect to their age, then I don't see how it can affect their love for each other. Then it just becomes a number. It's just when we associate certain norms and ideas about people with respect to their age that we start judging them accordingly. We expect a 60 year old person to behave a certain way, so we may look at him like a grandpa, or uncle whatever. So that's why other people/ society can never understand how people with such huge age gaps can fall in love, because they personally would not look at the older/younger person in that sense.

It's the same thing as how other people may not get what two people see in each other right? I think it's all about how and what we see in people that makes us close to them, connect to them and fall in love with them. What we see in someone, may not be visible to everyone else around them. :) Beautifully said, yaar👏👏👏👏.....I have nothing to add here, just agree with each and every bit of this especially!👏👏👏