Age differences b/w couples - Page 4

Originally posted by: zarmeeno

I think age matter really makes no difference as long u love, respect and trust each other and have the mental compatibility. Me and my husband has a 13 year age gap. I was 19 and he was 32 just Hunzeifa and Sureena. And mashllah it has been 16 years mashallah still going gr8. So for me age difference does not really matter and as far acceptance bu the socitey goes they do accept eventually and we can stop living coz of them. Kuch tu log kahain gay logoon ka kaam hai kehna. So

Very nicely said :-) It's nice to see a personal example being put forth here too....so you guys have the same age gap as Huzeifa-Sureena? Aww😆.....I agree with what you've said too....I think society would talk regardless but nibhaana toh individuals in question ko hi hota hai....so yes....kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna😆

I dont think age matters for people who truly love one another. Many of my aunts & uncles have a huge age gap.

but yeah, in today's time.. people do tend to make a huge issue over such things.

if you ask me, personally.. i dont think i would end with some1 even more than 2 or 3 years older/younger than me. lol. i tend to get well with ppl around my age. different people have different ways of taking it.

Originally posted by: nureat01

Thanks, Ritika :-)

Yes, I agree....a few generations ago...these huge differences were quite the norm....especially men being much older than the women they married....but in today's day and age, times have changed obviously....in the early times, a lot of ppl didn't really have a say in who they got married to either so I guess that made a difference as well. Thank heavens, that attitude is changing, although only in urban areas. I have seen a few cases where the wives were older than the husbands. What I fail to understand is society were okay with the 'chaddar dalnaa' custom, but is not okay when a older woman marries a younger man for love.

But I also agree that it's not necessary that ppl of the same age group would be mentally compatible either....these factors vary greatly from individual to individual.....some ppl may be mentally mature for their age while some might be quite immature for their age....mental maturity really doesn't necessarily come with age😆WORD.

Yeah, Sureena's case has all thinking currently if it's infatuation or something more lasting😕😆....let's see if we find out this Wednesday :-)

@Zarmeeno: Agree with you there. Kuch to log kahenge. One cannot just stop living, coz you cannot really please everyone. As long as the couple is happy, aur kya chahiye?

there's age that represents the number of years you've been alive and then, there's your true age. This is the age that best represents your level of maturity, what generation you best identify with, and perhaps even the kind of lifestyle you are living (home-body, party-er).

Obviously I don't condone relationships between people where one of them is a minor, but when everything is legal, it is up to the specific people and the way their personalities/lifestyles/maturity/interests match up with their partners. My motto in life, live and let live.

BTW, i neeeed to get caught up with this show. huzeifa has a woman? what?! lol

Personally, I would be very uncomfortable with a guy more than max. 5 yrs older to me!! bt then again i got friends who date older guys....one of my friends just married a guy tat was 17 yrs older than her!! I mean i was disgusted at the thought of it bt then again.....thats her life and at the end what matters is the happiness and love.
I think, even if i chose to date an older man or marry an older man...my family would be totally against it lol

But all in all, what matters is both the individuals, their feelings, their love, their happiness :)

While the point about Isha's dad and Naina being mature individuals in an adult relationship who entered knowing the potential consequences is a very valid one...there was an additional point that I remember my mum once brought up when we were talking about people marrying nearly outside of a generation. Perhaps it was when we were talking about catherine zeta-jones and michael douglas - I argued that they are happy together, make a gorgeous pair and have beautiful children - so what's the harm. My mum agreed to my argument but said - what about 20 years later? They might still be madly in love, but looking at the very practical aspect of life expectancy - the much older partner is likely to pass away well before the other. What then? While I know that life and death is unpredictable and love isn't about practicality alone - I couldn't completely refute my mum's point either

As for Huzeifa and Sureena - I didn't really see her as a gold digger but inspite of her apparent maturity, she is still a starry eyed teenager who is obviously flattered by all the attention huzeifa, a fairly powerful and intelligent man is giving her.

Originally posted by: PyaarSe

there's age that represents the number of years you've been alive and then, there's your true age. This is the age that best represents your level of maturity, what generation you best identify with, and perhaps even the kind of lifestyle you are living (home-body, party-er).

Obviously I don't condone relationships between people where one of them is a minor, but when everything is legal, it is up to the specific people and the way their personalities/lifestyles/maturity/interests match up with their partners. My motto in life, live and let live.

BTW, i neeeed to get caught up with this show. huzeifa has a woman? what?! lol

Well said, Roz....especially the bolded bit👏

LOL yeah, Huzeifa got a love interest....lol....you really need to catch up😉😆

Originally posted by: *Adorable_Anu*

I dont think age matters for people who truly love one another. Many of my aunts & uncles have a huge age gap.

but yeah, in today's time.. people do tend to make a huge issue over such things.

if you ask me, personally.. i dont think i would end with some1 even more than 2 or 3 years older/younger than me. lol. i tend to get well with ppl around my age. different people have different ways of taking it.

I agree, Anmol....different ppl have different ways of taking it.....

off topic....L.O.V.E the PM siggy you're using😍....that's one of my all time fav ones! Sidra did SUCH an amaaaaaaazing job with it!

Originally posted by: cloudz

While the point about Isha's dad and Naina being mature individuals in an adult relationship who entered knowing the potential consequences is a very valid one...there was an additional point that I remember my mum once brought up when we were talking about people marrying nearly outside of a generation. Perhaps it was when we were talking about catherine zeta-jones and michael douglas - I argued that they are happy together, make a gorgeous pair and have beautiful children - so what's the harm. My mum agreed to my argument but said - what about 20 years later? They might still be madly in love, but looking at the very practical aspect of life expectancy - the much older partner is likely to pass away well before the other. What then? While I know that life and death is unpredictable and love isn't about practicality alone - I couldn't completely refute my mum's point either

That's a valid point....on a romantic level, maybe ppl would say that just because there is a possibility of the older person passing away first doesn't mean you forsake your love and the happiness you get from it.....but I also think life and death are unpredictable like you said....who knows what can happen in the blink of an eye and change everything around....maybe that could be the only chance at happiness they have....would they forsake that just because of suppositions about who could die first? So the point is there ofcourse.....but it can argued both ways I guess.....I think my Mom would say the same thing your Mom said too😆....