Age differences b/w couples - Page 3

Originally posted by: ftm_ca

I might be (and most probably am) totally off on this but, but there was a minute second in the show when I thought she was just a gold-digger. Why else would she so readily sit, have a drink, and then waltz off to an exhibition with someone she had only talked with on the phone? Of course, it's not as if Huzeifa is a big-shot, but she must know that he is the CEO of a company and that might have been a point of attraction for her.

Originally posted by: nureat01

now I wonder if I'm being gullible like Isha here😆.....

On a random note, at one point I even vaguely wondered if Ruchika-Huzeifa would be paired up in the show😆😆

Originally posted by: ftm_ca

Wouldn't that be fitting?

Ruchika-Huzeifa, I think they just might 😛 Wouldn't that be a surprise considering her usual taste in men? They've had quite a few storylines together, like the iPod and dress code ones. And in the latter, he seemed to be quite effected by her state of dress, so maybe, just maybe :P

Originally posted by: nureat01

okay so here goes my first post in this forum 😆 Welcome to the forum, Tasha!😊 Thank you 😃

i couldn't resist this post because it was something that was on my mind as well when i saw the episode (and in the episode where the elderly gentleman finally finds his match - can't remember the date atm [LOL)] . Oh yes, I think it was among the very first epis....or the first epi itself possibly....I think his name was Haldiram and he really weirded Isha out😆...only for her to discover later on that her father himself was dating a much younger woman😆... and actually this is a topic i often discuss with my friendsahh yes Haldiram - thank you - couldn't remember his name and was too lazy to go watch the episode again to re-learn it 😆

in huzeifa and sureena's case .... I think it kinda does and doesn't ..... I mean she's 19 ..... three years ago she was 16 and huzeifa was 29 ...... when you think of it that way ........ it seems inappropriate imho - not to mention illegal 😕 ....... but obviously they didn't meet then ..... but if they had ........ it would have been a different story all together ...... Very true....THAT would have made things QUITE creepy😆....so timing is quite important too then obviously...the moment and setting in which you meet the person in question makes the difference. yes exactly - timing -. something I forgot to mention previously in terms of timing - as rohan was making fun of huzeifa about what the age difference would be when they got older - I realized that I didn't find it as bad when they were both past 50 (i.e. 67 and 80 doesn't seem so bad to me because it reminds me of generations past where age differences like this were more common so I didn't find that age difference that big of a deal .... so again timing ... if they met in their old age and wanted to have each other as companions I don't think I'd have thought as much about the age difference then 🤔 ... thank you for summing what I was saying up 😆 ... in my rambling last night I wasn't able to put things down the way I wanted but I'm glad you got what I meant 😆


it comes down to the people involved .......... isha's dad and naina are both mature and seem to understand the implications of the age difference between them as we've seen with naina being understanding about what isha might be going through and not wanting to change her dad etc Exactly....especially in this case of Isha's dad and Naina....I think it's a very crucial point that Naina is a grown woman in her 30s....not exactly a girl anymore....she's a mature, grown woman....so despite the fact that there is a gap of 25+ years b/w her and Isha's dad, she's not exactly immature despite the age difference.....they are both fully grown, mature adults....this actually vaguely reminds me of Tabu and Amitabh Bacchan's relationship from Cheeni Kum (one of my fav. movies actually....lol)....I LOVED how that relationship was shown to develop....they were both very much aware of their age differences but that didn't really matter cuz they both approached each other as adults....so while there aren't really any direct similarities to the movie, that age difference is similar....man in the 60s and woman in her early to mid 30s........I loved Cheeni Kum too 😃 ... and I agree .... with both individuals being mature adults the age difference is less important ..... it might be important for others .... like isha in r.com or paresh rawal's character in cheeni kum 😆 ...... but it is less of a hindrance for the two people involved (disclaimer: I'm sorry I'm not trying to be ageist for anyone reading this who is 19 and wants to hit me for generalizing ..... I'm just judging myself personally ..... no matter how mature I was when I was 19 - and I was pretty mature imho - I wouldn't have classified myself as a mature adult ..... I still might not 🤣- jk😳😆)

for sureena and huzeifa ...... i think the age factor alone can't be enough now to say whether or not it'll matter for them since at the moment i think their only common ground is technology ........ i think they need to figure out if they have enough else that they like about each other (or if that one thing is enough) before deciding whether or not they can move past the age difference Again a very good point....yes their relationship is at a very nascent stage at this point....they have just met and found one common ground to bond over...he's obviously smitten😆....she seems to find him cute too😆....but ultimately time will tell where this relationship goes....as of now, they haven't shown Sureena's viewpoint about their age difference directly...so let's see😆
exactly .... I don't know why but I see huzeifa (in the near future) seeing this as his chance at finding "the one" and sureena seeing it as "hey I'm only 19 ... why not go out with the guy" ..... again maybe I'm being ageist or judgmental but I think huzeifa is at that stage in his life where he's looking for someone more permanent and sureena is still at that stage in her life where she isn't looking at commitment just yet .... she might be mature in every other aspect but she might not exactly be ready to move ahead in something knowing the other person is looking at long term plans as she isn't even 20 years old yet ..... or maybe I'm reading too much into huzeifa's viewpoint 🤔 .....😆

okay now i'm rambling 😆

i don't think age difference as a factor in a relationship can be classified as relevant or irrelevant without looking at what that relationship is based on ....... so i guess i can't say that age is only a number but i can't say age is everything either🤔 I agree....the answer lies somewhere in the middle I guess😆....relationships are complex anyways....it's hard to determine what factors would be relevant in what context.

again ... thank you ... you summed it up much better than I was able to last night 😆

alright i'm gonna stop this long, rambling, inconclusive post now 😆 - i'm sorry if i didn't make any sense 😳

thanks for bringing this up anu (anu right?) and btw i also love the bones avis everyone else is mentioning (sorry the bones fan in me couldn't resist mentioning that) 😆 Yep, it's Anu....have we met before?😕...Sorry I don't know your name, but your ID is seeming vaguely familiar....dunno why😆....oh yay, another Bones fan! Very nice to meet you then!😆....your avi is from Castle, right?

I don't think we've met as in having actually interacted with each other (I can't remember if we have 😆) but I was an active member of the DMG forum (well I was a long time ago 😆) .... and an active silent reader of the mjht forum 😆 ... that's why I kinda remembered your name ..... you may know me from there but my username was different back when I was superactive in the DMG forum (you might have seen/read some of my posts but I'll stay on topic here and not discuss those 😆) ....... and yup I'm a big bones fan 😃 and it is very nice to meet you ... formally I guess 😆 - too ...... and yes my avi is a scene from the first season of Castle 😃

agree completely with ftm_ca and Kal El and indiandoll89 ..... I kinda was trying to say the same thing .... but again I tend to ramble and you both said it much more succinctly ..... more than age it is the maturity and basis of the relationship of the individuals in question

and I totally agree with cute2stay about the whole Indians (I guess South Asians in general) giving relations to people you've just met thus making age differences and relationship titles often dictating relationship statuses ....... on a side note ........ I just remembered that lately I've seen female leads calling male leads "bhaiya or bhaisaab" before the whole love story starts ......... sorry that was random but a scene from another show just popped into my head when I was reading your response 😆

and I would also like to see a Ruchika-Huzeifa track 😊

Originally posted by: nureat01

@Tasha: Ahh a former member of the DMG forum?? lol....no wonder...maybe I did read your posts back then...that forum seems to work like the six degrees of seperation in many ways....lol....

😆 fortunately or unfortunately ........yes it does 😕 😆

Anyways, back to topic.......yes I also think Huzeifa might be expecting more from this relationship than Sureena soon in the future and she might be the one to say, 'Hey I'm just 19-20....I've got my whole life ahead of me' etc. etc...OR she could turn out to be a gold digger like Fatty (ftm_ca) is suggesting....LOLL....maybe we'll find out this Wednesday :-)

also a very possible outcome - especially based on isha's reaction upon hearing sureena's reaction to huzeifa's picture in the article he told her to read ..... isha's reaction seemed to suggest that she didn't think sureena was interested in the same way huzeifa was ...... so we will have to tune in on wednesday - hopefully more people will do that in the trp-measuring zones that "matter" in India and r.com will get a much deserved-boost in rating 😃

Originally posted by: Tasha1985

also a very possible outcome - especially based on isha's reaction upon hearing sureena's reaction to huzeifa's picture in the article he told her to read ..... isha's reaction seemed to suggest that she didn't think sureena was interested in the same way huzeifa was ...... so we will have to tune in on wednesday - hopefully more people will do that in the trp-measuring zones that "matter" in India and r.com will get a much deserved-boost in rating 😃

Originally posted by: -Ritika-

Interesting topic, Anu.

A couple of generations ago, huge age differences were a norm. I remember my grand aunts being almost 10-15 years younger than their husbands. And a few even lived to see their 50th anniversary. In today's day and age, age difference does matter, up to a point. It has more to do with social acceptance than a personal choice. But it is not necessary that people of the same age would be mentally compatible.

Coming to the show, Ashok-Naina relationship seems more lasting than Huzeifa-Sureena's. For the reasons most of you mentioned. They are more mature. And for Sureena, it may just be an infatuation. Not sure 😕