Prateeksha and Shahshanks love is wrong - Page 3

Originally posted by: Uk_Princez

Just read all the commets posted, ok so you guys are saying that it's ok for someone to fall in love with someone else whilst engaged becuase they are "discovering there relationship", aren't you supposed to do all the "discovering" before getting engaged? there's no such thing as commitment whilst being engaged then? it's right to say that when your engaged you can basically wonder around other people, looking for love?
I have to say that i strongly disagree with that, it's just simply wrong!!

I agree that he is not having an affair, however telling his employee that he loves her etc etc, is still inappropriate...saying that the circumstances are wrong is not a good enough excuse.

By telling sumo that he doesn't love her, doesn't show that he is on the right path...it just shows that he is ready to hurt sumo to get his love.

Shahshank said from the start that he will NOT love sumo, and sumo still agreed to get married to him, so she knows what she's getting herself into, so by rejecting sumo and saying he did it for her own good would just be riddiculous.

and about Prateeksha having to get married to Prashant, well i've only got one thing to say in regards to that, Prateeksha is an independent indiviudal, she has the right to make her own choices, she is not being forced to get married to Prashant, she is doing it willingly, and saying that she is doing it for sumo is wrong, there are many other ways in which she can prevent herself from coming between them two...she could leave Shahshanks house, leave town etc etc.

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner

I can't see Shashank and Sumo being the right mates! Coercion, parental pressure and suicide threats cannot form the basis of a strong relationship, let alone a marriage which is a far more binding commitment than a mere relationship. Yes, Shashank made a mistake by bowing to pressure, but as Winston Churchill once said "All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from their mistakes."

Isn't it better that Shashank has realised that he can't go through life, living a lie with Sumo? Isn't it better for Sumo to have her heart broken now than live the rest of her life with a man who does not love her and hankers after another woman? Is it better to live a life based on a lie and an obligation, just because you said so once, rather than rectifying that mistake?

Of course, it is heartbreaking to know that the man you love, loves someone else, but should it really be a surprise for Sumo who knows that Shashank never loved her nor will ever love her as he had clearly explained this to her before agreeing to marry her?

Is this then really love for Shashank or a child's petulance that demands that what she wants should be hers no matter what the cost? To want to marry a man who you know does not and will not love her is like a child demanding a toy in the show window that is way too old for it – the child gets no joy from it other than the thrill of knowing that she now possesses it. Desire to marry Shashank arises out of Sumo immature desire to "have" Shashank because she's decided that she desires him, unmindful of what Shashank wants – that's not love, that's acquisition...

As for Shashank and Prateeksha, yup, it's unfortunate that he acknowledged his love only once he was committed but perhaps this was the catalyst needed to make him realise that marrying due to all the wrong reasons can lead to nothing but Heartbreak Street for everyone around. What is it they say? "Marry in haste and repent at leisure"!

Originally posted by: Uk_Princez

Just read all the commets posted, ok so you guys are saying that it's ok for someone to fall in love with someone else whilst engaged becuase they are "discovering there relationship", aren't you supposed to do all the "discovering" before getting engaged? there's no such thing as commitment whilst being engaged then? it's right to say that when your engaged you can basically wonder around other people, looking for love?
I have to say that i strongly disagree with that, it's just simply wrong!!

I agree that he is not having an affair, however telling his employee that he loves her etc etc, is still inappropriate...saying that the circumstances are wrong is not a good enough excuse.

By telling sumo that he doesn't love her, doesn't show that he is on the right path...it just shows that he is ready to hurt sumo to get his love.

Shahshank said from the start that he will NOT love sumo, and sumo still agreed to get married to him, so she knows what she's getting herself into, so by rejecting sumo and saying he did it for her own good would just be riddiculous.

and about Prateeksha having to get married to Prashant, well i've only got one thing to say in regards to that, Prateeksha is an independent indiviudal, she has the right to make her own choices, she is not being forced to get married to Prashant, she is doing it willingly, and saying that she is doing it for sumo is wrong, there are many other ways in which she can prevent herself from coming between them two...she could leave Shahshanks house, leave town etc etc.

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner

I can't see Shashank and Sumo being the right mates! Coercion, parental pressure and suicide threats cannot form the basis of a strong relationship, let alone a marriage which is a far more binding commitment than a mere relationship. Yes, Shashank made a mistake by bowing to pressure, but as Winston Churchill once said "All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn from their mistakes."

Isn't it better that Shashank has realised that he can't go through life, living a lie with Sumo? Isn't it better for Sumo to have her heart broken now than live the rest of her life with a man who does not love her and hankers after another woman? Is it better to live a life based on a lie and an obligation, just because you said so once, rather than rectifying that mistake?

Of course, it is heartbreaking to know that the man you love, loves someone else, but should it really be a surprise for Sumo who knows that Shashank never loved her nor will ever love her as he had clearly explained this to her before agreeing to marry her?

Is this then really love for Shashank or a child's petulance that demands that what she wants should be hers no matter what the cost? To want to marry a man who you know does not and will not love her is like a child demanding a toy in the show window that is way too old for it ' the child gets no joy from it other than the thrill of knowing that she now possesses it. Desire to marry Shashank arises out of Sumo immature desire to "have" Shashank because she's decided that she desires him, unmindful of what Shashank wants ' that's not love, that's acquisition...

As for Shashank and Prateeksha, yup, it's unfortunate that he acknowledged his love only once he was committed but perhaps this was the catalyst needed to make him realise that marrying due to all the wrong reasons can lead to nothing but Heartbreak Street for everyone around. What is it they say? "Marry in haste and repent at leisure"!