INTERCAST MARRIAGES - Page 3

Originally posted by: souro

Now this's truly a scientific POV, and who else but QT should give it.

I support inter-caste marriage, as I don't see any problems in that. As for inter-religion marriage, I won't say that I don't support it but there is only one hitch. Marriage doesn't mean you think about 'you & I', there are a lot of people involved, and if your marriage puts your near ones in danger (which inter-religion marriage many times does), then it's prudent not to go for it.

That' s a mighty big hitch Soumya! Not just inter-religion, but even intra-religion yet inter-REGION poses a huge threat to harmonious union of two loving souls.. 😭 Some people learn the truth behind myth of unity in diversity during that period of time. But luckily, love conquers it all if you fight strong 😳.. People create troubles even after, but one can learn to dodge them on the bumpy ride.. 😆

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

That' s a mighty big hitch Soumya! Not just inter-religion, but even intra-religion yet inter-REGION poses a huge threat to harmonious union of two loving souls.. 😭 Some people learn the truth behind myth of unity in diversity during that period of time. But luckily, love conquers it all if you fight strong 😳.. People create troubles even after, but one can learn to dodge them on the bumpy ride.. 😆

QT, I'm talking about sometimes but not uncommon violent reaction that the society shows towards an inter-religion marriage, even if the two families involved are in agreement and don't have any problems. What if my parents face threats from the society, should I still go for it, and will it be right to make them face such inconvenience?? Even if the couple leaves that place and moves somewhere else, the society sometimes persecutes the parents for their support, so will it be right to leave them facing the society?? Or will it be right to ask them to leave everything behind and move to somewhere else?? IMO it's not right to make your parents pay such a high price just because you want to be with your preferred partner.

Originally posted by: souro

QT, I'm talking about sometimes but not uncommon violent reaction that the society shows towards an inter-religion marriage, even if the two families involved are in agreement and don't have any problems. What if my parents face threats from the society, should I still go for it, and will it be right to make them face such inconvenience?? Even if the couple leaves that place and moves somewhere else, the society sometimes persecutes the parents for their support, so will it be right to leave them facing the society?? Or will it be right to ask them to leave everything behind and move to somewhere else?? IMO it's not right to make your parents pay such a high price just because you want to be with your preferred partner.

Originally posted by: souro

QT, I'm talking about sometimes but not uncommon violent reaction that the society shows towards an inter-religion marriage, even if the two families involved are in agreement and don't have any problems. What if my parents face threats from the society, should I still go for it, and will it be right to make them face such inconvenience?? Even if the couple leaves that place and moves somewhere else, the society sometimes persecutes the parents for their support, so will it be right to leave them facing the society?? Or will it be right to ask them to leave everything behind and move to somewhere else?? IMO it's not right to make your parents pay such a high price just because you want to be with your preferred partner.

Well that would be like running away from the problem. If anything we need to change the so called "Society". If we had displayed the same attitude earlier towards other social evils, god knows what would have happened to this country. If we do what you have suggested then things will never improve and barriers will never break, don't we all want to see an equitable society which does not see people through the prism of caste/religion? BTW, I think this "society" rection is the overblown, it maybe a problem is some parts but generally no-one gives a damn who you marry (not that they should).

Originally posted by: SolidSnake

Well that would be like running away from the problem. If anything we need to change the so called "Society". If we had displayed the same attitude earlier towards other social evils, god knows what would have happened to this country. If we do what you have suggested then things will never improve and barriers will never break, don't we all want to see an equitable society which does not see people through the prism of caste/religion? BTW, I think this "society" rection is the overblown, it maybe a problem is some parts but generally no-one gives a damn who you marry (not that they should).

Originally posted by: SolidSnake

Well that would be like running away from the problem. If anything we need to change the so called "Society". If we had displayed the same attitude earlier towards other social evils, god knows what would have happened to this country. If we do what you have suggested then things will never improve and barriers will never break, don't we all want to see an equitable society which does not see people through the prism of caste/religion? BTW, I think this "society" rection is the overblown, it maybe a problem is some parts but generally no-one gives a damn who you marry (not that they should).

And how will you change the society when both you and your family are dead?? It's all well and good to think about changing the society, but if you don't have that much power, society will change you and finish you first. You think the reaction is overblown, go to a rural area where Muslims make a sizeable part of the population and ask any Hindu guy to marry a Muslim girl, where the girl have to become a Hindu and then tell me if you still feel that way. This kind of marriages happen very rarely that's why the incidents also are rare.

Originally posted by: mermaid_QT

It is rare deepak, but not non-existent. It happend just a couple years ago that the angry villagers killed both bride and groom.. Things happen.. S-h-i-t happens...

Yes, such incidents do happen in villages. But it is not as if things ain't changing even in villages, things are definitely a lot better than say 20-30 years ago though a lot still needs to change. But atleast we guys should think beyond caste/religion.

Originally posted by: souro

And how will you change the society when both you and your family are dead?? It's all well and good to think about changing the society, but if you don't have that much power, society will change you and finish you first. You think the reaction is overblown, go to a rural area where Muslims make a sizeable part of the population and ask any Hindu guy to marry a Muslim girl, where the girl have to become a Hindu and then tell me if you still feel that way. This kind of marriages happen very rarely that's why the incidents also are rare.

Arre, I was primarily talking about urban India. Yes, in rural areas situation is still complex. But that still does not take away my right to marry somone irrespective of caste/religion provided we both agree. Inter-caste and religion marriages are happening in India, and "we" should be infact applauding them.