Faisla Karne kaa Adhikaar - Page 7

Originally posted by: venture

Rajni being a wife did not agreed to Inder,s move and it was granted, but Suhana saying that she doesnt want to move to Mumbai was shssht , as Ishaan wanted that, did Inder had no ambitions to move forward. I think CV forgot themsleves what they said or did earlier.

Originally posted by: venture

Tejesh once you are out of your country , there is no going back, I am telling you from my experience , successful or not , you get use to of the comforts , also depends where you go ! but thinking that once you are abroad its all rosy rosy , its not , they make you work like dogs and there is no loyalty , I have seen from both both sides, from employees side, and employers as well, in quite a lot of things, goras needs to learn from us, just as we need to learn from them, in our culture , most of the people are loyal to there company or to owners , here they dont care , all in the name of employees right !! ready to sue at the first opportunity.

Regarding my point for Suhana, I knew I would hear that !! but I had to say it ! Even if Inder was going alone, he was going for a year to train and he could have said what Ishaan said , but he didnt , his priority was different then Ishaan just like Ishaan. It all depends on your priorities, we cant have everything, we loose one or the other at some stage, those who are successsful in there own country , I honestly envy them and salute there hard work ( or Inherritence )

Originally posted by: tejeshec

As u said aunty, it must be true in most of the cases. But I have seen my uncles staying true to their word and coming back after 5 years of work abroad. It all depends on the individual. As they say its easy to flow with the wind and do what the world is doing but still there are people who go against the wind and are still very happy and satisfied both professionally and personally.

Originally posted by: venture

reguser, good to see you after a long time, I remember reading your very interesting post last year. Savi , I fully agree with your points.

Sometimes we do want to say things and give our opinions as we get scared or shy that we will be shussht by every one, Rano feels the same as most of the time she cant convey the message clearly, but so many times her worries and analyses were right , e.g regarding Suhana earlier, she was worried about how she would adjust coming from rich background, it was a very valid and practicle point, there were other ocassions too, she even picked Sona,s intervention in Suhana and Ishaan in one of the episode when Alok had a toothache. So her outburst was justified, because she was in so much pain, every mother is different, some are emotionally strong and let there children leave there nest with open mind, some dont, and you cant call them emotional , after all its there way of showing love, they cant bare there son to leave, so many examples around us. What we do is up to us , how we do is up to us, but people who cant let there children go should not be termed as emotional fool, or coming in the way of there success, success is not always about financial gains or position, people do well in there own city,s and country, so many examples. I am not pointing any fingers or anything, please dont take it that way, as I would do exactly what Alok and BM did for Ishaan, if a child wants to leave I would never stop, as if he has decided and I stop him , then rather then loving me the same way he would resent me all his life saying " Aap nay Mujhay Agay Bhadnay Nahi Diya " and that would be last thing I would like to hear.

It makes me so happy to have discussions like that, where we learn to agree to disagree.

I would really want all the discussions to be discussions not something else.

One more point I want to remind that during the first few episodes, Inder had to go to Germany for a year for training and after that he would have been promoted, Rajni got scared that he would not come back, BM overheard her and said that " Jo baap nay kiya zaroori nahi kay Baita bhi Karay" but she said to Inder that he should not go and Inder didnt go . What was that ????? Rajni being a wife did not agreed to Inder,s move and it was granted, but Suhana saying that she doesnt want to move to Mumbai was shssht , as Ishaan wanted that, did Inder had no ambitions to move forward. I think CV forgot themsleves what they said or did earlier.

Originally posted by: venture

Regarding Inder,s case, if Inder really wanted that , he would have made the family understand, but just like Alok, he changed his dreams to make the family,s dream come true, Ishaan wanted to go so he went, eventually he would have gone at some point.

Shillu, jee I fully agree with you, this dillema is really true, my heart really goes out to my Mother in law when she says good bi,s to her sons once they visit her for a week, 2 week 3 week in a year! my heart really melts, as I could see the pain, she never tried to stop any of her sons, all six of them , as they all made the decision themselves, and she was not part of it, as being a pure old style desi, father in law said fine and she was the last person to know.

I am mentally ready as well , one day my three would do exactly the same. This is life.

Originally posted by: venture

Tejesh once you are out of your country , there is no going back, I am telling you from my experience , successful or not , you get use to of the comforts , also depends where you go ! but thinking that once you are abroad its all rosy rosy , its not , they make you work like dogs and there is no loyalty , I have seen from both both sides, from employees side, and employers as well, in quite a lot of things, goras needs to learn from us, just as we need to learn from them, in our culture , most of the people are loyal to there company or to owners , here they dont care , all in the name of employees right !! ready to sue at the first opportunity.

Regarding my point for Suhana, I knew I would hear that !! but I had to say it ! Even if Inder was going alone, he was going for a year to train and he could have said what Ishaan said , but he didnt , his priority was different then Ishaan just like Ishaan. It all depends on your priorities, we cant have everything, we loose one or the other at some stage, those who are successsful in there own country , I honestly envy them and salute there hard work ( or Inherritence )