Originally posted by: myviewprem
That is whole issue
Getting independent involves lot of hard work and attempts
Like for normal human he should pass 10th than 12th than BE/MBBS/degree than masters degree ME/MD/Msc etc through very hard work and get 80-90% to get those degree
Than attend written exams in company and interviews than pass them (you may give 10 written test and interviews get only one job)
Than you get a job the hard way that too you are lowest trainee engineer or fresher doctor and from there you raise the ranks in 10 years after hard work you become a project manager or technical architect or doctor with specialization in heart or cancer etc only than you start getting benefits of studying BE/Mtech/MBBS/MD.
You have to do hard work from age of 5 years to 25 years just to get a degree than job even in job for 10 to 15 years you put 14 hours work a day than reach a manager or senior post with good salary only than you are considered success
And if you are a girl apart from working 14 hours in company you have to come cook and take care of aged parents, hubby, kids etc no rest at all. Its not a joke at all to work 12-14 hours in company and come home cook, take care of aged and kids etc which many indian women do (or even usa women but they work 8 hours a day )
Even in school/college girls come home and do house work than study unlike boys in india. Whether you study MBBS/BE you do house work if you are indian girl at home
Anupama says shes done lot of work 26 years at home honestly work she does all girls so plus work in office 12-14 hours a day in india in USA 8 hours work (in It company/hospitals)
But anupama has not done all this directly she got owner of multi million dollar company thanks to anuj kapadiya
No education required no interview no experience no written test no hard work at all
Even spice and chutney same no hard work at all to get job
Than no one values such jobs or puts effor
And no one respects such ppl too in company or life
Those who have got jobs hard way commoners know how much hard it is competition whether to get MBBS/BE/MTech seat in indian colleges or even US like MIT etc and how much marks and effort required to finish a degree in good marks than get a job on own without influence and to maintain that job and go up lader in life
Its not a joke required 3 decades of hard work from 5 years till 35 years just to reach some respectable post in life (without any influence on capability only)
There is lot of politics and under cutting not onluy in office but college too. You have to face all that and go up in life its not easy like anupama suddenly get hotel business sudden become CEO or owner of multi million company of others hard work
Ye Shahs hain. Gujrati hain. Business karne ko jyada importance dete hain. Is par North Indian Middle class parents ke dreams thop kar kuch expect karna bekar hai. Job market ka ye haal hai ki achhe khase padhe likhe, kafi talented log underemployment ki condition me hain. Hard work se kahin jyada social connection Kam karta hai. Hard work private sector me to staple hai. It's mandatory but not enough. You have to have great connection/luck.
But Anupamaa ek middle aged woman hai. Wo highly educated hoti to bhi bahut si cheeze irrelevant hoti. Haan ye show bahut bura hai. Lekin ganimat hai ki abhi inhone Anupama ko officer bante nahi dikha diya. TV shows me to kuch bhi ho jata ha!
Anupamaa is a great cook. Aur khana banane ka business India me achha chalta hai. Market ke down hone ka Restaurants par kafi asar padta hai lekin India ki food industry restaurants par nahi Dhaabo/thelo aur Dabba service par tiki hai.
Indian Government ki kai scheme hai jismein bahut aasani se women ko entrepreneur banne ke liye loan mil jata hai.
Devika aur Anuj ko Anupamaa ke dost hone ke naate Anupamaa ko khud ka chota food business shuru karne aur chalane me madad karni chahiye thi. Middle class insaan ke dost bhi middle class hi hote hain. Anuj ko billionaire CEO dikhana kahi se realistic nahi hai aur na hi right message hai.
Anupamaa ki kahani Wattpad aur tamam Visualnoves ka Sanskari version hi to hai, jaha ek nobody ko ekdam achanak se koi CEO mil jata hai aur wo usse pyar me pad jata hai.
Anuj aur Devika Anupamaa ko loan dilwane, kagaj banwane aur Logistic me help kar sakte the.
I believe... Anupamaa ko etna capable dikhaya gya hai (jabki mujhe ye show katai pasand nahi) ki wo apna Food business na sirf chala leti balki achha khasa profit kama leti.
Uska behaviour, mannerism aur persuasion ek achhe sales person hone me uski madad karta. Log waise bhi gaay si dikhne wali par himmat karne wali "Aunty G" me saath achhi hamdardi rakhte hain.
It's entirely possible kyonki aise kai kai real example hain.
Aur haan... Education ko etna overrate karne ki jarurat nahi hai. Aaj ke jamane me aise kai log hain jo achha khasa padhe hue hain, talented hain par apne standard jaisa job na paane ke baad Berojgar baithe Hain, abusive marriages me pade hue hain aur suicidal hain.
Degree education walo ki tulna me Blue collar job wale log lagatar kaam me lage hue hain aur kahin jyada Resilient hain.
Kai logo ko chota kaam karne me Sharm aati hai. Ultimately imandari se paisa kamana jaruri hai. Ab wo aap apni dukaan se kamaye ya fir naukari se! Kya fark padta hai?
Anupamaa ko financially independent hone ke baad ek NGO chalate hue dikha sakte the.
Lekin DKP ka focus kabhi bhi real empowerment par nahi hota. Wo women ko kitchen aur toxic relationships me hi limited rakhte hain. Unka Value system wahi hai.
Anupamaa Anuj se romance kar sakti thi, par uske liye usko fir se typical grihasthan banne ki jarurt nahi thi. Wo dono apne dhaaba business me partners ke taur par dikhaye ja sakte the.
Ye kya jaruri hai ki ham TV par aurat ko Tulsi Maiya aur Kanha ji se baat karte, bisurate hue hi dikhaye! Ambitious women ki kahani hi kaha dikhate hain?
Kisi bhi production house ka show utha lo... Kisi ladki ko raato raat kisi position par pahunchta dikha dete hain. Aur har story me contract marriage ghused dete hain.
Batao... Aisa kahi hota hai kya? Kaun sa Ameer Banda kisi lower class depressed ladki se shadi karta hai? Contract ho ya na ho... Har koi apni class me hi shadi karta hai unless ki wo bride ko khareed raha ho.
Matlab bada unrealistic hai. Isme issue ye nahi hai ki Anupamaa kis layak hai kis layak nahi. Kyonki frankly mujhe aise kisi ko leker ye kahna sahi nahi lagta ki alana pyar ke layak hai, falana nahi.
Lekin Sadly, duniya ke har desh me Class system naam ki ek cheez exist karti hai. Yaha to Caste system bhi hai. To isme ye mudda nahi hai ki kaun laayak hai, kaun laayak nahi.
Par Rich family ka sabse nalayak banda bhi Gareeb Ghar ki sabse layak bandi se byah nahi karega. Aisa kaha hota hai yaar?
To stories should be relatable especially in the romance genre. So that every woman could think about moving on. Lekin ye log to Cinderella story dikhane me busy hain. Cinderella hona kaha se koi achhi baat hai? Aur na hi Cinderella jaisi kahani ka aspiration rakhna healthy hai.
Apni aukaat me rahna, apni aukaat jitne sapne dekhna, uske liye mehnat karna aur mehnat karte karte apni Aukaat se kai step aage badh Jana...ye sab healthy bhi hai aur aspirational bhi.
Indian women me entrepreneurship capabilities ko maar diya jata hai, unhe waise groom hi nahi kiya jata. Ye sahi nahi hai ki female characters se aap "IAS/PCS/Lawyer/Doctor/Judge/Actor/Chef etc" banne ki ummed rakhe!
She could very well become a "Darji" and it's enough. Ye log lower middle class aur lower class women ki stories ko to dikhate hi nahi.
Inka set bhi upper middle class ke ghar jaisa hota hai aur festivals ke saare tam jham bhi waise hi hote hain.
Yaha bhi aisa lagta hai ki sare yaha NRI hi hain. Isliye outlook bhi inka waisa hi hai.
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