Episode 28: Pyaar Mein Samjhota Ya Samjhote Ka Pyaar - Page 3

after seeing the epsds i feel garv is not bad.... not good too.... he will be overprotective and possessive....

like seen in initial promos....

like a psycho hubby

hurt her n apply medicine

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Episode 28 Update

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Thoughts

Manikant was a total douche to Monica. His mentality that once she was wedded she had no rights over the family was so cringe. But I guess it also speaks to how deeply rooted his mind is in the system of patriarchy. I wonder if this line of thinking would be challenged when it comes to Titli and her maayka.

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Let me know what you all think!

so I haven't seen the last episodes including this one -- been a bit distracted but will get to it. but just wanted to post a comment regarding this. I will say this from experience that this type of mentality is a lot more complicated to explain than just a simple explanation of patriarchy.

let me share: when I started work, to my shock and surprise, I encountered girls who thought dowry was their right because it was the only time they get a share of the inheritance and so they wanted their piece of the pie because they won't get anything after their parents pass. the reason they gave me didn't compute.

I was like "what??????" as far as I knew, every member is entitled to a share including women. they kept saying that according to law, that wasn't the case. I was super confused but I was like "hang on, that is not what happens."

so what was the disconnect? -- in my community (religion/region/language) -- girls were being given a share for a number of years. we are still ridiculously entwined with each other even after marriage unless you move far away (like immigrate somewhere else). all members participate equally in the marriage function and there are specific roles for each to play. unless there are family politics, you can't be a close relative and play guest.

so while there is the acknowledgement that she now belongs to another family, people would not say generally that she is no longer part of the family. also, pragmatically, girls keep in touch with their family because they are the support when things go wrong.

of course if the family is dysfunctional, then it is a different story altogether... but generally these days, girls families are almost too involved in the marriage especially as most families are very small and so the parents make it a point to stay connected. this is what I am aware of.

however, in some parts of India, the way inheritance is technically done on the ground differs. frankly it was confusing to hear that because that wasn't my understanding of the law. but I don't know for sure because as I mentioned in another post, personal laws differ by community.

but here is what I was told: even now, there are some communities where people will say that according to custom, all the money is given at dowry in her time of marriage (think it is called sreedhan?) and she is not entitled to anything else. so the brother inherits the house, the land, the business.

they also said that once girl marries, there is a distance and not much connect with her family and she is only tied to the husband. she doesn't even get invites for family functions unless it is some big wedding and even there, she is only a guest.

I didn't get that and I was wondering if this is some sort of family dysfunction? or a genuine cultural difference disconnect? or a generational divide? or their chatter just a reflection of inheritance and wedding customs? or is it patriarchy? I don't have the answer. it is difficult to tell at times when you talk to folks because there can be multiple things happening.

so I haven't seen the episode but I am wondering why manikant would say this as a lawyer of all people. of course, dramas are at times stupidly written without coherence and with zero relation to life but if it had a semblance of reality, then one has to ask what exactly is his attitude towards monica based on.

After my marriage my bhabi told me that I am only a guest & don't have any right to speak anything about their ( my mayka ) family matters .

Originally posted by: NayaNehaD31

The iconic song used for Garv and 🦋 dream sequence ol

Ironic lol

Loll, since the sequence was from Titli's POV, sab acha aur theek hi hoga. 😆

And I have a feeling, aise bahut se iconic songs use karne wale hai. 😉

Imagine them dancing to Suraj Hua Maddham. ☺️

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Loll, since the sequence was from Titli's POV, sab acha aur theek hi hoga. 😆

And I have a feeling, aise bahut se iconic songs use karne wale hai. 😉

Imagine them dancing to Suraj Hua Maddham. ☺️

Originally posted by: Redflag

Beautiful analysis 👏

Pyaar mein samjhauta kar sakta hun per samjhaute ka pyaar nehi

Garv beta apne baat pe tike rehna shaadi ke baad

Whatever I have seen his love for Titli is pure but his anger will gonna hamper his married life

Titli ko bina gusse wala pyaar chahiye per Garv ka gussa humesa satvi aasman mein rehta hai Titli aajtak Garv ke gusse ko nazar andaaz karte aayi hai per after marriage dono saath mein rahenge tab Garv ke gusse ka andaaza hoga usko phir bg will Maine chaha Jesse woh ho hi nehi koi aur ho tum dheere dheere se utrenge rang gehre tere chehere pe kitne chehere

Titli ne ek episode mein kaha tha aise pyaar ka kya jise dekhke dar lane lage to woh shaadi ke baad Garv le gussa dekhke darne lagegi usse

I loved dream sequence of TiRv

They share amazing chemistry that's why I am addicted with them

If will go by their first scene to till now there are so many hints that they meant to be together so love story will painfull bcoz of his anger issue

Slowly they are disclosing Mehta family past

I am going with the flow baad mein jo hoga dekha jayega

One more thing yeh ladka jaise logo se ladhai karta rehta hai I won't be surprise uske dushmano ke tolly hongi

Titli only attracted to Garv which means after marriage she will deeply fall in love with him or someone else will come in her life

Thank you! ❤️

I think even after shaadi, his one true love hamesha Titli hi rahegi. Cuz even with his ex, it doesn't seem like he went full on deewana like he has with Titli. So for a long time, yeh compromises karta rahega apne pyaar mein (whatever he deems to be a compromise) but he will never be with someone whom he doesn't actually love.

See, Garv's anger is something that Titli needs to speak to him about. His family already has a bad impression of him (Kaka from the roadblock and the whole fam saw him beat the shit out of Sanket). As for Titli, she has seen him be angry and physically violent a few times now. Unless this is a trait that she had envisioned in her husband, I don't see how she can be okay with this.

Oh for sure! And it won't even just be Garv, but Manikant and Koyal are also always so triggered. Baat baat pe yeh teeno phatake ki tarah phootne lag jaate hai.

The dream sequence was really pyaara.

Lmaooo, that is so true! And for once, I wouldn't blame them for not liking the ML. Woh hai hi akdu types. 🤣

Loll, for Titli's sake I hope koi dusra na aaye. Varna uski love story shuru hone se pehle hi swaha ho jayega. 😆

Originally posted by: mesravz

Beautiful update Gur❤️

Titli dreams are more passionate than Garv love🤣🤣, my god this girl gone mad, such a close scene. She was not happy when every entered into her room🤣. She was still seeing Garv near the window😆 looks like Mehta family is Tin of worms🙄. Today Garv blurted out a lot, Manikanth even spoke some things which are not clear about koyal. But to tell frankly he is such a jerk 😤😤😤, how he yelled at his daughter and brother.Sadly like this people still exit( what he said about Monica). Titli 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ how your decision changed so quickly, girl still you are not clear what you want. Hiral just don’t do any kaand in jealousy 🤣 Garv will push you into ocean😱.

Thank you! ❤️

Sangat ka asar hai yeh toh jaani. ☺️

Lmao, yoon toh isse Garv har jagah milta rehta hai. Jahan nahi hai Titli ke dimaag ne fill in kar diya. 🤣

What I'm assuming is that at the time Koyal's family had something that would have greatly benefited the Mehtas. Hence, why Daadu had said that Koyal was the right choice at the time for the family. And it would make Garv's words true about the marriage being more of a deal than a desire.

Manikant was just after everyone. No matter who was in front of him, yeh sab ko kaat jaata. Both he and Garv are the same in that sense ki gusse mein aake jo mann mein bhak de dete hai and dusro ko blame karne mein maha maahir.

Loll, Hiral better take a back seat on this varna ussi ka bura haal hoga. 😂😂

Who was the guy in the poster? 🤣

Originally posted by: aaf311

Titli toh Puri ki tarah flip karti rehti hai

Idk what qualities she sees in Garv. Do they even know each other? What do they know except that one is a florist and the other is a lawyer? I think they're just extremely attracted to each other and are mistaking it for like or love, because so far they barely know anything about each other to even start liking.

Felt bad for Koyal today. I'm not surprised she's so bitter. Thought at least Maina or Daadu will comfort her but no. She'll take all this anger out on Titli.

I don't think Garv knows what happens behind his back everytime he misbehaves with his dad. If he did, he would be more mindful of his words maybe.

Ye har show mein hota hai na? ML hates his dad? Because he abuses his mom or left his mom for someone else? And then the FL gets married and fixes everything? Yup, bilkul wahi hoga yaha bhi.

Lmao, Titli ko kya dikhta hai?

Baaki sab hawa hai

That's what I was wondering too. Surely, after he was gone, he could hear the tamasha that was being carried on in the living room. And even if Koyal doesn't say what happens in the aftermath, uski behno ne toh batao hoga ki Manikant ne kya kiya. 🤔

Yup! Mujhe yeh jaana hai ki ITV ki FLs kaunsi college mein padhti hai jo free ki therapy baant thi rehti hai. 😆