Can a marriage survive without a child?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Leela was abusive toward Hashmukh, but, Hasmukh never divorced her as she was the mother of his child.

Vanraj emotionally tortured Anupamaa, but, she still stayed in that marriage because Vanraj was a good father to her kids.

A powerful woman like Rakhi Dave tolerated her jobless philander husband because she had a child with him.

An educated working woman is staying with her disloyal husband as he fathered her daughter.

MaAn's marriage fell apart the moment CA left them.

A relationship, no matter how much toxic it is, will survive if it is supported by a child, but a relationship, no matter how perfect it is, will die without a child. Can a couple only stay together if they have a child? Are spouses only a means to get children? Does the importance of a spouse fade without a child?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Well, I've been happily married to my love and this is our 7th year of togetherness..

We never consummated our marriage as am Erotophobic (Fear of Sex)..

We are still in love and our relationship grew stronger with each passing year.. Bcos there's

MUTUAL RESPECT, CARE & TRUST

My husband never felt the need of Sex or kid to keep us together..

We enjoy each other's company as we can be ourselves with each other without filters.. there's no fear of Judging..

Thats the trust you need in a relationship..

Inshort..

"LOVE" DOESN'T EXIST without Mutual Respect, Care and Trust..

But

"LOVE" DEFINITELY EXISTS without Kids and Sex..


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Posted: 2 years ago
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I have been married for 8 years now and do not have kids as IVF was the only option for me and I took a stand for myself that i will not get IVF done and spoil my health. My husband has been supportive and we have best of the career wonderful house and living the life that we always thought of in the US. Humans are not just born to reproduce we also need to live our own life and not just let it pass away. I was sad when I took the decision for sometime but now so very happy that I am getting to live my life do everything that I want to. Happy for those who have kids but it is true that people tend to stop living their own lives and wait for the time when they get into college but unfortunately are too old by then to enjoy their own lives.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Leela was abusive toward Hashmukh, but, Hasmukh never divorced her as she was the mother of his child.

Vanraj emotionally tortured Anupamaa, but, she still stayed in that marriage because Vanraj was a good father to her kids.

A powerful woman like Rakhi Dave tolerated her jobless philander husband because she had a child with him.

An educated working woman is staying with her disloyal husband as he fathered her daughter.

MaAn's marriage fell apart the moment CA left them.

A relationship, no matter how much toxic it is, will survive if it is supported by a child, but a relationship, no matter how perfect it is, will die without a child. Can a couple only stay together if they have a child? Are spouses only a means to get children? Does the importance of a spouse fade without a child?

That is the TYPICAL MENTALITY of the Indian Society at large. Isiliye toh, whenever a couple is having issues in their marriage, the first piece of advice elders give them is “Baccha paida karlo. Bacche ke aane se sab thik ho jaayega”.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I've been married for 5 years and have a 3 and half year old son...My husband never wanted a kid coz he used to hate them but i had a surprise pregnancy. But after my delivery our baby had his father all around his little finger and I could see such a softer side of my husband I never knew existed inside him. My husband largely changed my opinion on fathers and their roles in a child life. As cliche as it may sound, I love him more as my child's father than my husband lol.

So I do think kids change dimensions between parents. Yes, there are few couples who don't want kids and there's nothing wrong in that...But I do think kids make bonds stronger and in many cases, parents aren't able to seperate due to kids.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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There r very few couples really in love with each other and totally dedicated towards each other.

Most of the marriage turn toxic especially these days n it's child who is tying the couple together. Parents don't want child to get hurt n face tauma because of parent's divorce and second marriages n they don't want a step father or step mother for their child. So it's inbuilt quality in parents where they want that their child should have best of everything. So they suffer themselves instead of letting their child suffer.

Not just women it's men too who forgive wives for EMA for child.


Anuj was dedicated to anupama for decades without any relationship or marriage or child from her side. So it's kind of shocking that he let go marriage so easily.

Edited by naaznin - 2 years ago
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Posted: 2 years ago
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Really it's really 😲 to me when he left means how bhai his Ca not gone she is with her mother n u know where she u met her whenever you want only you do wait 26 year wait kiya tha a lie more now u have anu with you side

Tell me if anu pregnant now then what he do anu or ca koun

Anuj ne itna shout kiya n bakwass ki last 2 week mein ke i ff those scenes angry ho but v to na bano mean whenever v talk he only talk🤢

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Leela was abusive toward Hashmukh, but, Hasmukh never divorced her as she was the mother of his child.

Vanraj emotionally tortured Anupamaa, but, she still stayed in that marriage because Vanraj was a good father to her kids.

A powerful woman like Rakhi Dave tolerated her jobless philander husband because she had a child with him.

An educated working woman is staying with her disloyal husband as he fathered her daughter.

MaAn's marriage fell apart the moment CA left them.

A relationship, no matter how much toxic it is, will survive if it is supported by a child, but a relationship, no matter how perfect it is, will die without a child. Can a couple only stay together if they have a child? Are spouses only a means to get children? Does the importance of a spouse fade without a child?


It doesn’t remain a marriage…it’s just compromise. In Indian society, the woman is expected to compromise in front of in-laws if they want their relationship to sustain and succeed. It’s a patriarchal society. What a child does is just delay a separation by making the woman busy in rearing the children and taking care of the house. The woman is reduced to being a caretaker from the minute she enters the home as a bride. First she will take care of her in laws, her husband, then their children, their neighbours etc.

In any relationship, we are taught not to put anyone on a pedestal, have low expectations otherwise if they are not fulfilled, it creates a rift and just hurts the heart. Anuj put Anupama on a pedestal that he waited for her for 26 years, he thought that like God cannot be wrong, Anupama cannot be wrong ..she cannot behave like a human. When his expectations weren’t met, he doubted his faith..questioned her mamta..her actions.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Leela was abusive toward Hashmukh, but, Hasmukh never divorced her as she was the mother of his child.

Vanraj emotionally tortured Anupamaa, but, she still stayed in that marriage because Vanraj was a good father to her kids.

A powerful woman like Rakhi Dave tolerated her jobless philander husband because she had a child with him.

An educated working woman is staying with her disloyal husband as he fathered her daughter.

MaAn's marriage fell apart the moment CA left them.

A relationship, no matter how much toxic it is, will survive if it is supported by a child, but a relationship, no matter how perfect it is, will die without a child. Can a couple only stay together if they have a child? Are spouses only a means to get children? Does the importance of a spouse fade without a child?

If there was no child, yes, with no other factor keeping them apart. Here a child was brought in and now without this child as a connection both of them can’t survive. I said this before they wouldn’t survive this.
Edited by Snowstorm22 - 2 years ago
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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: ThandiChai

I've been married for 5 years and have a 3 and half year old son...My husband never wanted a kid coz he used to hate them but i had a surprise pregnancy. But after my delivery our baby had his father all around his little finger and I could see such a softer side of my husband I never knew existed inside him. My husband largely changed my opinion on fathers and their roles in a child life. As cliche as it may sound, I love him more as my child's father than my husband lol.

So I do think kids change dimensions between parents. Yes, there are few couples who don't want kids and there's nothing wrong in that...But I do think kids make bonds stronger and in many cases, parents aren't able to seperate due to kids.


I think there's a flipside to this as well. Having a child may in fact, make the bond between a couple weaker, like when they aren't ready to handle such a big responsibility or they haven't worked on their own personal traumas. Couples may resent one another when the responsibility isn't shared or they're no longer able to do some of the things they were able to. Some couples are simply not meant to be parents for this reason until they sort that out. And many times people don't do that. I think society takes the idea of having kids way too lightly.


If people are simply together just to produce kids...I really don't think that's the way to go about it. That ends up affecting the kids too. And this idea that a couple has to stay together "for the kids" is outdated as well and can end up scarring them (especially in the cases of abuse where kids are essentially learning that it's okay to put up with the behaviour).

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