Would you want Virat as a partner? - Page 10

Originally posted by: tptwi

@bolded: You are officially kicked out of WC 🤣

Yes what sort of behaviour is this. U need to report to the authorities and they will take action. Come on I didn't expect this? U r becoming like pooja. Ethar chala mein uther chala kya hai. Come on tell us the nation wants to know 🤣

Originally posted by: tptwi

@bolded: Nethra, we have had many discussions on this, and as you know, I have always disagreed with you about this. But, the more I think about it, the more I am now leaning towards your POV.... will have to spend some time writing out a fuller response, but don't know if I will have the time & energy for it...maybe tomorrow 🤣

Wow time and again I kept saying what Virat has for Sai is not love ..I made a post on it probably a week back...and what did I see here ??

Originally posted by: rac1

Yes what sort of behaviour is this. U need to report to the authorities and they will take action. Come on I didn't expect this? U r becoming like pooja. Ethar chala mein uther chala kya hai. Come on tell us the nation wants to know 🤣

See this and my dedication to WC club . Kabhi kabhi I go off of the path but correct my self immediately😆

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/158822360

yeh loh red alert mein hein aapka post😆IF ko sacchai bardasht nahi hoti

Originally posted by: Rdigest

See this and my dedication to WC club . Kabhi kabhi I go off of the path but correct my self immediately😆

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/158822360

Ok good girl ur forgiven. First hain isliye.

Originally posted by: rac1

Yes what sort of behaviour is this. U need to report to the authorities and they will take action. Come on I didn't expect this? U r becoming like pooja. Ethar chala mein uther chala kya hai. Come on tell us the nation wants to know 🤣

@bold

Idhar bhi Pooja ki beizzati🤣🤣

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Yaar Pooja, you wont let me be peaceful, would you?

I am tagging Lakshmi here because Virat's importance or non importance to Pakhi is one topic we had disagreement on couple of times before. So would like to hear her opinion also, although I know what she is going to say :P

One advice: read Sai's perspective first, so not to rile you up

@bold

From audience perspective:

I dont have any doubt that Virat is completely over Pakhi, even emotionally. His confrontation with her after coming back from GC during devkit wedding, then after Harini's birthday and recently after the accident. I believe and would not change my mind on his equation with Pakhi. He is over her. Now when I go back and see the old episodes, his progression is something that is captured very beautifully. He had some guilt in the beginning which I think faded away slowly. At the current moment, Pakhi is just his brother's wife and family member for him. He doesnt even have respect towards her as his SIL. She is the woman, his brother decided to stay married and a woman.

In cafe incident also he responded to her as a friend, there was no extra word or gesture that conveyed otherwise. But how do we expect him to behave? Talk profanities with her? Drag her to Zillat Arena and tell everyone every single thing she told him? If we come to reality for a bit, and knowing Virat's nature, I would not expect him to do that. He addressed her, pretty openly and bluntly when she crossed the line when they were alone. I dont expect him to act badly/rudely with her in front of people, knowing that it is such a sensitive topic where his image is also involved not only hers. Where his marriage is also involved which he was protecting till now with utmost care!! Also it takes a lot of courage and insensitivity to convey what Pakhi has told him in the cafe. I totally understand his reasons for not revealing her nature. Lakshmi's recent post aptly addressed this. He is not comfortable discussing it. period. Yes he may be protecting her, but just as a woman. nothing more.

Why does he openly put down Sai then? before answering this, we should also ask why did he openly supported Sai and gained the title of Jhoru ga ghulam? They are at a point where their issues are public, which he avoided addressing privately with his wife. Once they are public and if he doesnt agree with his wife, he is putting his words directly to her. I only see the ownership towards her. I see his emotional investment in her. I see that he wanted to set things right, this time from her side. He is pushing her yes. (For more, please read Lakshmi's post because she nicely captured his mindset). This is just a phase that he is going through.

@green

I have seen joint families yaar, read books where family dynamics are involved. The entire setting is regressive and compromised. People dont call upon SILs in front of everyone yaar. They keep quiet. Why do you think there will be lot of friction in joint families? Exactly this, the husband wont be able to speak on behalf of wife all the time. The only instance I felt he did a mistake is during ousting track, where he asked Sai not to speak to Pakhi in that tone! I did not like it, but it doesnt mean he cared more for Pakhi there. we all know, how much he felt betrayed in that track. There are umpteen instances where he put down pakhi, for the wrongs she did, again politely never crossing the line. His dealing with Pakhi, always showed the distance he maintained with her. This is where Lakshmi and I disagree. She says(I think ) that he should not support Pakhi in front of Sai because it effects her. But I would say, Virat doesnt even give consideration to the point that he is putting Pakhi ahead of Sai. Yes with Sai's mindset, it caused MUs in her mind, which I will discuss in the next section. But from audience point of view, I have no reason to believe he supports pakhi.

As audience, therefore I still ship them.

Sai's point of view

Sai has every reason to believe he is emotionally invested in Pakhi. period. Her situation when they got married and his words are etched in her mind...I sometimes think the words have become ingrained in her thoughts so much that I wonder will she ever come out of that doubt. Even if she doesnt come out of it, I still understand her. The words clipped the bud way too early. Virat nurtured her love with lot of patience but even after confession I dont think Sai can come to terms with the words he had spoken. She will somewhere in the corner of her heart, always have a tug that says she is not his first choice. It is a painful feeling. I would like to believe that she will not have those doubts after confession.

Sorry I digressed. From Sai's point of view, it is a keechad that she is in as she rightly pointed out. No woman can bear that her husband is emotionally invested in the other woman. Most times, a physical affair could be forgiven but not an emotional one. So yes, if I were Sai I would have gone through everything she is going through now. The seed of insecurity over his love for Pakhi will not leave me/Sai. It is really hard to overcome it and come to terms with the past. And the circumstances she is in now, where Virat is behaving rude I would have questioned even his earlier affections towards me. With hand holding not resolved, it would have driven me crazy/mad. So yes, I would have thought of separation for sure. Because I dont want to be in a marriage, where the husband is emotionally tied to his ex. Or at the max, I would have asked him to move out to separate house and experience his feelings first hand without any interference. If he had denied to move out with me at this point, I would have definitely separated.

PS: If you think I am regressive, it is totally okay. Please dont make this topic a war zone 😊 I formed my opinions based on my experiences with life and my observations. I am not saying these are correct. I just put my understanding of the story and characters. 👍🏼

What do I say Sadhika. You know my views already and so does Pooja. I still feel the same. He has to give Sai the position that any wife would want or deserves and keep Pakhi at a position as that of a brother’s wife. While writing this reply I have got the best way to put it out. Virat should first move on more than Pakhi if he wants Sai to understand him and to have a peaceful life with Sai. Somewhere it looks like he is still holding on to his first impression about her and hasn’t let himself change his impression about her based on all her actions in the past 1 year.

Coming out of guilt is also important. I read an article yesterday. Will share a very important piece from it.

Check the below. Has Virat done these? Haven’t I always been unhappy that Virat hasn’t apologised to Pakhi the way he should have for the decision that he took and for what he asked Pakhi to do. Did he apologise for the waada?

How to forgive yourself when you’ve done something wrong:

Forgiving yourself after offending someone or doing them wrong takes self-reflection and commitment to make changes.

1. Accept and admit to yourself what you did wrong.
2. Acknowledge that you regret your decision and wish you had acted differently.
3. Consider why you made the mistake. Were you tired, jealous, desperate, angry, etc.?
4. Ask yourself how you wish you had handled the situation differently and commit to responding to similar situations differently in the future.
5. Try to make amends with the people you hurt. This may not always be possible if they are not willing to cooperate – all you can do is your part. Offer a genuine and sincere apology without defending yourself, accept responsibility and do what is reasonable to make it right.
6. Make peace with yourself. Choosing to hold onto your guilt forever will only make a bad situation worse over time. Think about the mistake long enough to learn from it, but move past it.

Did he ever think about Point 2 atleast after Pakhi blamed him? Did he think about point 4? Shouldn’t he be thinking all of these? Does he ever think?

He doesn’t even think that the way he proposed Sai was wrong. He should be thinking that too. He has zero self introspection. A person has to if they want to fix things in their life.

If it is guilt for Pakhi, he needs to know what he can do to fix it and also it should be him who should get rid of it. If not, in his own guilt, he will be spoiling Sai’s future too. He is expecting that Sai understands his feelings and give a chance to their marriage. But before all that he should first try to come out of his guilt if that is what is keeping him and Pakhi connected. He cannot forever feel like this for Pakhi. By doing so, he is not breaking the link with her, not breaking the unsaid bond between them. He has to completely break all ties with her if he loves Sai and wants to move on with Sai. Just having and claiming that he has feelings for Sai isn’t enough. It has to be seen in his actions. The first most important thing is protecting Sai.

Whoever his first protective instinct is for, is the most important person of his life. And if that is going to be some other woman, then I wouldn’t ever want to be that man as my partner or anyone’s partner. One can save a child or an old woman or anyone out of humanitarianism but protecting ex’s honour, not caring about wife’s honour is not goodness, it seems to be something else which he himself doesn’t even realise probably.

I agree with you about joint family and all but a spouse would always know where and how to draw lines. His and Pakhi’s relationship is so complicated that he cannot afford to protect her every time. There are others and she herself can/should do it if needed. He is no one. When Sai said that Samrat is a very nice person in the room when he Pakhi and Sai we’re talking, Virat felt bad that she was looking at everyone’s goodness but for his, then how is Sai supposed to feel when Virat always supports and speaks high of Pakhi and puts her down, insults her and thinks low of her like badtameez, nasamajh given their past? Such a basic thing to think. One should think and act. Should not become so self consumed that they cannot even understand what is hurting their spouse, what could hurt their spouse. He hasn’t got a basic understanding of how a spouse should act. He should be with Sai and not Pakhi. That is a very basic thing he fails in so no point in him expecting that Sai understands him IMO. As I have said already, the guy should introspect and he never does.

Tagging Nethra since we have been having this discussion for a while now.

Originally posted by: sairat07

@bold

Idhar bhi Pooja ki beizzati🤣🤣

She is slowly changing Sam but sometimes she is like I want sairat then next moment Aree I don't like virat so 🤣

Originally posted by: tptwi

Why is my beizzati happening here too?? In my own thread?? 🤣

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

apki bezzathi kaliye time or jhaga ki ya jarurath🤣

Nothing is permanent except change and Pooja's beizzati in ghum land😌😌

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣