Originally posted by: tptwi
Loved reading your take as always Nethraa. I had started typing up a response, but I got too carried away talking about our dearest PH and Sitara and all of the rubbish that went down today š¤£
I pray that child bride does really well and ghum writer's pants catch fire.
@Bolded: For once, I understood why Virat used the word zimidari in the context of the story. He was doing what we see Sai doing all of the time... this time it was him who wanted Sai to counter him saying that it could have been a zimidari... he wanted to get some type of affirmation that it was beyond a zimidari. Sai said that the girl would not have gone on the trip unless she loved his friend... at this, Virat wanted to get a glimpse into Sai's perspective, so he asked her what if it was just a zimidari? I agree that this backfired and did not register with Sai for obvious reasons, and again, it just reaffirmed, in her mind, that Virat thinks of their relationship as nothing other than a duty.
You think he was wanting her to counter him? I will watch the scene again. What i thought was he was simply trying to recreate their situation as closely as possible so that he could get an insight. I was laughing watching that scene - it felt like Virat was seeking counselling and guidance on a girl's feelings from the very girl he was in love with.
I somewhat disagree that these words don't have any significance for Virat. Yes, he is not understanding the significance that they hold to Sai... but, as he said to abba during the barsi, his entire life's mission is to fulfill this zimidari and he will never let it waver. Marriages are bound in two people's commitment, loyalty, and duty to each other... and he has progressed beyond the deal onto a bigger, much deeper zimidari now. So, to say that it doesn't matter to him sounds unfair to me. He is unable to express all of this to Sai, but that, to me, does not mean that these words do not carry significance to him. The problem is that he tosses them around not realizing the extent to which they have been ingrained into Sai's mind as an indication that this relationship will never be a real marriage... and the bigger issue is that Virat thinks Sai will look past his words and into his actions, because that is how he feels safe in expressing himself...
Ok I think I miscommunicated. Ofcourse farz and zimmedari means a lot to Virat. Even if Sai doesn't love him back or were to even leave CN, he would continue to take her responsibility. That's who Virat is.
What I meant was in the context of their marriage status. To him, Sai is way past being just a zimmedari, she is his wife, his love. Nobody calls their wife zimmedari. But then, till now "zimmedari" is the established relationship status between them. So he uses the word casually not knowing that for Sai, it is a painful reminder of her position in his life.
To me, the bottom line is that both of them are in love, but they have different ways of expressing it/wanting it to be communicated to them...