Plight of Sai Joshi!

This is not Sai vs Virat post.. and I acknowledge that Sai is a flawed character.

As I was watching today’s episode, I felt really sad for Sai, especially when Mohit said that she was an orphan.

it is true, she has no family. I know aai, mohit, devi pulkit, shivani and mansi bua truly care for her and treat her as family. Coming to Virat, I’m unsure what he is to her!

Sai lost her mother, never knew mom’s love. Her abha was her world and she lost him as well. She was forced to get married due to compelling circumstances to a guy who made it clear that he can never be her husband in true sense and that he was committed to someone else..

well her married life has been hell so far. There is constant reminder of her husband’s past and how he is not able to move on with her. I know sai could have avoided many taunts and humiliation if she had habit of minding her own business. But there is no denying the fact that she has been humiliated, demeaned and harrased by Virat’s family members.

Now coming to KBA and Virat. Does Virat understand what his 2 hour yoga love and his so called wada is doing to his beloved wife. Pp constantly taunts and manipulates situation, because of her family members won’t treat Sai well. Pp also constantly interferes in Sairat life, reminds Virat of their past in front of Sai and even warns Sai about Virat’s character and change of heart.. sai has to deal with it day in and day out.. just because Virat lets Pp and has never been firm in his communication. Pp. has called sai gold diggers, a nurse and has character assassinated, yet Virat lets her and Sai has to even say sorry. Sai has to face pp wrath just because Virat and pp has a past and Virat married Sai. Now pp also manipulated the situation so that Virat could be reactive. Virat put Sai in this position, he is responsible to shut pp up and safeguard his wife’s honour particularly as he claims to love her. But no Sai is abused because of her husband’s past and messed up present.

Sai’s so called husband, who apparently is in eternal love with her. Yet, he has ousted her, manhandled her, mentally harassed her, denied food and now character assassination. He cannot in so many words clearly say what he feels and clear his messed up past and present with Sai. If he loves Sai, shouldn’t she matter the most to him?

well because of these two individuals Sai is in hospital. Frankly anyone could loose their mind if they have to go through what Sai goes through every single day!!

l’m not denying that sai could handle things differently. But its true that Sai has suffered, life had been unforgiving and cruel to her and again mostly because of her husband Virat!!

I felt for Sai today, she deserves happiness and loving husband. Not someone who cannot prioritise her above others!

As I Say. I feel sometimes that Virat just wants her somehow & possess her ,just like Pakhi. They both think & act like same ways in many situations. He know Sai is innocent & a kid at heart that's why he knows that she will forgive her by doing these small gestures. But he is never there when he actually needs her.

If Virat is such a terrible husband who hasn’t taken a stand for her by going against his true love Pakhi and his family members , if he hasn’t shown love and care , if he hasn’t supported her when she has messed up things , if he hasn’t supported her emotionally and financially when the whole world ditched her when her dad passed away , if he hasn’t owned up his mistakes and rectified them , if he hasn’t been magnanimous enough to forgive her mistakes , if he still having an affair with his SIL then Sai should take a stand for herself and walk out of this marriage and find a “loving” partner for herself . There is no point in staying with the man if she believes he isn’t worthy of her .. what’s the point of staying in a relationship and cribbing everyday that their partner is imperfect .

Agreed.

Show is semi-realistic in that good women stay with repeatedly abusive and narcissistic men whose behavior they rationalize and normalize out of whatever they think love is, or because they don't have somewhere else to go.

Problem is the show glorifies this behavior as something to aspire to, sadly.

Virat has never intentionally harmed Sai n he cared for her even when he didn't love her. But while KJ gave him Sai's zimmedari- marrying him has made her life pretty stressful. I don't think virat gets how taxing it is for her in his absence n how much she tolerates. Plus he himself has lost control of his emotions several times. But i think just like with Sai, most times I can look past many of Virats mistakes because he hasnt deliberately harmed her. He has always tried to be understanding. But yes, unlike Sai some of his mistakes have really been "criminal" - like handholding, throwing her out of the house...thats why its hard to swallow and thats why i am firmly rooting for Sa8 as a viewer.this time he was insecure but he physically assaulted ajinkya- not ok. They need to stop showing him commit unforgivable acts in rage. Verbal arguments can be tolerated but not physical assaults.

Yes Sai has been very confrontational but the people of CN deserve everything she has said to them. They have attacked her , ridiculed and insulted her n her upbringing which is too much. Ok they are not happy with virat marrying her against their wish/without their knowledge but they have acted SO cruelly. Despite it all audience n Sai have looked past their cruelty to actually try to identify some goodness in them but the makers have portrayed them as beyond redemption. Its sad to watch how they treat her. And despite having aai, mohit, shivani, mansi , devkit who see her goodness, there is a barrier....they are not her own..they are virats family at the end of the day.. despite everything Sai has gone through- molestation/losing her parents/CN torture she is remarkably strong, has the zest for life, she always bounces back and derives joy from the little things, the good things in her life. I really wish Sairat could move out to live alone. Kaash itv mein aisa kuch realistic hosakta. Maybe even as a lesson- virat can move out with Sai for like a week-two and then bk gang can be shown apologizing n making them come back because its so exhausting n heartbreaking to watch how Sai is treated.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

If Virat is such a terrible husband who hasn’t taken a stand for her by going against his true love Pakhi and his family members , if he hasn’t shown love and care , if he hasn’t supported her when she has messed up things , if he hasn’t supported her emotionally and financially when the whole world ditched her when her dad passed away , if he hasn’t owned up his mistakes and rectified them , if he hasn’t been magnanimous enough to forgive her mistakes , if he still having an affair with his SIL then Sai should take a stand for herself and walk out of this marriage and find a “loving” partner for herself . There is no point in staying with the man if she believes he isn’t worthy of her .

Would be great if this was a show about Sai's growth to be able to find the strength and self-esteem to walk away from toxicity in a dark grey marriage.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Virat has never intentionally harmed Sai n he cared for her even when he didn't love her. But while KJ gave him Sai's zimmedari- marrying him has not necessarily made her life pretty stressful. Plus he himself has lost control of his emotions several times. But i think just like with Sai, most times I can look past many of Virats mistakes because he hasnt deliberately harmed her. He has always tried to be understanding. But yes, unlike Sai some of his mistakes have really been "criminal" - like handholding, throwing her out of the house....this time he was insecure but he physically assaulted ajinkya- not ok.

Yes Sai has been very confrontational but the people of CN deserve everything she has said to them. They have attacked her , ridiculed and insulted her n her upbringing which is too much. Ok they are not happy with virat marrying her against their wish/without their knowledge but they have acted SO cruelly. Despite it all audience n Sai have looked past their cruelty to actually try to identify some goodness in them but the makers have portrayed them as beyond redemption. Its sad to watch how they treat her. And despite having aai, mohit, shivani, mansi , devkit who see her goodness, there is a barrier....they are not her own..they are virats family at the end of the day.. despite everything Sai has gone through- molestation/losing her parents/CN torture she is remarkably strong, has the zest for life, she always bounces back and derives joy from the little things, the good things in her life. I really wish Sairat could move out to live alone. Kaash itv mein aisa kuch realistic hosakta. Maybe even as a lesson- virat can move out with Sai for like a week-two and then bk gang can be shown apologizing n making them come back because its so exhausting n heartbreaking to watch how Sai is treated.

Agree, but I'd say denying her food and throwing her out is intentionally harming her. For example, leaving someone helpless in a busy street isn't directly harming them, but it is endangering them, because something bad is likely to happen.

Along with the rampant verbal abuse (e.g. saying she's insane).

Anybodies heart will go for her because of all the sufferings she has faced all her life. From a motherless child, to be molested to witness the death of her only father to suicide attempt, to marry a almost stranger, being abandoned by her so called villagers in the company of an stranger, to being abused and taunted by husbands ex and family. She has gone through but she never lost and is willing to fight every obstacles. But she just gets hurt only by actions of one person whom she consider more close to any one else despite knowing herself about it. She just needs the lost love of family which she wants and virat is more than capable of doing it but he has to look upto his mistakes and acknowledge it that's why I think this was very important track to give the push and make virat realise the sufferings she is facing and the reason being him unintentionally or intentionally.

And many are saying that mohit, pulkit or Ajinkya would have been better husband for sai. But it is never the case. Mohit and pulkit were fighting for her and giving her the respect and love just because of her goodness and the support she gave when no one else supported her. They both are not able to fight for the rights of their own wedded wife than how can they fight for her. I don't think there would have been a person who would have married a girl who called her murderer and have responsible for her father's death .And Virat was caring and concerned for her even before he married her, and more than the vaada he gave to kamal sir he married her because of her state at the time of suicide. He supported her, stand for her rights when this marriage was just a deal to them.

I am not defending virat for his action he was totally wrong but it was important for both to realised . For sai to realise why he was angry and feels jealous whenever she talks to any boy. And for virat to realise what his past and present mistakes had done to sai and he being responsible for it.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Virat has never intentionally harmed Sai n he cared for her even when he didn't love her. But while KJ gave him Sai's zimmedari- marrying him has not necessarily made her life pretty stressful. Plus he himself has lost control of his emotions several times. But i think just like with Sai, most times I can look past many of Virats mistakes because he hasnt deliberately harmed her. He has always tried to be understanding. But yes, unlike Sai some of his mistakes have really been "criminal" - like handholding, throwing her out of the house....this time he was insecure but he physically assaulted ajinkya- not ok.

Yes Sai has been very confrontational but the people of CN deserve everything she has said to them. They have attacked her , ridiculed and insulted her n her upbringing which is too much. Ok they are not happy with virat marrying her against their wish/without their knowledge but they have acted SO cruelly. Despite it all audience n Sai have looked past their cruelty to actually try to identify some goodness in them but the makers have portrayed them as beyond redemption. Its sad to watch how they treat her. And despite having aai, mohit, shivani, mansi , devkit who see her goodness, there is a barrier....they are not her own..they are virats family at the end of the day.. despite everything Sai has gone through- molestation/losing her parents/CN torture she is remarkably strong, has the zest for life, she always bounces back and derives joy from the little things, the good things in her life. I really wish Sairat could move out to live alone. Kaash itv mein aisa kuch realistic hosakta. Maybe even as a lesson- virat can move out with Sai for like a week-two and then bk gang can be shown apologizing n making them come back because its so exhausting n heartbreaking to watch how Sai is treated.

+100000 and I don't think that this horrible accident will lead to the Chavans mending their ways. It's very frustrating to see the pack of wolves charging on a 19-20 year old girl 24*7 for every small thing she does. It's mental abuse at a different level😭😭 This accident should be a rude awakening for Virat and IRL, if something like this would happen, the couple would move out and stay nuclear for their own sanity. But this is ITV and this won't happen. I even have doubts on how good Virat's redemption would be.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

If Virat is such a terrible husband who hasn’t taken a stand for her by going against his true love Pakhi and his family members , if he hasn’t shown love and care , if he hasn’t supported her when she has messed up things , if he hasn’t supported her emotionally and financially when the whole world ditched her when her dad passed away , if he hasn’t owned up his mistakes and rectified them , if he hasn’t been magnanimous enough to forgive her mistakes , if he still having an affair with his SIL then Sai should take a stand for herself and walk out of this marriage and find a “loving” partner for herself . There is no point in staying with the man if she believes he isn’t worthy of her .. what’s the point of staying in a relationship and cribbing everyday that their partner is imperfect .

Virat has no doubt taken good care of her, but will that be given as excuse for every time he does something? Sai also makes many mistakes, she is not perfect partner either. Imperfect partner vs going to an extreme in rage are two different things. Most of the couples irl are imperfect, everyone has flaws.

No matter what, Virat in extreme rage, though not intentional but does things which can be booked under IPC. When he cools down, even he realizes it.

We all understand Virat's pov, his insecurities and how Sai not reciprocating is making it difficult for him. But that doesn't mean she deserves this from Virat. As per their original deal, she was supposed to stay with him till she finishes education. She is thinking she will still stay with him as per deal and trying to work her way thru the family.

Sai is a bit naive who sees goodness in everyone because she herself is good. Virat underneath is not a bad person, and that's why despite what he does Sai forgives him and goes back to him. She is in early stage of love and seeing him in pain or crying will only melt her. If she can forgive Ninad, do you think she won't forgive Virat?