Originally posted by: yyyy
Good morning Janaki. I lost whatever I had typed 😭. I don't know how much I will be able to retype
I know that feeling 
Virat had only one thing on his mind so I understand he was clueless when Ashwini was suggesting to take Sai along. For him, this trip meant business, not a vacation. He was not ok with the idea of sightseeing with Vahini. I think he was very diplomatic when he said he will check for many days he will be able to take off. He wanted to avoid sightseeing by stating this as the reason. He liked the idea of Sai joining them when Ashwini proposed that idea. If he wasn't keen on taking Sai along, he would not even waste his time in convincing her.
I completely get you. I did understand, just like Sai's understanding smile, that he wants to desperately bring Samrat back and also his need to take the opportunity. He had no intentions of going on sightseeing with Vahini. But my problem is that his silence is too misleading. And I do not understand how he cannot see it.
Actually, I think Sai did not get as offended about it as she should have because she understood his reason to go but she's definitely going to tell him a few things when they do the "Raat ko baat karte hain" because he did not object to the offer of "nazaarein dekhna" with Vahini --it did not sound as such a decent proposal that he should choose diplomacy. Just like Sai needs to learn to keep quiet at times, he needs to learn to speak. The choice of words "shaadi ke baad ki khushi" - you can't be diplomatic about some things, especially when you have set high standards of expectations from your young wife about how she should speak to another man, feel about another man's voice etc. Yes, he has not even said that in words but his actions speak for itself. Why doesn't he feel morally obliged to assert his stand where a suggestion can definitely cause some issues between their already complicated marriage from which he's beginning to have expectations. Either he should leave it at the deal or then be fair in his expectations vis-a-vis his performance towards his spousal duties. The onus of giving "emotional intimacy" is all on Sai? I don't understand why she should be the only one to understand what he wants and he can get away with whatever he feels because we know his intentions are not wrong.
Come on, even when Mohit and Karishma expressed their wish to go, he was supportive and you could see that -- because Virat's reactions have to be seen for his stand. But then, why can't he voice it out
Even I didn't get that and I was hoping you will be ablr to decode it
My only take away from that dialogue was his need to tell his mother, "let it pass, let them have the laugh" as usual. She was called "moorkh" for God's sake, for making a valid suggestion.
I find it unfair to expect Virat to take a stand for everyone in the family . Virat being Virat did not give much importance to Mohit’s issue as there were more important things to focus on . People were jumping from one topic to another so he seemed to be confused and I don’t blame him for it .
I realized one thing , Mohit has never supported Virat until now and they don’t share a close bond so it’s obvious Virat will not jump for his defense when Mohit has his parents to support him . During Virat’s marriage , Mohit was happy that Virat will be under Kaku’s radar now and was happy to see the drama that will unfold when truth will be out , having gone through the same pain Mohit could have shown some empathy.
No, I don't want him to take a stand for Mohit. That part Mohit has to do himself, which he did. Mohit needs to find his own battles. But what i expect is to "object" --repeating the word. Object to what doesn't sound right. 'Gadhe aur Ghode me farak' -- come on, if this is how Mohit has been treated all his life and added to it their age difference, then i totally get it why they are not close to each other despite being cousins. It also tells a lot about how "chalta hai" Virat has been about the way people around him are treated on a day-to-day basis.
Like I said before , for him it was business and he is clear about his feelings so the thought of ex lovers would not have crossed his mind . I felt bad for Sai but Virat believes Sai doesn’t care about his friendship with Pakhi .As per him , it’s a deal marriage for Sai and she has no feelings for him. Her constant reminder of deal marriage, her refusing to accept his room as hers had made him believe she is not into him . He was kind of happy with Alta and hospital episode but deep down he still believes this marriage means nothing for Sai . He takes all her statements seriously without understanding the true meaning behind it . I understand where Sai is coming from but Virat doesn’t know the real feelings of Sai as she masks it behind taunts and indifference .
I differ about Virat's knowledge about Sai's feeling for his "friendship" with Vahini. Yes, he doesn't realise that she thinks he's in "love" but he definitely knows that Sai feels uncomfortable about the friendship. That is one reason why he actually lessened his mention of her in their space, which is good.
I also disagree that it is a deal marriage as per him . He is the one who is not considering it as a deal- he never did to begin with. It was always to be a "normal marriage" without consummation. But even that has changed now. He always had a sense of entitlement on her, to be making decisions on her behalf and he always expected 'loyalty' from her in every which way. So where is the same emotion in return? Okay, we can now say that it is coming from his newfound feelings that he is feeling insecure and jealous because Sai is not giving him the signs of "acceptance" - but no, it cannot be his defence to say that the marriage doesn't mean anything to Sai. It is he who told her to think that way and he has expectations from her without making her know that it is he who now wants her to consider permanence in the marriage. He takes her statements seriously without recalling that the reason behind it is his own miscommunication. What else can she do but mask it with indifference, when he reminded her with pointed fingers about how "Tumhe fark nahi padna chahiye" when his best friend felt beizzati and left the house? I find it utterly unfair that there should be this one-way expectation from Sai to understand his unsaid emotions when the actions are clearly contradictory, and he himself doesn't know what he is feeling.
Still, as I said, I saw a kind of understanding half-smile Sai had on her face when Virat said Samrat is important to him today. She's not even grudging anything about him wanting to go but feeling like a third ticket is valid. I don't think she even wants to go really. Who would want to go with Didi in company? But it's just that she wants to check if he wants her to come.
I still feel Sai was revealing too much to her professor she hardly knew. Another thing I noticed was she just revealed about Virat’s condition conveniently forgetting about her side of deal . Virat never asked her to leave after 5 yrs . I am not blaming her but she hasn’t realized that her few statements made for whatever reasons has made a huge impact on Virat . He believes she never wanted him just like she believes he loves Pakhi .
Virat did ask her to leave, if she wants. She has taken it as "My responsibility will be over once you are a doctor" What is wrong about feeling that way? I find it unfair again that she is the one who should realise that her statements have pushed Virat into a shell. What about his "Main kisi aur se vaada kar chuka hoon", "Tumhe kabhi pyaar nahi kiya", "Tum umeed mat rakhna". All that nonsense was spoken by him first and she's the one who has taken him seriously and rightfully so 
Let assume for a sec , Virat did not give any Vaada to Pakhi . Do you think Sai would have accepted to be his wife from day one and would have treated it as normal marriage. Maybe over a period, but not immediately. Maybe because of the deal she was convinced to marry him as she doesn't have to be his wife in the true sense.
The answer is "Yes". She would have. She was looking for that answer when she went to ask him the questions after her suicide attempt. She wanted a marriage of love. She would have gladly given it her all to make it work right from day one - just like she's willing to go the extra mile even now, despite all the uncertainty!
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