Anu's Hypocrisy

LOL This maybe or may not be a bait title but hear me out.

For the people who put Anupama on a pedestal, please move on. I am not here to read how you would dislike my post if you can. That being said we will proceed.

This post will be about Rakhi vs Anupama maybe with some points about Vanraj and Kavya.

Regarding Family:

Anu feels her family is the best and will fight tooth and nail to do it, but If Rakhi does that she is a villian.

Everyone was like "Baa should have slapped Rakhi, she deserves it blah blah" LOL whatever happened to respecting women. If Vanraj dint do EMA, Rakhi wouldn't have created scene. That being said she is "Samdhan" of her house, so is it okay to slap someone who gave you their daughter? seriously??

Why doesn't Rakhi receive the same courtesy as Baa, of speaking nonsense without any consequence? Oh haa maybe because she have never been told to shut it and Anupama enabled it.

I did not understand why Devika was like I will see you Rakhi? like what?? How will you see her once she becomes Anu's samdhan? will it not hurt Kinjal in any way in future? I know Rakhi creating scenes is totally wrong, but these people are okay with Vanraj going in and out of the house, the main culprit.

This one rubs me in so cringey and bad way, I cannot help it. Why no one says a peep when mama hits on Rakhi, It isn't just yesterday but also at resort. Are they Sanskaar of Anu's house? or we supposed to take eve teasing as comedy? So wrong. Anyways, since Rakhi creates Drama and a grey character, she deserves this kind of humiliation or what?

People will go on and on about how Rakhi is classist and always rubs in shahs face that they are poorer, but why not also point out how Baa often taunts Rakhi about her dressing and jewellery. Is it some kind of Rich shaming or what? Hah, and the best part is for 25 years, Baa did exactly that. She shamed Anu and her family for being poor, but dare Anu say a peep about it.

Anu doesn't want her kids going away, in case of Toshu, but doesn't mind Kinjal going away from Rakhi. She did tell Kinjal that Rakhi might have been busy blah blah, but instead of Toshu arguing with Kinjal about not to talk disrespectfully to Rakhi, why she did not intervene in the middle to give her mom the same respect she gives Anu?

So since they cannot afford something, Kinjal shouldn't have it too. Even though Rakhi is in her capacity to do so. She wants her to adjust to her family whims, but cannot try to let go one or two things according to Rakhi, why?

One of my main main issue, she said nothing when Kinjal said Baa and Bapuji will do her Kanyadaan since it was only Rakhi present. Like WTF. Kinjal is her only daughter and she must have like some dreams about her marriage! She dint even say a word about how it is parents dream to marry their daughter off etc. So insensitive.

I like Rakhi more . She is a practical mother. She rightly said Shah family is shamless including Anupama. I dislike Anupama

For the people who put Anupama on a pedestal, please move on. I am not here to read how you would dislike my post if you can.dont worry i would not dislike ur post 😆 That being said we will proceed.

Everyone was like "Baa should have slapped Rakhi, she deserves it blah blah" LOL whatever happened to respecting women. If Vanraj dint do EMA, Rakhi wouldn't have created scene. Here u r wrong, Rakhi was never happy with this relationship and was looking for an excuse to break it, which she got

That being said she is "Samdhan" of her house, so is it okay to slap someone who gave you their daughter? seriously?? baa didnt slap her, it was just a dream sequence 😆

Why doesn't Rakhi receive the same courtesy as Baa, of speaking nonsense without any consequence? Dont worry Kinjal has arrived to answer Baa😆

Oh haa maybe because she have never been told to shut it and Anupama enabled it.

did not understand why Devika was like I will see you Rakhi? like what?? She is anu's best friend just trying to protect her from Rakhi's evil plans to hurt her How will you see her once she becomes Anu's samdhan? will it not hurt Kinjal in any way in future? Kinjal knows her mom and her intentions 😳

I know Rakhi creating scenes is totally wrong, but these people are okay with Vanraj going in and out of the house, the main culprit.no, anu is unhappy and she clearly said it to baa

Anu doesn't want her kids going away, in case of Toshu, but doesn't mind Kinjal going away from Rakhi.

She does care about Kinjal relationship with her mom thats y she took her to Rakhi after the marriage to sort out all the misunderstandings She did tell Kinjal that Rakhi might have been busy blah blah, but instead of Toshu arguing with Kinjal about not to talk disrespectfully to Rakhi, why she did not intervene in the middle to give her mom the same respect she gives Anu?

One of my main main issue, she said nothing when Kinjal said Baa and Bapuji will do her Kanyadaan since it was only Rakhi present. Like WTF. Kinjal is her only daughter and she must have like some dreams about her marriage! She dint even say a word about how it is parents dream to marry their daughter off etc. So insensitive. I know she was her only daughter but for kanyadaan the presence of both the parents are imp for this ritual but as we all can see only Rakhi was present there thats y they took this decision

There is deficiency in every human being and there is also in Anupama. But what makes Anu and Rakhi different from each other is their Intentions, Rakhi tries to control everything acc.to her will she doesn't care about someone's pain

But Anupama Always tries to bind everyone in love without hurting

Kanyadan hamesha jode se hota hai. Akela parent kanydan nahi kar sakte . As rakhi did not come with husband So she cant do kanyadan alone

And rakhi is not milk wash woh bhi shah family ko taunt karti rehti hai specially to anupama

To anupama rakhi said many time that ur dehaatan anpadh ganwaar . Rakhi ne hamesha shah family ke middle status ka fun udaaya hai that is shah middle class family kitni boring hai . Oh god so embarrassing these word are said by rakhi when ever shah family try to have fun with each other

Anupama maysaid that her family is best but she never insult dave ( rakhi ) amily and always said to kinjal u should not talk bad about ur mother

But here rakhi keep showing her family is most culture and best and keep insulting shah family for middle status

Protecting own family is not bad but insulting other family like they are Boring is absolutely wrong

Here rakhi is not wrong for thinking about her own family but she is wrong making fun of middle status of shah family

So Better rakhi should remember ki usne kahan kahan shah family ke liye kya kya kaha tha and that was uncessary for rakhi to say such thing ki middle class family Boring hoti hai

And it is rakhi who first start by making fun of shah family being middle class family then shah family starter

Rakhi keep taunting shah family for being middle class status that they are Boring Even before when rakhi come to know about vanraj and kavya ema

Rakhii from starting kinjal ki shaadi toshu se nahin karana chahti thi because anupama only 12 th paas ( due to Financial crisis anupama had to marry early at age of 18 and could not continue study because her father died and there was no earning member)

But rakhi searching for more big and solid reason to break kinjal and toshu marriage

And anupama warn rakhi ki rishton ko todne chakkar mein kahin aapki beti aap se doori na ho jaayega

Anupama nahi chahti hai ki rakhi aur kinjal mein ladaai ho. Anupama nahin chahti ki kinjal rakhi se doori ho jaaye tabhi to anupama ne rakhi ko warn kiya aur kinjal ko nahin bataaya ki rakhi abhi bhi is rishte se khush nahin hai

Rakhi can definitely do for her daughter whatever she want but she keep taunting shah family for their Financial condition that i know aap logon ke paas itne paise nahin honge jo jo aap itna kharch kar paaye in . Rakhi contious making fun of Financial crisis of shah family that because of Financial crisis theyyam could not spend money on marriage is wrong

As pointed out by Fearless Lover intentions matter more in the scenario. When Anupama or baa defends her family it is out of love whereas for rakhi it is out of aim to humiliate Anupama.

Rakhi is practical as a character but ridiculing people on the basis of their economical status or lifestyle and prioritizing that over her own daughter's happiness isn't really taking stand for family; it's discrimination! I really doubt that she would have even cared to conduct background check on Shah if she didn't have issues with Anupama and Vanraj to begin with. She might have as well ignored that FIL was having EMA if Toshu had the 'standard' she was looking for. That's where she fails over Anupama.

Again, undoubtedly Shah family has highest level of hypocrisy when it comes to blaming only Kavya for Anu's misery! They must equally ensure Vanraj stops seeing family or atleast keeps away from Anupama if he is there. And I am so uncomfortable with Mama Ji's flirting with Rakhi. It disgusts me to know end and writers are screwing up there by making this so light and other family members laugh about it... For God's sake it isn't funny!

Originally posted by: -Anayah-

Regarding Family:

Anu feels her family is the best and will fight tooth and nail to do it, but If Rakhi does that she is a villian. - IKR! Hypocrisy is real. I would rather stan Rakhi than such a family. So-called sanskar!

Everyone was like "Baa should have slapped Rakhi, she deserves it blah blah" LOL whatever happened to respecting women. If Vanraj dint do EMA, Rakhi wouldn't have created scene. That being said she is "Samdhan" of her house, so is it okay to slap someone who gave you their daughter? seriously?? - She never slapped her, but I agree- on what basis Baa keeps insulting Rakhi? She might point out things in a bit strong way but she is right most of the time. Try proving her wrong logically before attacking her.

Why doesn't Rakhi receive the same courtesy as Baa, of speaking nonsense without any consequence? Oh haa maybe because she have never been told to shut it and Anupama enabled it. - Not alone Anu, but everyone in the house does. The major part being Bapuji. He as husband and Baa being so sanskari that she can't talk back to 'pati' should listen to Bapuji.

I did not understand why Devika was like I will see you Rakhi? like what?? How will you see her once she becomes Anu's samdhan? will it not hurt Kinjal in any way in future? I know Rakhi creating scenes is totally wrong, but these people are okay with Vanraj going in and out of the house, the main culprit. - Rakhi was the one who invited Kavya, and that was wrong. But Kavya was the one who came on that invitation. She could have rejected it. She isn't some kid, is she? Rakhi straight forward admitted on her face - that yes I am instigating you 😆

This one rubs me in so cringey and bad way, I cannot help it. Why no one says a peep when mama hits on Rakhi, It isn't just yesterday but also at resort. Are they Sanskaar of Anu's house? or we supposed to take eve teasing as comedy? So wrong. Anyways, since Rakhi creates Drama and a grey character, she deserves this kind of humiliation or what? - I think they are trying to create a comic scene there. But yes that is creepy.

People will go on and on about how Rakhi is classist and always rubs in shahs face that they are poorer, but why not also point out how Baa often taunts Rakhi about her dressing and jewellery. Is it some kind of Rich shaming or what? Hah, and the best part is for 25 years, Baa did exactly that. She shamed Anu and her family for being poor, but dare Anu say a peep about it. - Tell me about it. I so agree with this. She also keeps on taunting Kinjal about clothes. It is their choice, how they dress. Why would anyone comment on that. Baa should focus on Vanraj's EMA.

Anu doesn't want her kids going away, in case of Toshu, but doesn't mind Kinjal going away from Rakhi. She did tell Kinjal that Rakhi might have been busy blah blah, but instead of Toshu arguing with Kinjal about not to talk disrespectfully to Rakhi, why she did not intervene in the middle to give her mom the same respect she gives Anu?

So since they cannot afford something, Kinjal shouldn't have it too. Even though Rakhi is in her capacity to do so. She wants her to adjust to her family whims, but cannot try to let go one or two things according to Rakhi, why? - Kinjal is the only daughter, she can take gifts from her parents. Being married doesn't take that part away, that she is going to be the heir of her family. They are not giving 'Dhahej' to family, as long as the Gift solely belongs to Kinjal - there should be no issue at all.

One of my main main issue, she said nothing when Kinjal said Baa and Bapuji will do her Kanyadaan since it was only Rakhi present. Like WTF. Kinjal is her only daughter and she must have like some dreams about her marriage! She dint even say a word about how it is parents dream to marry their daughter off etc. So insensitive. - Probably a couple is needed. BUT there are single mothers who do it too. I am not super knowledgeable about rituals - so I am not sure If she could have done it alone or accompanied by any male relative.

EXTRA: In today's episode how everyone was giving this lovely dovely look when that trash was softly admiring Anu - unconsciously saying sorry. Dude that grossed me out so bad. Like EMA never happened 2-3 weeks back! Maker says they are taking the stories from the normal household, like seriously? A normal household doesn't behave like this.

It is been more than 8 years, my cousin was cheated on. It was 8 months long arranged marriage. It was EMA - we all cousins still want to beat the sh*t🤬 of that je** whenever we recall it. And here - 2 weeks in and they are already trying to romanticize it.

Now even if Rakhi turns completely negative - I am stanning her. Period. She would be a whole lot better than this entire family. I do respect and like Anu - but all this lovely dovely interaction with Vanraj is getting to me.

I want her standing strong, fighting this nonsense rather than turning a blind eye or supporting it for the worse.

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

As pointed out by Fearless Lover intentions matter more in the scenario. When Anupama or baa defends her family it is out of love whereas for rakhi it is out of aim to humiliate Anupama.

Rakhi is practical as a character but ridiculing people on the basis of their economical status or lifestyle and prioritizing that over her own daughter's happiness isn't really taking stand for family; it's discrimination! I really doubt that she would have even cared to conduct background check on Shah if she didn't have issues with Anupama and Vanraj to begin with. She might have as well ignored that FIL was having EMA if Toshu had the 'standard' she was looking for. That's where she fails over Anupama.

Again, undoubtedly Shah family has highest level of hypocrisy when it comes to blaming only Kavya for Anu's misery! They must equally ensure Vanraj stops seeing family or atleast keeps away from Anupama if he is there. And I am so uncomfortable with Mama Ji's flirting with Rakhi. It disgusts me to know end and writers are screwing up there by making this so light and other family members laugh about it... For God's sake it isn't funny!

I agree with everything but Underlined. She cares about Kinjal. She would have never avoided EMA.

Maybe yes, if Toshu were to be super capable and excellent - there is no point in dragging family in if the groom is perfect. But alas we all know how he is. Rakhi even pointed out how he supported and kept quiet about Vanraj's EMA. How he can do the same and no one will oppose.

How she behaves about them being middle class, and she keeps insulting Anu about the same is very wrong. The initial episodes about her education - status was also wrong. No excuse can prove it even a bit right. But the Shah family doesn't help it does it?😆. Which mom would stay quiet if the groom selected by her daughter along with his entire family - makes the mother maid and an outsider mother?

CVs are busy making her negative to make everyone else brighter. But what they are ignoring even her ways can be questionable - she still manages to pick on every damn right thing.

People like Baa have not stepped out much beyond their homes. As custodians of patriarchy they will go no end to have control over other younger women. Their actions border on meaness. But in this case Baa stops with verbal taunts and threatening to play Sitar and tabla.

The difference between Baa and Rakhee is one is educated and widely travelled and financially independent while the other is not. Baa has moments of softness to her while that dimension of Rakhee is unexplored.

Anu has put up with Vee as she believes both parents when available must perform the role of parents with equal measure of involvement. Rakhee seems to make all decisions on her own and has repeatedly said she will break the relationship. Not only does she play games between Kinjal and Paritosh just as Baa does to widen the gap between Vee and Anu as that keeps her in her power position. She has never taken any step to resolve the difference s and humiliation of anu be it by her son or grandchildren. Anu has in this short span stood up to ensure Rakhee doesn't slap Kinjal( though there were some who were upset that Rakhees parental rights were compromised)

Rakhee matches Baa in her taunts and humiliates everyone including Pramod to have her way. She plots and schemes and physically hurts Anu by wilfully stamping her foot, making her fall at her feet and by opening car door to hurt anu . This seems such a primitive way to get at someone and absolutely third rate.

While one condones the attention Vee gets from Baa and Pakhii and the it's okay Bhabi from Dolly one must understand that unlike anu babuji and Samar others have not severed ties with Vee which is why he thinks he can win them back.

Repeatedly Anu has told her kids to stay away from her issues.even today she requested Devika to let her fight her own battles. She has never manipulated anyone to take her side like Vee does targetting the weak links Baa and Pakhi.

Each character has an Hamartia in Anus case it is her family. She is however not blind to their limitations but has not enabled them to become independent because she has not seen better role models. Once she moves out and hears the struggle others have faced she will like Devikas Didi will go through a metamorphosis. I hope that is what the CVs plan to show us .

Originally posted by: piyu008

I agree with everything but Underlined. She cares about Kinjal. She would have never avoided EMA.

Maybe yes, if Toshu were to be super capable and excellent - there is no point in dragging family in if the groom is perfect. But alas we all know how he is. Rakhi even pointed out how he supported and kept quiet about Vanraj's EMA. How he can do the same and no one will oppose.

How she behaves about them being middle class, and she keeps insulting Anu about the same is very wrong. The initial episodes about her education - status was also wrong. No excuse can prove it even a bit right. But the Shah family doesn't help it does it?😆. Which mom would stay quiet if the groom selected by her daughter along with his entire family - makes the mother maid and an outsider mother?

CVs are busy making her negative to make everyone else brighter. But what they are ignoring even her ways can be questionable - she still manages to pick on every damn right thing.

😆By ignore, I meant I doubt she would have conducted the background check or paid so close attention like stalking she did for breaking this marriage. EMA as reason for for breaking this marriage would have been most acceptable, but that was never the case. Her reason to investigate and keep close eye on Vee was to break the marriage and not vice versa sadly.

Well, about Toshu - I still don't see what Kinjal sees in this crack case.

Also, I doubt in any case EMA could have been accepted as easily as it has been in Shah family. But, given the current scenario as per CVS, if Rakhi would have had no issues with Shah family, she would have been like Nandini or Kinjal requesting kids to forgive Vee.

And it was first rakhi who give disgust look to anupama, when rakhi first time saw anupama because anupama was wearing simple cotton sarees and have simple hair lock