Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 24

Originally posted by: heartbleed

Suicide. Four years back.

Omg i didnt know you were married

How does one that this is the right person to marry? I have always wondered this, how do people know?

I have major trust issues and I can't seem to figure out how I should trust this person in front of me?

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Thats sad why is marriage such an important thing in life??

Originally posted by: atmaofchameli

@HarleyQueen: your story sounds like the Raj Kumar Rao and Kriti Kharbanda movie. Can’t remember the name but you did what was right for you at the time. Anyway, Is the guy still single though or did he rebound like every other male? If he is, why not reach out? I mean....he could still be mad of course but doesn’t mean feelings died. Better than living a life of guilt regretting past decisions.

Originally posted by: TeluguChokri

Really Sorry I thought it.

Originally posted by: TeluguChokri

I am really sorry Harley this serious the problem was can understand your take on Marriage, even though never have been in relationships, the life long commitment is scary on top of that stalking of a guy and betrayal by some ex friends put trauma for me life.I am young but time runs so fast and this really scares me. Sometimes feels to run away to Himalayas and settle there to lead forever single life.

Oh my my.😆You guys actually believed my made-up story.🤣You all really thought that I'm middle aged and alone and living with pets.🤣That bit should've given it away that I'm bluffing.😂 Sorry guys, if I made you cry with my tear-jerking story.😂 Actually I was just jealous that everyone here has their love story to tell but not me.😆But I don't want to have this image of mine in your mind :

🤣

Originally posted by: AshaNegiFan

How does one that this is the right person to marry? I have always wondered this, how do people know?

I have major trust issues and I can't seem to figure out how I should trust this person in front of me?

Regarding trusting a person, a person's actions need to match what they're saying ~ that's how you develop trust. Some people are very good at projecting a false image of themselves

Once you spend time with someone and realize that their words are matched by actions, you will develop trust. Once that trust is developed, you'll just know. You won't have those naggy feelings in your heart.

You also have to be open to trusting people. Don't let your past or unreasonable feelings of suspicion prevent you from meeting people. Be smart of course but don't be too closed off, or else you'll turn the nice guys away :)

Originally posted by: Flame.

I grew up with the most manipulative mother (parents divorced when I was 6) who isolated me from my entire world,

When we hate any aspect of our parents, we want to be the opposite. You felt your mother was selfish. Your solution is turning yourself to be selfless. No. Solution always lies in you being happy.
Are you being happy being alone? If yes, go ahead.
If you want to stay single only out of fear of failure, then it is not worthy. Half our problems are out of fear of failures and rejection. Say to yourself, “When I can put up this long with what I hate, I can survive rejection and failure too” and give it a try.
But yes, you have to put in effort to any relation.

I agree. But it seems so difficult to trust strangers. That is why I am doubtful of arranged marriages to random strangers. It is another thing if it is someone you grew up with or know from college/work. But meeting a complete stranger and then deciding in one meeting that this is the person.

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Regarding trusting a person, a person's actions need to match what they're saying ~ that's how you develop trust. Some people are very good at projecting a false image of themselves

Once you spend time with someone and realize that their words are matched by actions, you will develop trust. Once that trust is developed, you'll just know. You won't have those naggy feelings in your heart.

You also have to be open to trusting people. Don't let your past or unreasonable feelings of suspicion prevent you from meeting people. Be smart of course but don't be too closed off, or else you'll turn the nice guys away :)

If a guy asks you about your idea of an ideal man ,then ensure that you don't give a straight answer...coz, if he is a cheat then he will project himself as exactly the kind of guy you are looking for

Originally posted by: AshaNegiFan

I agree. But it seems so difficult to trust strangers. That is why I am doubtful of arranged marriages to random strangers. It is another thing if it is someone you grew up with or know from college/work. But meeting a complete stranger and then deciding in one meeting that this is the person.

Use the Zindagi Gulzar hai chai ka cup trick. Not literally of course. But thoughtfulness is a very important virtue and it really tells you a lot about someone’s character. I judge people by how they treat the less fortunate when no one is looking. One of the best guys I have ever dated was someone who always stopped at traffic lights and gave money/food to the homeless. Too bad it didn’t work out between us. But out of all the men I’ve dated, I would have only married him, just for that.

Originally posted by: Harley_Quinn

Oh my my.😆You guys actually believed my made-up story.🤣You all really thought that I'm middle aged and alone and living with pets.🤣That bit should've given it away that I'm bluffing.😂 Sorry guys, if I made you cry with my tear-jerking story.😂 Actually I was just jealous that everyone here has their love story to tell but not me.😆But I don't want to have this image of mine in your mind :

🤣

You could ve made a happy story instead ... Even if it's a lie it won't make ppl feel bad ... Y making up a sad one and make ppl sad too :(

Glad to know it wasn't a true story :)

Originally posted by: Harley_Quinn

Oh my my.😆You guys actually believed my made-up story.🤣You all really thought that I'm middle aged and alone and living with pets.🤣That bit should've given it away that I'm bluffing.😂 Sorry guys, if I made you cry with my tear-jerking story.😂 Actually I was just jealous that everyone here has their love story to tell but not me.😆But I don't want to have this image of mine in your mind :

🤣

I really felt sad after reading that.. Thank god it's just a story. 😂