Why is this not getting easy? : SSR

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Posted: 5 years ago
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SUPER LONG POST BUT PLEASE READ TILL THE END.

Okay, so I have been meaning to write something like this for a long time but couldn't type four words without crying.

I vividly remember the year 2009 when all the aunties, teen girls and even kids were glued to the television during weekdays to watch a show called Pavitra Rishta. Everyone was in love with the pair of Manav and Archana. Every evening I would hear the song Saathiya Tune Kya Kiya playing somewhere. My own friends would be sending this song to each other using Bluetooth. Suddenly we had a heartthrob on television called Sushant Singh Rajput and an equally talented Ankita Lokhande.

A year later this talented boy was on the dance reality show Jhalak Dikhlaa Jaa. Now while I was not an avid viewer on PR nor was I a mega fan, I knew that particular season of JDJ was special because of two reasons- Madhuri Dixit and Sushant Singh Rajput. I had seen him dance on another show and was rooting for him to win. From Day 1 the man was a stunning performer. My mother would yell at me for using up all her SMSes and increasing the phone bills because I wanted to vote for Sushant! I remember in particular a dance he performed on O Re Piya with his partner Shampa and that was the first thing I remembered on hearing his demise.

When I heard that this bundle of talent was going to be in movies I was truly skeptical. I never doubted his capabilities as a performer, but was worried coz how vicious the industry is. Nonetheless I hoped for the best.

The next couple of years, I saw his performances in SDR and MS Dhoni and thought he was truly a great package. I was never a film buff until 2020 and wouldn't visit the theatres much anyways but made sure to watch these two films in cinema at least.

2018 onwards, there were slowly a bunch of articles on him that shows him in bad light. My heart sank, I was hoping the film industry hadn't changed him. For the next 2 years, I was not in India and was living in a place where not many Bollywood movies would be shown in theatres. However, I always hoped for the best and even hoped that even if all the blinds are true, he should get out of those situations as he is a fab performer and that's all that matters.

Cut to 2020, I was scrolling through social media and saw a meme page's post about Sushant's demise. My heart legit froze. 'No no, we've lost Wajid Bhai a few days ago, this better not be true!'. I rushed to turn on the TV and the news channels confirmed my worst nightmare. At that very minute my parents came into the room asking me why I was running around. Not knowing what else to do, I just pointed towards the screen with tears in my eyes. Their shock was indescribable.

I went into my room, locked the door and burst out crying. I wept and wept as I remembered every time I saw him on TV and in films. How much I loved his work. How I had hoped that he shouldn't change after entering the industry. My heart was hurting as much as it is today. And this is coming from a person who never cried on hearing such news from Bollywood, excluding the music industry. (Not insensitive, it just never happened)

And then I began to read about him. His likes, interests, hobbies. That just shattered me even more. Having been a misunderstood person my whole life who never fit a social norm or standard as discussing physics or Hinduism is considered medieval and not cool, I could only imagine his state of mind. At the same time I knew exactly how it feels to just channelise all your energy into the one thing that you love doing, only to face shit amount of politics there.

Today its been approximately three weeks and I cannot stop choking when I think about him. I might have not been a stan, but I loved whatever amount of his work I saw. I had hoped secretly that he would get the recognition that Ayushman got recently.

I had legit seen him growing up and maybe it was his humble nature that made me connect to him at the time. Maybe thats why it feels so personal. Everyday I wake up hoping that the news would be fake.

There is an automatic repulsion from inside me whenever I think about Bollywood now. I change the channel if a Bollywood actor/star is on the screen. I am so put off and disheartened...and I never even knew the man personally.

I don't know the reason for Sushant's untimely demise, but I do know this feeling might never go away. It might take a few years. And I hope the truth is out one day.

All I know is that the world lost someone very special. You probably have attained Moksha, and I hope you are out of this vicious cycle of life. Rest peacefully now boy, shine upon us as you always would. I wish the world would have given you the recognition and appreciation when you were amongst us.


जाति नीति कुल गोत्र दूरगं
नाम रूप गुण दोष वर्जितम् |
देश काल विषया तिवर्ति यद्
ब्रह्म तत्त्वमसि भाव यात्मनि ||२५४||


Beyond caste, creed, family or lineage,
That which is without name and form, beyond merit and demerit,
That which is beyond space, time and sense-objects,
You are that, God himself; Meditate this within yourself. ||Verse 254||

— Vivekachudamani, 8th Century AD


EDIT: Ever since I heard this particular song recreation on MX Player's Times of Music, Sushant's thoughts come to my mind. I hope you all listen to it you will know exactly what I am trying to say. Never knew that this song could be more emotional than all it is...all credit goes to (Kalyanji) Anandji 💔

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4G7qIZaF5gk

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Posted: 5 years ago
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omg you seem really broken 😔

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Posted: 5 years ago
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Great post. It’s by far the most nightmare news that still haunts until today. I didn’t believe the fact that he died. But why him? I really liked him. I remember being so obsessed with his first and second movie songs, I used to replay on repeat. I still love the songs but I listen to it with sadness now, before it was happiness. Bollywood lost out on self made man who was a huge superstar talented guy. Imagine the kind of movies he would’ve done. I am still waiting on the investigation final result. Bollywood is not the same anymore. I am happy kartik and ayushmann got hype but sushant had bigger numbers at the box office and never was welcomed or appreciated it. It’s so sad. They created negative image of him. He had similar personality to me, get affected easily by words of the people.

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Posted: 5 years ago
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You deserve a 🤗! No one will be able to deal with this loss. A man worked his way up through talent, hard work and perseverance. He was what any child would be given the example of. That through hard work anything is possible. You don’t need lineage or sur names. His death was not just the death of a sweet humble soul. It was death of someone who was inspiration for Indian youth.

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Posted: 5 years ago
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The initial shock has worn off in my case.. it's sad but not tearing Wala sad for me.. I just hope I can remember whatever I learned from this incident for the rest of my life

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Posted: 5 years ago
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It doesnt get easier. I still cant believe Kobe Bryant is gone


This was my child hood



But you just put one foot in front of the other. Like even if SSR didnt know of you he would want to you go live your life ❤️

Posted: 5 years ago
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awww😭 ❤️ 🤗


It will get better...it will take some time....but it will be better....I am not saying that the pain will go away...that never goes away...but u will learn how to deal with ur pain and it will make it a bit easier...


When my Dad passed away.....I didn't know what to do....I just couldn't digest the fact that the person who loved me the most...is gone and I will never see him again.....I read books on what happens after death...spirituality....it calmed me down a lot.....the one thing that stuck with me and I found this in several books...was that we operate as a cluster of souls....our close family and friends belong to the same cluster and we all help each other to learn...and get moksha like u mentioned in ur post...sometimes the souls decide that ok i will be ur child and I will live for short time on earth...and my passing away will teach u important lessons....this is what I believe happens when a kid passes away before their parents...or people become disabled...any thing hard...we choose it and we live it here on earth..I believe Sushant came as a teacher for his family to learn.

I don't know if all this made sense to u or not.....but this is what I got and believe after reading all what I could lay my eyes on...

Again...it will get better..trust me on this...hope u find peace.❤️

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Posted: 5 years ago
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i really don’t have words to describe what I feel right now. Having seen growing up from a telly star to BW star, from following him since the very first day he appeared on TV (Kis Desh), from being his fan then and cheering up for him, defending him in social medias, chatting with him about nothing and everything, I just refuse to believe he is no more. Its a battle between the mind and the heart. One tries to make the other one accept the situation and move on, but the other organ just refuses it. Now don’t ask who’s accepting and who’s refusing because I myself don’t know. Till now, not a single drop of tear made its appearance to my eyes regarding his death. Yes my eyes were wet seeing a few tributes videos but that’s about it. I don’t know, I can still feel his presence around me...

It’ll take years to move on and accept this tragedy and harsh reality of life. Take care dear, and talk it out 🤗

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Posted: 5 years ago
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Im sorry for your loss and I know how you feel because this is the same way I felt when Sridevi passed away. I truly felt a large part of my love for movies died with her.


I’m not going to lie I wasn’t a mega Sushant fan but I saw that same season of Jhalak you referred to. I remember being so sad he lost to Chang. I was happy he joined movies. I supported his narrative..... maybe not strong enough... but we truly lost a gem.

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Posted: 5 years ago
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Originally posted by: Ashley.Tisdale

I went into my room, locked the door and burst out crying. I wept and wept as I remembered every time I saw him on TV and in films. How much I loved his work. How I had hoped that he shouldn't change after entering the industry. My heart was hurting as much as it is today. And this is coming from a person who never cried on hearing such news from Bollywood, excluding the music industry. (Not insensitive, it just never happened)

And then I began to read about him. His likes, interests, hobbies. That just shattered me even more. Having been a misunderstood person my whole life who never fit a social norm, I could only imagine his state of mind. At the same time I knew exactly how it feels to just channelise all your energy into the one thing that you love doing, only to face shit amount of politics there.

Today its been approximately three weeks and I cannot stop choking when I think about him. I might have not been a stan, but I loved whatever amount of his work I saw. I had hoped secretly that he would get the recognition that Ayushman got recently.

I had legit seen him growing up and maybe it was his humble nature that made me connect to him at the time. Maybe thats why it feels so personal. Everyday I wake up hoping that the news would be fake.

There is an automatic repulsion from inside me whenever I think about Bollywood now. I change the channel if a Bollywood actor/star is on the screen. I am so put off and disheartened...and I never even knew the man personally.

I don't know the reason for Sushant's untimely demise, but I do know this feeling might never go away. It might take a few years. And I hope the truth is out one day.

Hugs 🤗 I never cried for a celebrity when they die, Sushant is the first celebrity that made me cry. I was literally in my room crying. It felt like a personal loss. No sleep or little sleep for days. He is someone who you know in real life but you don’t know at the same time. But I had to post the parts I agree 100 percent with you because it’s painful thinking about this. Hopefully things get better. We dream but reality is harsh. It’s so unreal thinking he is no here. Why would he do that? Everyday I am waiting for updates on the investigation because it is disturbing news.

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