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ponymo

@ponymo

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

Hey all. It is past 2 AM here, and I am working on a presentation that is due tomorrow morning. But I couldn't focus any longer and thought I will post something here to take a break. Then I thought I'll pour my heart out on my current frame of mind.

So I am working with this prestigious consulting firm in India. It was a big deal when I got selected for this company during placements in college. And naturally, it was high paying too.

It all started off well. Great office, good team, etc etc. But after a couple of months, once the honeymoon period was over, reality started to stare at my face.

It's been over a year now. My work-life balance has taken a complete hit. Some days are 14 hours long. I have no time to do anything else. Even when I am working, I am stressed out whether I will be able to do my job to my manager's satisfaction or not. If not, I would have to re-work on it again (and no additional time will be given, so I would have to work extra hours the same day).

I had thought about quitting, but then I got used to this salary and the lifestyle that comes with it, and on top of that I have this big ass loan looming large, which I need to pay for the next 6 years. Besides, I want to be financially independent - I don't want to take a penny from my parents. So quitting is not the solution.

I feel like I have laid a trap for myself, and now I can't seem to get out of it. My friends think I landed a better job than them, so I must be very happy. But that's not the case at all. I am stressed out or sad most of the time (sometimes depressed too, but I don't know if it's too severe a word). I am at my happiest on Fridays, and I am scared at the thought of Mondays.

On top of all this, there is pressure to get married at home. I don't want to get married anytime soon (or probably never), and it is blasphemy to my orthodox parents. (This issue is a little more complex than it seems, but I won't get there because it will hijack the whole topic).

In the midst of all this, I use IF to forget the troubles in life and post here, at least momentarily I get some relief, although I know I would have to get back to work soon.

I think I kinda digressed. So my question is, is there anyone else here who remotely shares at least some of my sorrows? What do you do to deal with it?

P.S. I know this is a wrong forum to express this and it'll probably be moved, but since this forum is like a virtual family, I wanted to share here.

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TheBoss

@TheBoss

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

Been there and done that. I know how you feel but my advice is don't put a dollar amount to your happiness. It seems the toxic environment is getting to you. My advice instead of quitting, take some time out for yourself, go on a vacation because I can see you are burning out. Keep your work life and personal life seperate. A good idea is to check all your problems at work before you step out. The corporate place is a dog eat dog world. You just have to watch out for the hyenas in sheep's clothing. Don't let them get to you. Take pride in what you do. No job is big or too small. Try to compartmentalize your life.

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ImagineMe

@ImagineMe

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

Thanks for sharing! You need to sack your job and become Ash's PR manager for a change. Then I'm sure you wouldn't mind 16hrs a day in that role.. 😆 Plus you can spill the beans on what happens in the showbiz world! 😉 Kidding!

Over time, I've managed to keep my work and personal life separate. There is no other way unfortunately. I've learned to say NO and not over commit. Also, I have stopped viewing annual job appraisals as report card of life. We aren't in school anymore!

There is more to life. When we pass away, no one is going to remember how many extra hours we put on a weekend over a presentation of a project that isn't relevant in big scheme of life. 🥱

Keep it balanced (easier said than done).

Hope you get the independence you crave for. Watch QUEEN again! 😉

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sara rafeek

@Ooolalala

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

I completely understand and relate to everything you said. First of all, this is YOUR life. No one can or should force you to do anything. If you do not want to marry, then that is your choice.

Most importantly, do not do something that makes you unhappy. Your job might be giving you all the money in the world but there is no point of doing it if you don't love what you do. I am a university student with major goals in life. I am very passionate about my goals. I know what I want to do in life won't be easy. It will require a lot of hard work and courage. However, I also know that nothing is easy in life.

So do something that you love. Because you will be able to make the most out of it. If you want to ever talk, then please do PM me. I'll try to help as much as I possibly can.

Take it easy and enjoy.

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Dia Singh

@diasingh2

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 7 years ago

I am sort of in a similar situation , AND I don't even know how to help you. I SO wish I could help you and me.🤔

I really liked The Boss's advice though. 😊

The solution to our problems is somewhere hidden in our lifestyle. So lets start finding it.😊

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Sultan

@I_M_SultaN

Master

+ 11

Posted: 7 years ago

Dnt Quit

Zindagi yaha bhi jhand bani hue ha charted accounting ma par gir kar sambhalne ke adat se hugai ha ab toh 😛

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1011128

Suspended

Posted: 7 years ago

Remain steadfast and strong. Continue the course and with time it will be okay..u r not old that u will get heart problems with stress. lol

Initial years are tough in every field

Dont think about quitting and buying a farm house where you will live happily with your future wife..enjoy fresh air and u will work in khait in dhoti and your wife will bring lassi and saag for you ...

That's nonsense...

Hippo believes in being strong...mentally. Many times we get in stress and when we give time..things work out and we say ok I was fretting needlessly lol

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@sherlockthor

Inactive

+ 5

Posted: 7 years ago

Oh man!

Where do I start!

4 years I have worked in a prestigious company.

Minimum 10-12 hours job everyday.

1st 1 year I used to cry sometimes while coming home.

Later job got easier , as I learnt how not to overload myself and be assertive to my manager. I started going home at a reasonable hour and life got easier in office.

Everyday my highlight was lunch. That was the only bright spot.

Hang in there. Don't quit. But its just a job. You need to be assertive and smart about it or else people keep dumping work on you and create Artificial pressure.

I quit finnaly because job was too stagnant and also to avoid marriage , I am now doing Masters haha.

Even I dont wanna marry.. that thought itself irritates me. I wanna live an independent life and take care of my parents thats it.

If they pressurise tell them point blank NO.

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ImagineMe

@ImagineMe

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

How I wish the Indian society were more accepting of a person's choice to remain single or marrying when THEY want to!

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Ishani

@ammil

Navigator

Posted: 7 years ago

#10

Options:
1. Listen to soothing music in between or during work
2. Take little gaps...treat yourself with some hobbies..the quick ones that will make you happy...can go for long/short drive if you like
3. Most importantly - do not think too much about the outcome

I know..it's too generic, but it helps I think 😛