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Posted: 9 years ago
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I understood Ishwari the first time when she decided to cook on the Chula , she was sending Dev a message that she is the same person he can come to her and talk about his private life but Ishwari is now overdoing it by cooking on the chula fine she is a mother and wants to cook for her family then do it on the build in stove less punishment to herself and Dev but now she wants Dev to feel guilty , she is handling the situation wrong she is a mother if she sees her cannot come up to her and talk then it's her responsibility to go to him but she is been adamant that Dev will be the one to talk . Mama ji tries explaining just how difficult it is for a child to open up in such matters.
Now Dev is even more worried about his mother then how can he talk to about his love when he sees his mother been burden by cooking this way .

Sonakshi I understand she wants their relationship to come before the families but she too is putting pressure on Dev , her mother was also disappointed that Sona is keeping secrets she should deal with her parents first and allow Dev time to deal with his mother
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: aaliah3108


Ishwari ... is this the only way to express your anger ...importance ...neglect whatever u feel Dev is doing to you.
She is toiling so hard to make him feel guilty ...how do u deal with such a parent ...come on tell me ...one can just merely listen and make a move... at this rate in future...She will not leave any scope for Dev to stand up for his Love! can he leave her to die ...her ways are really not subtle or thought provoking ...they are very in your face kind...you did this to me ... I will do this to you !!! Very disappointed in her ... how awesome was Mamaji to say that he is a grown up boy now ...give him time ...he is just prepping himself up ...he has found something for himself for the 1st time...this line made no impact on the mother who very well knows how hard her son has been toiling all these years ...what she absorbs... he did not tell me ..means I am not important !!!!!
What is the ego here ??? Go ask him ... Do u like Sonakshi ...but no u cant even do this ...why ! coz then the ball will be in ur court !!

You know Ruchi...When ever i think even being a mother why we are not able to connect/understand/sympathize with Ishwari Ji?, it makes me realize that the reason is her emotional blackmailing acts to make Dev feel guilty or to show her control on him. This is what makes this pure Mother-Son relationship very abnormal. You are right, How to deal with such a parent when they refuse to look beyond their ego & own happiness?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: telly_buff



Well Said

Regarding Sona, I feel she is right when Dev was not mentioning about her to Ishwari. She wants the permanency of their relationship not a casual relationship. she has gone through a lot when Dev was unwell. I can understand why isnt she telling her parents only if she discloses, they would want her to get married immediately and if Dev deny the relationship. her parents would be hurt and sad why did she fall for a rich man.


You are so right about Iswari. throwing tantrums doesn't prove that she is right and she has to keep ego. Every mother would ask upfront whether the son or daughter has anybody in their lives. and they would support them. Do you think after marriage, Would Dev share all the bedroom secrets with his mother? If she doesn't like Sona, she should disclose it . I would hate her if she chooses tactics to prove that Sona is the wrong person in his life.


Indeed he was a punching bag. he became sandwich between two ladies of his life.





@ I absolutely concur with you on what Sona is thinking about this situation. I just want her to see this is not the right time...it can only complicate things given the fact that both Dev - Sona are unaware that it is their relation only which is making Ishwari behave weirdly ...a thought needs to be given to the situation where in Ishwari is being so stubborn and hell bent on ruining her health ... we know why Ishwari is behaving so ...but these two dont know ...Unless the situation becomes better it is no point talking about them...it can aggravate issues more...
Also , u need to trust your partner if he / she says they will take the relationship forward ...that too needs time !!!!
Ishwari ...🥱...lets not talk about it at all...she is coming up as very very selfish and I am not able to feel anything for her seriously !! She only does selective listening ..and is able to turn the situation all about herself in no time ~


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: LiveLife321

You know Ruchi...When ever i think even being a mother why we are not able to connect/understand/sympathize with Ishwari Ji?, it makes me realize that the reason is her emotional blackmailing acts to make Dev feel guilty or to show her control on him. This is what makes this pure Mother-Son relationship very abnormal. You are right, How to deal with such a parent when they refuse to look beyond their ego & own happiness?


Sweetheart !!! Even I try to understand her why she is doing what she is doing but I fail miserably. I end up being all the more aloof...reason is she is very blatant in her expressing her disapproval or anger or dislike...all her subtelity goes for a toss...
Come to think of it , it is just so impossible to deal with such parents who are so stubborn and dont want to listen / look at anything that does not match their view / opinion ...kids of such parents end up miserable in their lives coz there is no freedom and no matter how beautiful a cage is...it is a cage after all and no one likes getting stuck there !! This is exactly the scene with Dev ...he gives me the impression of a Caged bird thats all. !

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