Originally posted by: .Pandora.
Will be shamelessly *bumping* this thread --- *😆*
@TM: I have read through first few pages and have skimmed through some of your posts ---- I have gotten the gist of it --- and couldn't have been said better --- !!!!
I dislike when girls are shown to be vamps if they express their selfish side --- who isn't selfish ---? Most of us are ---- including Sona --- But the way these Indian TV shows draw a stark contrast between ladies can get infuriating (loved yoir example of gopi bahu vs her sister -- typical) ---- most of us aren't black and white --- so there is no need to put someone down to make the other shine --- *annoying*
For me Sona's character is far from perfect or goody two shoes ---- the first time I disliked her was seeing her preach the importance of childhood, little things like rain, paper boats etc etc (assuming Dev grew up as a spoilt brat) ---- She pissed me off with her judgemental streak -- I dislike those who moral police, start lecturing on ethics -' also dislike those even more who go about doing it assuming others don't have an ounce of morals in them --- Sona is judgemental and very self centered ---- She only views the world through her glasses --- Such characters have tunnel vision with no grasp on others perspectives --- she lacks that --- no wonder 24*7 she dons her mother Teresa avatar rolling and rocking on moral science lectures --- She did the same with Dev and now same with Neha ---!!!
I do agree Neha can get demanding and at times it's way too extreme ----- She also got blinded in love and jumped in a pool not meant for her ---- But also the self respect non sense we see onTV is highly impractical and idiotic imho ---- So what if Dev wants to help Ranveer ---? Isn't he a family now ---? Families help each other out ---- so what Neha wants more comfort in her life --- ? Wasn't ranveer already aware of it ---? Yeh, the same argument is valid for Neha too ---- I don't know I find all characters a bit too extreme ---- It's hard to justify one ---!!!!
But for sure I dislike Sona, the preacher and Ranveer the self esteem ki machine --- lol -- They are irritating with their shoulders burdened with dozens of rotten morals and ethics --- lol --- !!!!
ETA: On second note, I disagree with your title --- I don't find her *too good* to begin with for it to be true --- *😆* ---- and the reasons are outlined above --- i can add many more --- But some other time --- lol -- !!
This is a good one. It is even better description than I thought. It is what the cvs make Sona out to be .
Regarding the lehenga I hated it I mean. If somebody has gaudy taste in your in laws house even if you happen to fall in love with your fiance from that house do you wear gaudy stuff just so that you look "their apna"? you have a right to be yourself. and to choose as you please. If you can afford it buy a designer lehenga even if it is mehenga.
Sona just starts lecturing because Dev says "you are the only answer to my problems" Sona is not the be all and end all of everything.
Dev gets carried away because he is completing demands of his family for a long time now. just because they supported him to grow rich .
But like you said there is no good and bad in this world. we are all in between. But when it comes to hurt others then selfishness is bad.
When Neha demands designer lehenga she is not hurting anybody. She can afford one and she bought one. But she did not know that Ranveer's family will send one for her. And ranveer's family and for that matter any family instead of saying khandaani lehenga and such stuff why not ask the bride what she wants and ask her to choose for herself? it gives her opportunity to decide for herself.
And Eswari she is too strict and she loses patience with Neha.. thus making her out to be the villain.
In all this is sad . Sona is from middle class family. Someone here in this thread said they are from middle class family and their wedding attire is lying around.
But for a wedding how much does one spend? they spend on food buying presents etc etc. even for getting back one's slippers one pays money.
Why not buy the bride what she likes so that she is happy? within limits of course.
why make one out to be villain and one too good? I say too good to be true because Shona under the same circumstances as Neha how she would have behaved is not for us to know.
Now she acts like a preacher because she has her education and she has the right to decide. Poor Neha was left behind when the whole family moved forward. and she is bitter with that.
It is not about just education. It is about friends, moving outside, having fun seeing a whole new world.
Which is not compensated by adult education fast track English course. You need education not just English speaking course.
And Neha she decided on Ranveer God knows for what reasons. But the decision could be wrong too. But she is not educated enough to know that.
her tantrums are a result of her lack of education. in formative years. And her loneliness in missing out all the fun of chldhood spent in looking after younger kids.
Now eswari devi at least can compensate monitarily. but eswari is so stirct and without patience. not only does she understand she is too much into praising Dev. which is going to be shattered by Dev/Shona love soon.
For now Shona is not a bad person. But certainly she is not their be all and end all of all problems.
As for Ranveer's self respect why should it be at the cost of Neha's discomfort?
There can be a via media a middle way out. but show makers want to show Shona as too good and Neha the spoilt rich one thus Shona helping him deal with his sisters. and this being proved "right" in the long run.because Shona talks about Dev's "self respect" other than Eswari devi .
And Eswari devi was too happy with her poor pati. Then why do they not all remain poor? why Dev makes "cellphones" to be rich? Poverty does not bring happiness. Sorry to say that.
Having all the things you need in life makes you happy. Being able to buy all the things you desife in life makes a person happy. That is why they call money Lakshmi Devi in Hinduism. It goes much deeper than paper money. It is considered prosperity.
Now back to the topic. A kid typically Neha deprived of education because Dev was the chosen one by Eswari , Neha who spent her childhood not with children of her age but with the little sisters looking after them. now Neha after so much sacrifice still has to go and live poor and find happiness in poverty when her family grows richer buy lehengas of their choice for their marriage live in bigger and better houses and most important of all considered "too good " to be true(my addition) it is the same as Miss goody two shoes. Nobody is a trouble maker except Neha who does not want to accept her uneducated state and her poverty got by her cholce of husband.,
Cvs have to make story out of it. If Neha gets a furnished flat to live with her husband in this where is the question of self respect?
She should have something to stand on her own leg. be independant. That is more important.
Edited by pyaaribehna - 9 years ago
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