Ok now this is a highly heavy topic and usually i refrain myself from taking part sinceI prefer the jolly and naive side of me. But that being said, i have also been brought up to stand by what i believe in and me being a feminist doesn't help either lol.
Firstly apologies, the writers not getting their due credit is a huge problem I've come to realise in my short arrival here and although i joined in 2012 but i became an active member early this year/late lastyear. So I'm SORRY but i had my reasons,
- first and foremost online grooming- i heard it all and didn't want to be part of it, dont get me wrong, im strong and in that sense alert but still didn't want none of it (pervert just creep me out- watched alot of crime watch in my time) since i also realise im naive and innocent. In high school there were posters every where about the subject and some of my friends were also targetted hence i think its valid. i was young when i joined
- Iwanted to maintain anomalous hence i liked being the secret individual but i broke this act of mine for Avi's Locket and then realised how much it hurts the writers so making up for that really by commenting in all FF's that i read now but unfortunately most of the writers have gone like Dia, Laxmi and some others that i read in my early arrivals
- I know point 2 is quite shallow but in my defence i wasn't exactly here for 2-3 years due to exams and life itself.
Now coming to the other problem, gender equality. I actually made a profile for this
one ff and you needed to be member for it. It was based on the concept of child marriage, i think and then Maan marrying Sam and straight out rejecting Geet who was formally his wedded wife. I liked the storyline and wanted to be part of it, naturally. But then i didnt like the characteristation of geet, it was almost as if she's forcing herself to a man who rejected her. I didn't like how she stood by him even after he mistreated her and then him getting closer to her just because Sam wasn't giving him attention. So i stopped reading when i had enough, i felt that this Geet had no self respect or pride, just my thought. I'm not into forced reading,
Forced Love is the only forced thing i do lol. I can't read somthing i don't agree with, hence now if i come across a story i liked but then later discovered i dont like it no more then i try to focus on the postitivies and comment only on that, not wating to hurt the writer and then eventually give up silently if things dont pick up.
Myjourney on GF continued reading adaptations of similar stories where Geet loves Maan since childhood and Maan loves another, for me Geet waiting serveral years while Maan is enjoying his life, wasn't acceptable. In clear words, i didn't like it what so ever. The question always popped into my head what if the partner never died or left, then Maaneet would have never been together hence in those circumstances i always preferred Geet to move on. Initailly i thought this may be a cultural difference, in the west we don't pin our hopes on one guy and there's a saying there's plenty more fish in the sea. But then that being said i came across
You and Me Collide by Jazz i think and i loved this story even with Maaneet not ending up together, for me its the character and how deserving they are for each other. Dont get me wrong i love a happy ending and Maaneet happy equals me happy but not at the cost of right and wrong. Then i came across
Saaya (Dia),
Falling for you (Jannatfiction) and more recently
It takes two (Kawaii_geet). i'm a sucker for arranged marriage so i naturally get pulled that way. But these stories were inspiring, i liked the fact that even after a huge set back Geet never gave up and gained an eduation and focused on her career which i can relate to since i'm so into making it big in this world lol. Well at least into eduaction and then maybe make myself successful in my career. Back to the stories, yes in the end Maan was respecting and encouraging but Geet for me was the focus point. Hence i loved allthem. Falling for you and Saaya are such innocent plots and simple stories but realistic.
The mention of a rapist,abusive and volatile Maan is unacceptable for me. I have a broad mind but for Geet to forgive this crime is in itself, especially if he hasn't shown any redemption or at least what i can accet logically anyway. Me being a Big Drashti Dhami i followed her to the other show but stopped afterwards, believe it was hard but i just couldn't imagine a girl who would forgive a man who played, used, humiliated and then handcuffed her. Then the junior story was far worse, with her being raped. It was far beyond the line for me. So according to if the main character does such heinous crime then he should be made to pay up for it. i believe in a simple saying
'if you've done the crime thenyou must do the time'. Also rapist just tops the scale so i avoid such concepts. However i did read
Dreams (by i dont know who), this for me was a first but in the end i did end up happy with Maaneet being togther, i dont know why. Frankly speaking it was one of the first FF's i read so was very naive but for me at that time i thought he paid for his sins through guilt and then separation. Obviosuly now, if i were to read it again i may change my opinion. i dont really know.
Rescuing Heaven would be a more recent but different story that I'm reading, no Maan here is a gem of a person but someone who chose his country before love. I still dont know whether ilike that or hate it, but dont love it for sure especially considering its aftermath. Although i dont blame him for it, but still as of now don't have it in my heart to forgive even after his heroic rescue. But i stilllove this Maan but not for Geet until he apologises properly anyway.
Coming to a bold, outspoken, carefree Geet. Well like most other readers i dont mind reading about such Geets. But the problem with me is i dont read behind the bedroom door scenes. I prefermy mind to be pollution free, as it is i read kissing scene which is a step too far but being here made me 'Besharam' as you lot would say it lol. Hence bold Geet would equal to Bold scene's so again i ignore such stories with high chances of all of that, can't name it sorry. But i like differences in characters and i think most readers do: I did an independent Geet whofights her own battles and doesn't need a knight to save her yet with
Into the dark, yes i think i've boredmy readerswith the late entry of Maan but still they stuck by, at least the loyal ones did. Then it was
Transport love, a bimbo, heiressGeet which i personally loved since most my friends fall into that category and then a timid and scared Geet with
Forced Love. All Maans are also different in these FF's fromhurted to flirt toevil and dark. Hence as a reader and on behalf of many readers i would like to say most of us like a variety and some readers are really encouaging as well, so thank you.However Ilove independant and in control Geet. Since i'm like that so i agree that reference point is crucial, most readers want to identify themselves with Geet and that is understandable. So naive, innocent and witty Geet's I love.
Side characters, i dont mind.
Locket (Avi) i read every single update and personally liked the stories of other chacacters mainly Dev-Naina, Meghna and Methili
But the most shocking thing was HATE MAILS and i thought it was all rosy here, this actually scared me but so far my readers have been really understandingandi love them for that. I dont understand why anyone would do that, if you dont like something ignore and move on.
Ignorance is a bliss- so readers ignore FF's you dont like and writers ignore negtive feedback, dont let it stop you from telling your story. But that been said do notget bullied intodoing things you wouldn'tdo otherwise. Seriously spooked out with the HATE MAILS don't make no sense to me.
Lastly thank you Sanjana (i dont know if you would like me being first name basis, sorry if you don't)for such a important issue.
Gender equality and writers freedom should be supported and not supressed. If Shakepaeres wasn't shut down for Romeo and Juliet (not a happy ending) or Merry Shelly's Frankenstien for unethical plots then our writerstoo should be given the chance to build their story according to their like.
A big, big thanks to all writersfor you all I startedreading normal novel's and came across my fav PS. I love you and Shopaholic series, credit goes to the Maaneet FF's since it started from here or else i did most assignments watching the movies lol.
ps. please dont take offense of anything i said, i generally dont like making anyone upset so sorry but i simply referred to myself as a girl and what i expect from society. Sorry i did waffle on abit.
Enjoy the long week ahead
P double S. lol - sanjana are you an physiology student, its interesting how you're trying to understand thementality and general thought process of the audience. I would love to give your story a try but before that Ihave a reading list, so sorry it'll be on hold for a while and I concur to the message above live and let live, also have a great week
P treble S. Sorry its really long but Women or Girl power is taken seriously in my household
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