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I have stuck with this show since the very beginning, so I have witnessed the ups and downs in Raman's behaviour, and the forum members responses to it accordingly. First was the entire DNA incident, then the holi and apology, the list goes on. We heartily give Raman Bhalla star of the day when he is nice, like he has been for a while now. He has stood by Ishita and her family through everything, except now. So how do we easily forget all the good in him, when he fumbles? Sometimes he is Ravan sometimes he is Ram, but what is he always? Human, just human. I just want to clarify, that by no means am I supporting his behaviour in any of the aforementioned scenarios. He was wrong, and there is nothing that could undo that. But I think whatever it is, he is real. He is not amongst those heroes who seem to always make the right decisions, he is also not among those who suspect their wives of everything petty. He is somewhere in the middle; just a human being who makes bad decisions from time to time.
I DON'T like his behaviour towards Ruhi, and a lot of people have pointed to his apparent favourtism to his oldest. For me its simply that he has taken Ruhi for granted. He knows she isn't going anywhere so long as she has Ishita, there is nothing that could harm her. Aditya he is worried for. There is also the classic case of wanting what you do not already have more. That is how things stand with regards to his children. That being said, I feel bad for Ruhi, she shouldn't go through this, especially now that she is finally coming out of her shell, and for that I am happy Ishita gave her a piece of her mind. 👏
Coming to the whole Shagun fiasco. My whole outlook on life based largely on personal experiences, and from what I have learnt vicariously, is that too often, people trust the right people for the wrong reasons or the wrong people for the right reasons. We get swayed by emotions and instinct so often, that we rarely stop to consider out choices until the consequences come to bite us in the back. It happens to the best of us, its classic psychology. Raman too has made a mistake, he is swayed by his want of Adi's love, and has chosen to trust Shagun for his sake. He is torn completely, and is being manipulated by a petty woman in his angst. Another mistake people make. They let their anger and their hurt get the better of them, and people who know how to use this to their advantage, will pull your strings. It has happened to me, and I am sure it has happened to so many of you.
We are all human, and we make our mistakes then suffer the consequences, we are selfish, we hurt people, we love irrationally and make bad decisions. That is what life is right, and I feel that is what they are portraying in the show. It would be nice to see Ishita make some mistakes too thought, because I think the reason why we punish Raman so harshly is because Ishita comes across as pretty perfect. I hope soon we see her back story, and I hope that she makes her share of mistakes too, because that is what makes you better and wiser.
Coming back to Raman, I think he has improved so so much. We only get upset when he seems to be doing so well, then inadvertently does something stupid right after it. But I like to think of him through this allegory. He hit rock bottom when Shagun left him for Ashok and took Aditya with him. He sat at the bottom of his dark pit, crying and kicking and screaming. He was frustrated and would throw pieces of hard rock at anyone who tried to help him from the top. It hurt those people, but eventually the rock fell back and hurt him. This kept going till Ishita came, and threw down a rope and coaxed him to climb, or at least attempt. He still kicked and screamed but eventually saw her logic and grabbed the rope. He is climbing, slowly and steadily, but you cannot expect him to do so in one swift motion. He will have his share of slips, fumbles and regress a few steps. This is expected. As I said its basic human nature to do stupid things in the name of love and hate then regret it.
This is not to absolve him of what he has done to hurt others, but what normal human being doesn't act selfish once in a while? And being selfish always comes with a cost. This is a realistic show about realistic people, we have all met a Raman or Ishita or Shagun or Romi. These people exist. So let's lay off on bashing anyone, and see what lessons these characters take away from their mistakes.
I probably haven't done anything to change people's bad moods on the forums, but its just my opinion, feel free to concur or defer!
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