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Dear Hilly,
I get what you mean to convey, and I think you are very perceptive.
But as for Arjun today, between the 'what if' of Purvi and the 'what is', or rather now the 'what was' of Ovi, he has become a nowhere guy, the dhobi ka kutta of Indian folklore.
As I wrote on another of these innumerable threads with almost the same topic that have deluged the forum since last night's Ovi shock hit so many like a tsunami and disoriented them completely, the serial should now have the subtitle The Travails of Arjun. Like the episodic The Perils of Pauline, which I am told was the highlight of the traditional Saturday matinees in the 1950s in the US.
Every episode now seems to end with him holding his head in his hands or, alternatively,with his mouth half open, trying to project Shock and Grief .Or stammering unconvincingly, as in the precap. What a fall, my friend!
Shyamala
I get what you mean to convey, and I think you are very perceptive.
But as for Arjun today, between the 'what if' of Purvi and the 'what is', or rather now the 'what was' of Ovi, he has become a nowhere guy, the dhobi ka kutta of Indian folklore.
As I wrote on another of these innumerable threads with almost the same topic that have deluged the forum since last night's Ovi shock hit so many like a tsunami and disoriented them completely, the serial should now have the subtitle The Travails of Arjun. Like the episodic The Perils of Pauline, which I am told was the highlight of the traditional Saturday matinees in the 1950s in the US.
Every episode now seems to end with him holding his head in his hands or, alternatively,with his mouth half open, trying to project Shock and Grief .Or stammering unconvincingly, as in the precap. What a fall, my friend!
Shyamala
Originally posted by: hillydee
I believe you can love two persons at the same time, the only difference is the type of love. You can have the love you commit to, the ones you didn't necessarily choose (like arranged marriages) or you perceive you have found, and the one you only dream of(fantasy).Is like they say in the west, men don't marry their fantasy( in many cases), they marry the woman they perceive is more real, more stable. A fantasy is just a fantasy. Yet, I don't believe in that. Why can't a fantasy become your reality? Men don't process like that, they separate the two and that is how we have infidelity, because they always want the fantasy no matter their reality.People might say they have forgotten their first love, but sometimes it is not always true. You can still hold a torch or even still love them, while you are even married and love your spouse.Sometimes, you may also mistake being in love with lack of closure. Lack of closure can be dangerous, it can make you believe you are still in love after being hurt, but the truth is you did not get closure and so you keep thinking "what if."Closure in my estimation is the inability (whether through denial or after the sudden ending of the relationship), to accept that the relationship is no longer part of your journey, it was not meant for permanency.Poor Ovi was in denial so she was unable to process that Arjun had moved on.On the other hand, Arjun was also unable to process that Purvi was done with the relationship, because he was in denial also, and Purvi did not say " I don't love you," so there was nothing to say the love ends only the relationship ends. That is why I think his love could not end after the relationship ended. "What if," was his life and now a baby is added to the what if. "What if" Purvi had only chosen him over her Mother. "What if."So, Arjun's love for Purvi could be processed as a "what if," and not a reality.Purvi is Arjun's fantasy (what if) and Ovi is his reality(what is). that is how I would explain the two types of love. Of course neither are the real type of love that you should have. neither adds up to one.I hope I don't confuse the hell out of you guys.Just my Point of View.😃
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
