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do u actually feel bad about purvi leaving dr.onir

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nithya1138

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Posted: 12 years ago

#31

i do feel for onir😕 bcoz of his caring nature towards purvi...he doesnt want anythng 2 knw abt her past even the baby i think so...The dialogue U HURTED ME PURVI ...hurted me alot...😭

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crazygirl4RD

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Posted: 12 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: jdronamraju
Why should we feel sorry for Dr. Onir? What has happened to him? It is his wife, his call, if he wants to follow her and his fate. Isnt that what everyone said about Arjun? How is this guy different?

agree dear n ya if plp are telling that purvi didnt told onir about arjun .. n he will be heart broken when the truth is out .then its his prob coz it was he who had not listened to her.. when she wanted to tell her😲

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@ITV_Loverr

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Posted: 12 years ago

#33

Yeh, of course. Poor guy, he really loves purvi.

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sashashyam

@sashashyam

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Posted: 12 years ago

#34

@red. Amelia, if you look up the text of Purvi's letter to Onir, you will see that she was very definitely writing finis to their grihasti because of an alleged lack of "understanding and bonding"between them. The last line in the letter is that she has taken a decision to go to her aai's house "which will now be my home." There is no ambiguity about it all. It is another matter that if these criteria were to be applied uniformly to all marriages, not one of them would survive.

Apparently this "understanding and bonding"criterion is part to the sanskaars inculcated in Purvi by her aai, who presumably applied them when she testified in court against Manav, in the chawl demolition case that the other chawl residents had trumped up against him, her beloved husband of so many years.

Neither Archana nor Purvi can, by definition (the one certified by Sulochana and the other by Archana) , do anything wrong. So it follows that the fault in Purvi's ditching Onir unceremoniously and declaring an abrupt end to their marriage, plus her effectively cutting him off from her and the baby (which is, hopefully, also his) lies solely at Onir's door!😉

Secondly, the problem here did not arise from Purvi's wanting to tell Onir about her past and his not wanting to listen to it. It arose from her wanting him to treat Ovi notwithstanding the fact that Ovi does not want it at all, and Onir explains to Purvi and her parivaar that no doctor can treat an unwilling patient.

@blue. Priceless!👏 I have not laughed so much in a while now!

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: ameilia
Ok did i miss something?Purvi went to Mumbai to stay at her Aai's place.I cant recall her saying she has left Onir forvever.😕

Do i feel bad for him?I feel bad that he will be dragged through the gates of the crazy D clan...oh wait the millionaires live in a chawl.He will have to treat the same woman who doesnt care abt the baby inside of her but who thinks of his clinic as a pigeon hole.I do feel sorry for Onir as he will have to treat that crazy woman and listen to her rants.I see him as a no nonsense kind of guy who will put Ovi in her place.She needs that right now if the D clan will shower her with kitty parties every time she gets upset.

Onir the psychologist/Gynecologist/Marriage counselor/Preacher/Teacher can be of good use to the Ds and Ks just hope he prepares himself for what he is abt to be thrown into.No one walk out the same after the enter the D family.

However i dnt feel bad abt Purvi going to her Aai's place caz when she was getting emotional and telling him her past he refused to listen.

All i have to say to Onir is bring lots of tissues(mite not need them for yourself but rona dhona doesnt run in the blood it is air borne) and make sure u wear proper shoes in times when u mite need to bolt out from the Ds.

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sashashyam

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Posted: 12 years ago

#35

No, the problem is not at all about Purvi's past. Seeing the kind of man Onir is, and how besotted he is with his mishti, he would not have bothered even if she had had a dozen ex-lovers in her past.

The only reason why one should feel sorry for Onir is his misfortune in getting involved with and falling for this serial ditching specialist, aka Purvi. Exactly the reason for which my heart weeps for my poor Arjun, who is in a desperate state now, worse than anything one could have imagined, saddled with a termagant of a wife for what looks like the whole of the rest of his existence.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: crazygirl4RD

agree dear n ya if plp are telling that purvi didnt told onir about arjun .. n he will be heart broken when the truth is out .then its his prob coz it was he who had not listened to her.. when she wanted to tell her😲

Originally posted by: jdronamraju
Why should we feel sorry for Dr. Onir? What has happened to him? It is his wife, his call, if he wants to follow her and his fate. Isnt that what everyone said about Arjun? How is this guy different?

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sashashyam

@sashashyam

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Posted: 12 years ago

#36

@red. Would you then say that any time a wife has a quarrel with an otherwise excessively doting husband because he will not do some one thing she wants him to do, and that too on well justified professional grounds, it is all right for her to declare their marriage at an end because of a self-stated lack of "understanding and bonding", leave him and their home, and go to her mother's house which she declares will now be her home? At this rate, no marriage would survive.

It is another matter that if the Ds had found out the truth of what she has done,she would have been shipped back to Kolkatta forthwith. Exactly the same thing would happen if Onir stayed put and refused to come to Mumbai, and the chawl people started gossiping about Purvi and her no-show of a husband.

Not that this is going to happen to Ms.Mahaanta. She is after all one-who-can-do-no-wrong, as certified by another of the same species, Archana. So Onir will undoubtedly turn up in Mumbai pretty soon, ready to do his Mishti's bidding and treat her sister, who is, in the meantime, ready to tear Purvi's eyes out.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: strega
I feel bad for both Purvi and Onir - since they have been dragged into the Deshmukh mess again.

Purvi came for Ovi because her Aai wished for Onir to look after Ovi and once again put her happiness at risk. Definitely not for herself. She has nothing to gain personally and everything to lose.

Re how she left Kolkatta without talking with Onir. Remember, he walked out. Yes, she was screaming and upset - so he had a fairly typical male reaction - he walked out. End of conversation.

Purvi's intense desire to make her Aai happy drives her - and off she goes again. She needs help - to accept that it is OK to be happy for herself and her sole purpose in life is not to make Aai happy.

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strega

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Posted: 12 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: sashashyam
@red. Would you then say that any time a wife has a quarrel with an otherwise excessively doting husband because he will not do some one thing she wants him to do, and that too on well justified professional grounds, it is all right for her to declare their marriage at an end because of a self-stated lack of "understanding and bonding", leave him and their home, and go to her mother's house which she declares will now be her home? At this rate, no marriage would survive.

It is another matter that if the Ds had found out the truth of what she has done,she would have been shipped back to Kolkatta forthwith. Exactly the same thing would happen if Onir stayed put and refused to come to Mumbai, and the chawl people started gossiping about Purvi and her no-show of a husband.

Not that this is going to happen to Ms.Mahaanta. She is after all one-who-can-do-no-wrong, as certified by another of the same species, Archana. So Onir will undoubtedly turn up in Mumbai pretty soon, ready to do his Mishti's bidding and treat her sister, who is, in the meantime, ready to tear Purvi's eyes out.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Oh, I agree with you.. But none of what happens in PR happens in real life at all, does it? Marriage in PR land has nothing in common with real life relationships...And for that matter, mother-daughter relationships are not at all like what Archana and Purvi share. I should know. I have 2 girls of my own. I worry about them and not the other way around. If they went about trying to solve my issues, I would be VERY alarmed.

I am NOT a fan of any of these characters at all. But since Purvi appears friendless right now, I am playing devils advocate :) Added to that, I am on break with nothing to do for while :):)

IF Purvi were allowed to act in character (as originally sketched by the writers for the first couple of months or so), the Purvi-Arjun relationship would have died after the Arjun-Ovi engagement. She would NEVER have agreed to the engagement and wedding. I felt her running way the day Archana saw her with Arjun and slapped her would have been in character.

That said, right now, I see Purvi has a lot of issues and the Ds showing up like they did has pushed her over the edge (metaphorically speaking). I think she feels she NEEDS to fix the Arjun-Ovi issue. She knows she is the cause of Arjun;s misery. She has to fix it to live with herself. Added to that her Aai fixation, Enough to drive anyone to behave irrationally.

We also tend to ask more of those who we think will understand us, right? And I do not believe at all she is giving up on Onir. She believes in marriage and her vows. Is she unfair to Onir? Absolutely. Do I think he will understand? If the CVs play to the character then yes. I do not see Onir as a wimp if he does (or a pajama) but just an understanding husband.

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sashashyam

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Posted: 12 years ago

#38

My dear,

With your @blue, as Goethe once wrote about Kalidasa's Shakuntala, "all at once is said", and I have nothing more to argue about.😉 I too do not know, really, why I keep letting these idiotic characters get on my nerves, and that too when I have a bout of conjunctivitis!

Pure folly, and so I shall stop at least now, and wish you and your family a healthy, peaceful and fulfilling New Year 2013. I have purposely left out the conventional happiness, but if you have these three, contentment, which is more lasting than happiness, is sure to follow.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

PS: As for Onir he is a paragon of a spouse, and I only hope that he stays that way. Of course he is neither a wimp nor a pajama right now, but I am deeply apprehensive that he too will be shoved soon into that race!

Originally posted by: strega

Oh, I agree with you.. But none of what happens in PR happens in real life at all, does it? Marriage in PR land has nothing in common with real life relationships...And for that matter, mother-daughter relationships are not at all like what Archana and Purvi share. I should know. I have 2 girls of my own. I worry about them and not the other way around. If they went about trying to solve my issues, I would be VERY alarmed.

I am NOT a fan of any of these characters at all. But since Purvi appears friendless right now, I am playing devils advocate :) Added to that, I am on break with nothing to do for while :):)

IF Purvi were allowed to act in character (as originally sketched by the writers for the first couple of months or so), the Purvi-Arjun relationship would have died after the Arjun-Ovi engagement. She would NEVER have agreed to the engagement and wedding. I felt her running way the day Archana saw her with Arjun and slapped her would have been in character.

That said, right now, I see Purvi has a lot of issues and the Ds showing up like they did has pushed her over the edge (metaphorically speaking). I think she feels she NEEDS to fix the Arjun-Ovi issue. She knows she is the cause of Arjun;s misery. She has to fix it to live with herself. Added to that her Aai fixation, Enough to drive anyone to behave irrationally.

We also tend to ask more of those who we think will understand us, right? And I do not believe at all she is giving up on Onir. She believes in marriage and her vows. Is she unfair to Onir? Absolutely. Do I think he will understand? If the CVs play to the character then yes. I do not see Onir as a wimp if he does (or a pajama) but just an understanding husband.

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Kalapi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#39

Yes, absolutely….how can a wife just walk out from a loving caring non-abusive hubby just like that, not to mention in her preggo state just because, a hubby didn't follow her command on a very much a professional decision and choice. I mean, the good doc has a right to his decision as well as his unborn child, and the wife just walked off, because he couldn't follow her dictate….my god, if this is how relationships should be or is, can any relationship ever survive?????

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 12 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: Kalapi
Yes, absolutely'.how can a wife just walk out from a loving caring non-abusive hubby just like that, not to mention in her preggo state just because, a hubby didn't follow her command on a very much a professional decision and choice. I mean, the good doc has a right to his decision as well as his unborn child, and the wife just walked off, because he couldn't follow her dictate'.my god, if this is how relationships should be or is, can any relationship ever survive?????

Kalapi this is new 21st century where it is genuine reason for seperating 😲...When a husband does not do what ever dear WIFI asks him to do is labled as "No understanding or bonding" and on that ground she can surely end the relationship..She was very clear in her letter to Onir she was leaving him as they did not have Understanding or bonding in their 6 months relationship..😳

Now my silly brain knows Onir is going to be shown turning into a -ve character just to make our MMLA sound, wise, tyagi, mahan and caring sister or wife. It will be silly Onir who was not understanding to his wife's whims..😉

Not getting love should make one psycho with issues but here tooo much love is making one psycho with deep rooted cause..😕😲😳