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So, another day has passed in PR land......updates and discussions have been posted......
Here I am again, with a horde of contradictions......and opinions.....(mostly all wrong)....but its free, so am generous with themđ......
There seems to be a lot of heated discussions regarding Manav-Savita-Archana.......the thrust of the arguments being about Indian values.....great Indian mother-son relationship....how Archana has to SHOW Manav the correct way to behave with his mother....the great Indian viewer not accepting it because it goes against his basic thinking etc..etc...
There was also mention of how Manav was romancing Archana.....at the cost of ignoring or not taking care of his mother......
Only love begets more love......basic and fundamental rule in life......nothing to do with Indian or any other value system.....No relationship can survive if it is one-sided.....ever heard of a one-hand taali????.....Also, Manav is a grown-up man....he earns....he has all the self-respect and ego that any normal man would have......His great fault?????....he loves his mother and wife...... Now, here I have an argument - everyone who reads this must think of their own lives - when you are in love (new relationships).....do/did you lie to your parents to meet or be with your loved one???..... did you think it was because you disrespected your parents? or was it because you simply loved that special person so much.....
Some / many may disagree/agree with me here......but GOD has made it such that a man/woman relationship is the primary relatio nship in life...... it is possibly not fair to one's parents.....but once a person gets married.....his wife and kids become his primary family....Now, I am not talking cultural here.....its human.....its GOD created..... People live/die in love.... In our Indian culture, a wife is called Ardhangini.....she is the half of the man..... it is her right and the man's responsibility to get her due respect in society and his family.....
I am not advocating that a person leave his parents and become rude/irresponsible towards them....... All I am saying, is that Manav's demand is not unreasonable......and he seems to be repeatedly trying to bridge his relationship with Savita.....If she keeps thwarting him - but naturally he will keep moving farther away.....try it with a small child..... shout at him and keep pushing him away - even if you are the mother......the child will first try to come to you, but then will find other ways/people to cry to......its natural.....
While i agree that being a patriarchical society....a man must look after his family first.....but however, doesn't one call his wife's parents mummy/daddy too?....why???..... What I am seeing is that Manav and Archana are simply keeping normal relations as anyone would with their in-laws.... calling them regularly.....inviting them/wanting to be with them on festive occasions.... being with them in their happiness/sorrows....... it possible seems to be "too much" when compared to his 'spoilt' relations with his own mother...... he also seems to correctly read his mother's reactions incase he was to call her.... when he did call her- she pushed him away......
If this had been the case under 'normal' conditions...... calling the in-laws first and then one's own parents..... then there was a point to argue/debate......under such circumstances..... I think there is nothing 'abnormal'.......
As regards the romancing bit......I think holding it against them is being petty......such 'needs' form part of mankind's "BASIC" needs alongwith food/clothing/shelter....... again it was not like they were ROMANCING.....while the mother was in the hospital or so......
I repeat.....Savita starting a business is part of her tamasha nature......to put Manav down in front of people who know and respect him.....she has no finer feelings......while he has a heart of gold still.....he is trying in his own way to help her despite her speaking ill of him publicly.....
At the end of the day......every man/woman needs love and affection and acceptance...... constant rejection can be very tiring....even when it is from one's mother.....
This is not about Indian values.....this is about mis-understandings (him helping/trying to get closer to her - her not being aware of it)......this is about a relationship gone sour because of ego and inflexibility......why can't Savita accept Archana???.....despite everything....she is the ideal wife for Manav - she is from the same community....he loves her like mad.....she is a good woman... good character.....good home-maker......
To grow old....means to be more flexible....to be more understanding of your child's needs..... simply making unreasonable demands..... ruining your own health.....putting others at risk (sachin)......ruining your son's married life..... is the real IRRESPONSIBILITY here......
We have a saying in gujarati....Raja ne gami Rani.... chhaana vinti aani..... which means - the the one the king likes is only the queen - even if she is the one selling cowdung......
Manav loves Archana..... Savita must accept her and move on....... If Archana and Manav are willing to forgive and forget......why can't she??????
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