Satish should have said -NO

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Malini

@Rumii

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

I really think this Custom/Riwaz of washing Groom's feet by elders should be abolished.....

It has come from Olden times wheen a Groom seemed to 'save' a girl from her "'plight of staying unmarried and being 'fed' by her father😕" by marrying her and giving her a House n Food but times have changed lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng back and as BOTH Satish and Varsha feel 'honoured' to get married to each other Satish,A guy with High ideas should've told NO while Varsha's aai sulochana was bending down to Wash his Feet!😲

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rouble_lover

@rouble_lover

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Posted: 15 years ago

I think its funny how we still follow our old rituals.. but we don't live up to our old traditional customs.. India has become soo westernized now! everyone wants to be like the westerners.. i mean seriously...we shldn't dry out our culture..its too good to be lost! 😳

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Malini

@Rumii

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

It's really important not to forget your Tradition BUT haven't We,over the Years Chosen n Abolished some that were Not-so-good?? Like sati, Dowry,not getting Widows remaaried were once Strong Indian traditions Which almost all Intellectual and educated people couldn't support..So I think the way that Not all Traditions are BAd ..Not all traditions are GoOD either like this one..The In-laws washing the Son-inlaw's Feet😵

I think SELECTIVE Abolishing of Not So Good traditions is necessary while keeping the sweet-things of a tradition intact!!

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gp00

@gp00

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

It's just a tradition, and despite what it was originally intended to do, it is still a sign of respect and welcome today.

I think it is beautiful and rich in its heritage.

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Sonii

@..Sonii..

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Posted: 15 years ago

It is our tradition and we have to respect it wholly (show off is not req)
Does that tradition harm anyone or disrespect anyone? I dont think so.

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luv07prida

@luv07prida

Rocker

Posted: 15 years ago

ya i know if u wld hve done tht i wld like him more

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Malini

@Rumii

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: luv07prida
ya i know if u wld hve done tht i wld like him more

Yes... Me too..Considering the fact that Satish is Such an Open Minded Person that he even Told Varsha can wear Salwar-kameez and she doesn't have to Wear sarees.... Though I too beleive in traditions but I also beleive in 'remodelling' some as per changing times and Nowadys BOYS and GIRLS are considered the SAME So WHY should the Bride's parents Wash Groom's Feet?????????????????????????To show love for your Son-In-Law isn't ashirwad,Putting Tikka on his Forehead is enough/lovely? Do the Elders need to Bend Down Ever in front of Youngters??

In the way Dowry has been removed/been trying to be removed..some of the traditional customs that SHOW Grooms to be Superior than Brides SHOULD Be Wiped out For good!

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Malini

@Rumii

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: soni87
It is our tradition and we have to respect it wholly (show off is not req)
Does that tradition harm anyone or disrespect anyone? I dont think so.

I think it does..... to show 'Love' for your Son-In-Law isn't Ashirwad,Putting tikka on his Forhead more than enough?Why does the Bride's parent need to bow down in front of him. and Touch n wash his feet.??????????? Why should Elders ever be made to Bow down before youngsters??Nobody--Yes..NOBODY from Groom's family ever does that to Welcome the Bride!

This Tradition is Only to Show that Who LADKE WALE Hain..Hum LaDki Wale hain.... They're More respectable than us....The Son-in-Law,His parents, his sisters should feel more Welcome than We need to Because they're from Boy's side.... Women have Progressed So much that these type of traditions which show differences btwn BOYS & Girls should better be omitted....

More than a Fact if it's causing HARm to someone or not it is sllightly 'Disrespectful' Of course for Brides-parents to touch Grooms feet..... Many-many not-so-necessary traditions HAVE BEEN shaken off not only for our Convenience but to give EQUAL respect to all ...boys and Girls alike....

In a way that Satish proposed Varsha's wearing Salwar Kammeez and Not to wear Sarees though apaarently wearing saress in Neither very tough nor was it going to HURT Varsha.......he should've Told NO to anything that is a reason of Disrespect / discomfort to anyone in his wife's family in the same way he'd expect his wife to feel and do for his Family Members!

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Gursharan

@Gur.N.cool

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Posted: 15 years ago

Yes I would have preferred if he had said NO. I think many grooms do that. Though they don't follow this tradition from where I come, but yes these are very old customs and they r no longer significant.

I'm not saying we should forget out culture, just those that which are no longer needed now. I mean you don't have to wash someone's feet to show them respect, there are many other ways to do that.

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Malini

@Rumii

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: Gur.N.cool
Yes I would have preferred if he had said NO. I think many grooms do that. Though they don't follow this tradition from where I come, but yes these are very old customs and they r no longer significant.

I'm not saying we should forget out culture, just those that which are no longer needed now. I mean you don't have to wash someone's feet to show them respect, there are many other ways to do that.

I Agree with U👍🏼 That EXACTLY was my point.... I'm a Traditional person too but I use my senstitive logic to select which 'good' ones to follow but which Not-So-Good ones are better not to follow...

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