Very well Written- The Highlighted Part😊Originally posted by: kgh212121
i think the rice ceremony has a different meaning. it is to remind that the acts of kindness and love our parents have showered on us are as countless as the grains of rice.
the vedic meaning of scattering rice is to symbolically scatter all tamas i.e. bad/negative energies, tendencies.
and i agree. Satish should have said no.
we often make the mistake of thinking that just because something holds the status of being "ancient/old" that it is legitimate and something to uphold. that's not true. and how do we know what traditions were really part of scripture or something that was created by an average individual? the nature of a tradition is that it is created by simply recreating/repeating. so unless we have the guidance of someone truly knowledgeable about a custom, i tend to remain skeptical if i perceive it to be something that simply perpetuates old norms of class and status, or perpetuation of superstition and stigma. in this case, i agree, we respect our elders. there is so much to learn from them (of course vice versa, but this respect allows us to be open minded and take true wisdom from them). so then why should a mother have to submit to her son? i understand if it was out of love. (if she washed both her daughters and SIL's feet) but it is not the case here. she is in fact submitting to her SIL and somehow saying that i am beneath you--that the SIL has power and status over her and her family. the relationship of love is much more rewarding than that of power/status.
just my 2 cents
