What was Dhara expecting? - Page 2

As much as I dislike Rishita I have to admit that she is right in a way.

Dhara is a meddler.

While her family might be okay with that, not everyone appreciates interference in their business.

As much as I love Shiva, his and Raavi's equation entirely consists of petty arguments and insults.

The MU is playing a pretty big part in hindering their progress.

I do hope that gets cleared up asap.

Untill that happens, Raavi is gonna lash out at him and Dhara because she blames them for her misery.

She is hurt. She is broken. And yet she has to deal with Rishita's vitriol.

Her own husband, the man she is supposed to spend the rest of her life with, wants to make her life hell.

She needs some time and some TLC to heal from the ordeal.

As for Rishita, that woman is a nutcase. She has to reason to be b-iatch other than the fact that she is a absolute brat.

As always apologies for the long rant. I do tend to ramble 🙈

Originally posted by: tinapiku

She is almost writing her children's exams so they do not fail. Is it right? Dhara' s approach is highly questionable. She is not letting her children give their life exams. She is somewhat coming as a dominating person but doesn't seem so due to her sweet approach. Rishita is definitely right in this regard.

Ah !that's pretty much it 👏

I don't like the way dhara is approaching this problem. Everytime something happens she need not take them in the corner and give them gyan on forgiveness and family peace . Let them deal with it ,only then they will learn and grow. Ideally raavi should have dealt wth rishita on her own..whether she keeps quiet or retaliate, her choice..dhara shouldn't have meddled in between. If she did , just spare me the gyan Bol diya bol diya..ye sorry sorry kya hai?

Did anyone else feel that alice outdid shiny in this particular scene? I think alice brought out raavi's emotions pretty well.. dhara seemed to be a little pheeka in the expression bit.

Dhara is an APOLOGIST, period.

She was a different person pre-leap, but now, she is beyond the scope of repair. Yes, she is damaged goods. Every time something goes wrong, she whines and starts crying or giving Kasams! She makes the whole situation about her.

It started from Krish’s cigarette to Belan for Shiva and creating a dollhouse for Shiva-😏Raavi. These aren't just puppets; these are real people.

The right question to be asked to Raavi was-Raavi, you are hurt, Rishita can not speak to you like this.

Instead, she just started being Apologetic again. Why can't she let Raavi be?

I have time and again said, Raavi is experiencing PTSD and abandonment. Such people feel unloved, especially if they are latching onto someone. Shiva gives her life some purpose in her existential crisis. But, the brutal reminder by Rishita of her loveless existence makes her go bonkers.

Coupled with abandonment and not worthy enough. She said today- Itni hi Napasand this to why did he marry her?

If you see, there's a strong sense of anger in her rejection. The sad part is Dhara claims to know her children but fails to understand their individuality And emotional distress.

Her parables aren’t going to help 🆘!

Originally posted by: Transference

Dhara is an APOLOGIST, period.

She was a different person pre-leap, but now, she is beyond the scope of repair. Yes, she is damaged goods. Every time something goes wrong, she whines and starts crying or giving Kasams! She makes the whole situation about her.

It's nothing much different from Pre leap 😕 when SKD Trio reached lawyer office to search PS documents in order to stop them she put Gaumbi kasam which Shiva shocked yeh kya Kiya why kasam on Gaumbi 🥺

It started from Krish’s cigarette to Belan for Shiva and creating a dollhouse for Shiva-😏Raavi. These aren't just puppets; these are real people.

Cigarettes thing is over board and krish remind her she is bhabhi not mom why always behind them never gaumbi n suman do the way she is which lost Shiva patience

The right question to be asked to Raavi was-Raavi, you are hurt, Rishita can not speak to you like this.

Instead, she just started being Apologetic again. Why can't she let Raavi be?

Too much to expect Dhara to consider all perceptives

I have time and again said, Raavi is experiencing PTSD and abandonment. Such people feel unloved, especially if they are latching onto someone. Shiva gives her life some purpose in her existential crisis. But, the brutal reminder by Rishita of her loveless existence makes her go bonkers.

Coupled with abandonment and not worthy enough. She said today- Itni hi Napasand this to why did he marry her?

If you see, there's a strong sense of anger in her rejection. The sad part is Dhara claims to know her children but fails to understand their individuality And emotional distress.

Her parables aren’t going to help 🆘!

Dhara definitely needs to apologise for her actions before anyone else's. Also, I don't stand by Raavi in this because her anger is to only selective people. If she can point Dhara then she'll have to accept her Mausapa's heart clutching got her to the mandap. I'm appalled that Raavi doesn't give it back left, right and centre to DevTa. Dev needs to be on the recieving end of Raavi the most.

I'm not sympathetic to Raavi because she's selective in her actions. She's going to only scratch the one's who she knows won't scratch her back. Obviously she's not doing it in a vampish way, even then it's wrong.

Also Dhara needs to understand the term MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS please. You sometimes needs to let kids fall in mess so that they know how to come out of it. True parenting isn't cushioning your child. It's letting them face life head on. Also if she's so much of a mother then she should have taught Dev to own his mistakes and apologize properly to everyone for throwing a Rishita on them.

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Dhara definitely needs to apologise for her actions before anyone else's. Also, I don't stand by Raavi in this because her anger is to only selective people. If she can point Dhara then she'll have to accept her Mausapa's heart clutching got her to the mandap. I'm appalled that Raavi doesn't give it back left, right and centre to DevTa. Dev needs to be on the recieving end of Raavi the most.

I'm not sympathetic to Raavi because she's selective in her actions. She's going to only scratch the one's who she knows won't scratch her back. Obviously she's not doing it in a vampish way, even then it's wrong.

Also Dhara needs to understand the term MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS please. You sometimes needs to let kids fall in mess so that they know how to come out of it. True parenting isn't cushioning your child. It's letting them face life head on. Also if she's so much of a mother then she should have taught Dev to own his mistakes and apologize properly to everyone for throwing a Rishita on them.

I agree with the fact that Dhara needs to mind her own business. But in this case, i.e., Rishita insulting Raavi, somebody had to give it back and Raavi most certainly was not in a state to do so.

As for the part in bold, Dhara already did apologise and she accepts the fact that she has wronged Raavi (check the episode of the grah pravesh, she tells Raavi that she'll receive the punishment for her sins, though that seems a bit OTT to me). I don't know what y'all are expecting her to do. Go on her knees and beg for forgiveness? If y'all remember right, you know that Dhara was the one who wanted to spill the beans about Dev and Rishita to Raavi. Gaumbi stopped her with a kasam and all the other brothers also forced her to lie to Suman about it.

I agree with the fact that she shouldn't have emotionally blackmailed Shiva into the marriage but did so because she didn't want a repeat of what happened to Anita. And guys, if the wedding didn't happen, we would probably never have a ShiVi, as insensitive as that sounds.

Dhara herself is confused with how to deal with all this, cuz for ten years, she just had to take care of her brothers-in-law. So the best way she deals with it is gyaan bantna. Cut her some slack. She can't fulfill everybody's expectations. And don't worry, once Suman comes along, she'll make Dhara realise that she can't fix everything.

One more thing, Dhara has spent 10 years with Suman who doesn't let one opportunity go waste when it comes to bajaooing her DIL. We know that it is in good heart and so does Dhara. But Rishita and Raavi have never been on the receiving end of Suman's taanas. Dhara doesn't want to give Suman an opportunity to do the same with Rishita which is why she is trying to make her understand. Not that it's working.

And as for her 'taang adaana', I am not justifying it but just trying to think from her POV. She feels guilty about all that's happening and thinks she is responsible for it. This is her way of dealing with it. Not saying its right, but just saying that everyone has their own way of coping.

Her methods are wrong, but her heart is in the right place. Gyaan dena is her flaw, one which we'll have to accept.

My Question is why is Dhara not going and giving her lectures to Rishita who is wrong at this point of time? Why is it always "Raavi you need to move on, handle this handle that!?" Why is everyone being lectured on how to handle Rishita while everyone is getting hurt and affected because of her most of the times? (not always, mostly. she is right sometimes)

And just let Raavi breath Gosh, her whole life is messed up!

Firstly- I think Dhara is trying to do some damage control. She has always kept the family together and she doesn’t want to even imagine her family breaking up... which left up to Rishita that’s what will happen. That’s why she is trying to make sure there is as much peace in the house as possible.

secondly just like how she spoke to dev about giving Rishita time and all that, really she needs to be having a conversation with Shiva about giving his marriage a chance. Maybe her and Gaumbi need to sit him down and say to him fight with Raavi in your room etc but Infront of everyone give her respect. It’s the fact that both he and Raavi don’t show respect to each other is the reason Rishita can speak about their relationship like that and she knows if she speaks infront of Shiva she will face the fire but Raavi will not say much.

thirdly Raavi you need to know when to speak... come on yes you are not happy, yes your husband doesn’t love you but hey you have enough self respect to stand up to Rishita and say don’t go blaming your insecurities on me. Deal with your insecurities yourself and that’s what Rishita is... insecure, but that doesn’t give her the green light to behave the way she does.

Those are my thoughts and there are many more but I don’t want to bore you guys with a very long post.

You guys raised so many valid Points.

I liked Raavis outburst. Dhara is confusing me...

She needed to carry forward her attitude and let Raavi know that she will make sure that Rishita stays put, then Raavi wouldn’t be crying anymore...

But telling her, I can’t see you crying and sorry on rishitas behalf... was pissing me off... god knows what Raavi felt at that Moment