Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37 - Page 22

Originally posted by: Mou.

I replied to ur step -8 sabah! I was bz so got late & later i get super excited abt VM making.writing for posts took back seat for me! u know na! lazy me only do one thing at a time.....but i guess i m back!!!!!!!😆hey, my motto, no loyalty only honesty. I don't require blind allegiance. If you ventured upon others paths of your own adventure, then as long as you are happy, that is all I need to know. Having said that, I cannot deny that your posts always bring a smile to me face, heart and knock a little sense into my stubborn mind!
Thanks mou!

Originally posted by: Mou.

loved this step 9 sabah!!!😃.so, far it is the best guiding tips i think !!!!!I am not surprised everybody loves FUN!😆

Originally posted by: nanditasingh

Dear Sabah, me finally here...
I wont go on and on but be short with my comments..since I have more than one post of yours to read and reply on..Why has everyone decided that there is a deadline?! Please take your time! We are trying to create meadows not construct docks!
5th Step

'As a child when you fall, whether physically or emotionally, there is no balm like the soft caress of a mother's touch, the strength of comfort of those tight hugs, the coolness of her hands upon your burning tear soaked face; rejuvenating your tired soul. As an adult, it is the same'

So so true.....
Have you noticed how peacefully a small baby sleeps in the cradle of its mom's arms...this thing never changes... though we grow up , but its just the same way like the baby we too always crave for the protection , warmth and love of our mom's touch...of her soothing voice and her peaceful presence.One of my favourite lines from a film, this girl of 35-40 years has had one of the worst days of her life, she comes home,goes to her mum's room, and snuggles up to her mother, so reciprocates and asks what is wrong to which she replies' nothing, your smell rejuvenates me!' This is the truth. There is nothing like the smell, warmth of touch of your mother, whether biological or emotional, those who caressed you as a child.
'I love the use of the 'prop'; the newspaper as a subtle distracting reminder that we are but one soul living through our troubles amongst five billion other souls and their troubles; that despite our insistence upon dwelling upon our woes they are comparatively not even news worthy.'
only you i can be sure of can notice this small detail and bring the larger picture it presents into view...Nandita, only you don't say 'what a load of nonsense!'
'Why is it that no one can resist nudging Mayank's nose?'
when he makes bored sort of face , as if he is not interested in the part of the conversation (though we know he is interested) ...when he does that he looks more cute ..guess thats why....It that placing your hand in the lions mouth sort of excitement!
'She nurtures his resilience by reminding him the routes we pursue are as important as the results.'
sure we know Mayank too agrees with this or else the whole fight that resulted into competition between him and Nupur could not have taken place....he had the report in hand ...some lesser person could have been content with it...it takes but Mayank to see the fault in it...Well noted!👏 The means do not justify the ends. We need to work hard even if the results are hardly noticeable. For the true results are within our souls!
'She diffuses the tension between Mayank and Nupur by treating her like a guest, reinforcing the above point to Mayank, that despite the inherent rivalry in her challenge, she isn't his rival but peer if not friend. '
yeah love mothers for this..its common with a mother i guess...whenever i had a fight with any of my class buddies , mom during lunch hour when she used to come could hear to me calmly ..
the moment i ended up pouring all the grief/anger over the person or situation that led to the fight out ... she used to ask me where actually is that friend of mine...this could anger me the most... i could yell...she/he is not my friend...mom used to more calmly add if she isn't its time you make friends with that person .... if you do that you will see that she /he is same as you are... and you have similarly hurt her as she you think has hurt you.......Nandita, the more I hear about your mother the more 'you' make sense. I am quite enamoured by you both. True we should not hate people, only the things they do and we should always leave open the possibility that they have changed from the last moment you met them, even if that was only a moment ago!
'Aunty's golden advice which I have always tried to live my life by; only ever compete with yourself. '
the real competition for us are we ourselves ...... if all of us could really follow this thought then sure we could make a better person out of ourselves and every competition could have a positive end and result...no losing only winning.Excellent Nandita, 👏⭐️👏, no losing ONLY winning! I love it! 😃

Originally posted by: a little faith

Hey Sabah,Hey Butterfly
At many a times i guess at everytime, when we read, we perceive and make an opinion about certain things, its possible that there is a demarcation between the literal and actual world which I am not able to see, But what we feel remains the same for both as feelings are real. Thats why one gets the most upset when those feelings are put in jeopardy.👏Well said, as with irony, pedantic and semanitc, it is the intention of our words and actions that infuse our souls and results. When say hurtful things and ask why are you hurt? Your intentions found their goal, so why do you ask? It is amazing but even through the isolation and distance of the internet, we still can cause much love, pain and happiness. The words the means, our intentions the source of our results!
Life teaches us and everyday indeed we learn something new, at times we acknowledge and many a times we don't. Sabah I have always believed in coincidences happening but I had never seen it from your angle till now; which indeed is very interesting and cogently presented!👍🏼Actually this is quite a new 'theory' I am testing out, but I truly do believe that it carries weight.
Darkness, Wow i agree it has its advantages, its usually looked upon as a evil monster in the story with the light as the White Angel but that is not appropriate per say, both light and dark are each important in its place and have been brought out for a purpose. We also get to appreciate light more when we are deprived of it and have to be in darkness!There is wisdom in everything, sometimes things, people make it hard for us to see that. However we are ignorant, we lack complete knowledge. Only when we 'know' everything can we accurately 'judge'. Since we can never know everything, we must concede humbly that things are not as dark or black as they seem.
👏 very well quoted, indeed even if we win the world and lose our heart and soul, that world becomes meaningless! Oh no no Sabah I would love to try something so wonderful like that.We must look after our hearts, they are our guides and gauges in the real world outside our dreams.
I agree about Shilpa Aunty and her grace which can charm anyone, you put it so well. Shalwar kameez she inspired me to wear it, my aunt and I went to get one for my cousin so I got one for myself too, its such a beautiful dress! I love the ones N and G wear as well!😊They are simple but elegant. However I believe that the suit does not make the man! Shilpa Aunty, Nupur and Gunjan imbue their costumes with their lights and grace and not the other way around!
Mayank is a son who would any mother proud and now any wife as well. I know so many people stop trying, life is all about never giving up, hard times come and go, we have to learn how to face them. Its so beautiful to see M always doing that and now N also doing that with him. But then she has also never given up!😃Of course we should strive even when others do not reciprocate, however it is a lot easier, warmer and beautiful when both return that grace.
Sabah I missed one of the points you made in the last post about how even one smile, even of a stranger makes one feel so wonderful, I so agree and this show I just have a strong emotional connection and attachment, with MN and all the characters closely related to them!😳The smile, so infectious, so hypnotizing, makes lions kittens, fills both the recipient and giver with light upon light. Best of all, it is accessible to all and completely free!
👏 the japanese culture has always and always inspired me and leave me in awe.Every culture has so many wonderful insights, it is a shame that we are losing our heritage through neglect and capitalist branding and breeding. God bless you Sabah. God bless us all, butterfly.

Originally posted by: nanditasingh

step -7

'That apparent hurt upon hurt upon Mayank's face. The disappointment of Nupur's actions over which his own disappointment of his actions in front of his mother. '

one thing i admire again about both Mayank and Nupur...whenever they are at fault and the moment they realize it they seek forgiveness humbly be it from the parents or friends...they don't let that moment pass on Nowadays, people's ego won't allow them through to this release and purity, it cages and binds them in justifications which putrefy their cores.
Shrimad Bhagwad Gita we are taught since our very childhood as the very means that can enlighten your mind of or in any given situation...
the Shlok infact did enlighten our Mayu ... of his own inner Mahabharat.....we later on do see him remembering this very moment and slokh when Nupur questions him why is he so much interested in finding her faults or correcting them...to sum up..his mind has its full 'focus' on her.This is the best example of how to 'teach' children;by relating lessons in books to the lessons in life.

(The kindling of Mayank's fervent indignation exquisitely animated by Arjun!)
he was cutest here.....I am indebted to Arjun and Vaishnavi for this scene, all the joy and moments of happiness it has given me. Their reactions to each others actions is outstanding. I cannot flaw either one. A very high calibre of acting. I am truly privileged. 👏👏👏
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Originally posted by: nanditasingh

8th part

'Our ancestors used to say that 'Your parents are like the Sun and the Moon' you cannot afford to neglect them, for their very presence affects the push and pull of the tides upon the shores of your heart.'

how beautifully the essential truth you have put into words...The beauty lies in the truth of the words. For beautiful words can also be shallow and exude nothing but emptiness of vacant hearts.

'Shilpa Aunty despite being a single working parent is a permanent fixture in Mayank's life. Like the Sun, Moon and Seasons, she is always present for his awakening and sleeping; his going and returning; his consistency and his changing.'

it is at it should be or we expect it to be.....minus the presence of Shilpa aunty the whole elders/guardians/parents missing scenario is really scary for me .... her presence infact is insuring that there is some one to guide you ..some one you can bank on ... not a drifting island but a strong plateau that wont let you fall or let you get lost in the sea of faces we move amongst.I applaud MJHT creators for giving us such a stable character who is always there to respond to Mayank's hello and good byes. I know some children who when their mother enters the room, don't even turn their heads in acknowledgment. In a era of time saving gadgets, have we not accumulated and saved enough time to reciprocate 1/1000th of the love, nurture and attention that was once given?
'She knows as well as Mayank, as I have said before, they depend upon each other like that perfectly balanced seesaw; without the other not only would they lack purpose in their life but they would be broken.'

its sad that these creatives keeping us deprived of this wonderful relationship/understanding/balance that this mother-son duo sharedNandita, in the MJHT i watch in my head, she is present. I love 'imagination' however only for reel NEVER for real!
'He was the lone solution in need of 'his' problem'
yes he was and is ...thankfully he did understood it soon and took his place beside her...with her Nandita, he learnt that you can't win against your own heart! It controls all your other limbs actions! 😆
as Dodo once told Nupur...(later on) when she wanted to know about if her match with Mayank could work or not..
he tells her not knowing that the "impossible" according to him has happened , he tells her - shocked and amused that they are no match at all..... he is perfection ki missal.....were as she is galtiyon ka peetara...I loved this line too. Uday had some great lines in MJHT.
but only they and sure did Shilpa aunty realize that together they did compliment eachother - perfectly suited and matched I have I told you my 'theory' about how Mayank takes after his father, thereby Shilpa Aunty being Nupur to his Mayank, and therefore with Mayank and Nupur now we have histroy repeating itself. What do you think? Be honest and share your ideas too.
"waise mein, baal ke khal toh nikalna chahti, lekin..." Shilpa Aunty's gracefulness permeates the pun and flows through into irony; the ebb and flow of actual and literal continues on in her tones. Mayank aptly looks as vulnerable as those rocks on those shores which the tides crash down upon.
Arjun presented such a cute picture here ... its really hard to resist not wanting to hug him....'cuteness personified' indeed.I would gladly sacrifice a million 'pehli baar mohhabbat hai' for one of these 'cute' moments. Their originality is incomparable and their rarity like rocks sprouting!
finally ...i did it...me dancing
be back with my tuppence on your last post...I look forward to the pleasing sound of that change rolling around in my pockets of indulgence!