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Originally posted by: areeba_blossom
Shaavi, I finally get what you are saying and the concluding idea, whether or not Sonakshi would be able to live with the "perfectionist" standards set by "society" or be a "perfectionist" by having a work and personal life in eyes of those close to her?
That is a good question that I can stay for. The idea of "perfectionism" is subjective from community to community and what's Sonakshi's subjective is going to be a good struggle for her to come out from.Also Shaavi, your term of using "biological privilege" is not what you are using it as. Biological privilege is a relationship shared between biological parents and their children and those who are adopted or fostered are deprived of that privilege.I think you are trying to reference the idea that being a mother universally means being your child's go-to parent however Sonakshi would lose out on being to go-to parent by splitting her time professionally and personally. Mostly it will be little things like what happened in school or a routine moment but I understand your perspective on how Sonakshi would be able to reconcile with that.I would still say that the makers are blurring lines overwhere in the writing and execution.
Areeba, I am referring to the decision that Sonakshi took of concealing her pregnancy and the birth of Soha to Dev. Here she took advantage of the fact that she was the one who was carrying the baby. And made unilateral decision of not even adding his name to the birth certificate. In any legal system when the parents are fighting for custody of minor, the courts usually favors the mother. She is the one who is being given the custody saying "mother's are better at caring for their child". And that is what I am talking about. It was Sonakshi who decided not to tell Dev about Soha when it was her responsibility in every way. She is bound legally, morally and ethically to tell Dev about Soha's existence, but she did nothing of the sort. Even in yesterday's episode, Dev took full responsibility of the consequences and felt guilty about it.
When Suhana was introduced first time by Sonakshi to Dev, Soha questioned him saying that just because you are my father, you are not my "papa". For me a papa is someone like Bijoy who takes care of her mom. Then Dev had to prove that he will take care of her like Bijoy to be called as "papa" by her. Now it is Dev who is playing the role of a caregiver which is generally played by the mother. Sonakshi was called as "mom" by Suhana till now. But what has Sonakshi done till now where she has put Suhana or now Shubh as a priority over her profession. She has always been shown to prioritize work over Soha and Soha was shown to be understanding. But now when Soha sees her papa making her a priority, she will gravitate more towards him, consider him as her primary parent. So what happens when Suhana will question Sonakshi by not going to her for her needs. She will say you go do your work, papa hain na, woh kardenge. At that point will Sonakshi be ok of losing her biological advantage.
Here is where Bijoy comes in. If tomorrow Sonakshi feels bad that her kids are more inclined towards Dev and that she is not considered as the "best mom in the world" by her daughter, calls herself a failure, will he advice her that it is ok or will he blame Dev and say that it is all Dev's fault. And that is when the whole idea of perfection and social image will come into play. And it will also come back to the document that Sonakshi got Dev to sign just before he was able to take her home as his daughter.
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