*Season 2, Week 32* Analysis Thread - Page 30

Originally posted by: sp12

@SHAAVI Really like your optimism, I will be really happy if even 10% of what you are expecting comes true but unfortunately I have really low hopes in fact no hopes, I am watching the series out of habit and for the cute kids.

Same like you. No hopes at all. But watching for Dev Subh and Soha Golu

Originally posted by: cscs

Dev clearly said that he want to slow down now as he has worked throughout is life, missed his childhood, missed his first born childhood. And not only for Sonakshi he is doing it for himself. He wants to give his family time and he has always been a family person and money comes last for him. Personally i don't feel there is any problem in it.

N more than women empowerment, its liberating men. A guy wants to take rest and enjoy his family life. Bcz we all are so busy in supporting women empowerment or criticizingit we forget that gender equality includes both the sexes, female as well as male. N i have never seen enjoying so called "male privileges" of the society. In fact he has always been burdened with it.

Last but not the least, at least i don't under estimate Dev Dixit at all, specially when it comes to business. 7 yrs he made Vicky think that he is running the company when in reality he was just a puppet. I will wait for the story to unfold before passing on my judgement on Dev's intelligence.

Exactly dear and there is nothing of glorifying FL here balki this is showing Dev as a supportive husband and how he is going to live his childhood
People are finding it a problem shows that our society will never change

Originally posted by: Devakshilover

Exactly dear and there is nothing of glorifying FL here balki this is showing Dev as a supportive husband and how he is going to live his childhood
People are finding it a problem shows that our society will never change

Hello everyone,

Not for anything else, I am delighted to see so many of you coming back and posting your views. It was too quiet for past few days. I haven't seen today's episode yet so don't have anything to comment on. Due to change in timings, by the time I watch the episode and am ready to post, it's almost time for you all in India to watch next episode and send comments on new episode so right now I am only happy with reading everyone's posts.

As some of you mentioned, I am also watching the show as it comes without any further expectations - and as @Lakshmi mentioned, I am also watching our show more so for all the kids and Dev, especially Vidvaan and Shaheer. Watching Dev Dixit taking care of Shubh and Soha is so adorable to watch. I am so happy and content for Dev that finally he is living his childhood through his kids. And because I don't have any expectations from the show except for seeing Dev happy and content with his life, I think I am enjoying it more.

Thanks everyone who are posting their views. Whether I agree or disagree, they are certainly very enjoyable and I definitely look forward to reading them.

Sincerely,

Ji 😃

Originally posted by: cscs

Bingo in fact for me they are showing Dev in a better light. Not only supporting his wife but also enjoying a phase of life which he has missed. Has he ever done anything for his happiness earlier. N yes change is to start from our own self and mind then only we can expect others to change.

For me the interesting part today was the Golu-Suhana scene where they were playing role play of a husband-wife and then it hit me that how easily the makers have stereotyped the roles of a husband and wife, in today's world where the husband and wife are playing equal responsibilities be it taking care of the home or the kids yet the makers here stereotyped it which for me was very disappointing. I have so many friends and relatives where the husband & wife take up equal responsibilities yet the makers seem to be in their own bubble that if it's a man then all he does is pass orders and earn money, if it's a woman then all she does is take orders, do make up and take care of the kids. But today not only in urban but also in rural areas this is changing. So for me it was really disappointing

Again not many might agree but it's just my POV, no offence.

Suyash,

The scene enacted by Soha and Golu was true around 20 - 30 years ago. Things have changed. What Golu was shown doing is done by both husband and wife at one point of time or the other. Same with what Soha is doing. Now in most of the families that I have seen, both husband and wife share the chores as needed. There is role reversal upto certain extent at times and there is "compromise. A relationship is a 2 way street. When you are in a relationship, the "adjustments shouldn't always be from one side. Both the people involved in that relationship should be accommodating the other person and their views. Being in relationship is being in a team. It cannot always be as one person wants.

But right now the imbalance is from Sonakshi's side. She is unwilling to compromise anything. I remember this dialogue from Dil Chahtha hai that Amir Khan says towards the end of the movie perfection ko improve nahin karsakte. No human is perfect. Everyone will learn something or the other their whole life long. Just because I am a mom doesn't mean that there is nothing to learn from my kids. Just because I have become an adult doesn't mean that there is nothing left that my mom, my brothers cannot teach. Every day you learn something new, something that you didn't know before. That is where Dev is. He is very much self aware that he is human. Ishwari has also to a large extent realized that there are things that she doesn't know. That she can learn new things too. But she also has experience. She is trying to explain her experience. For her she had to go to work leaving a child behind because she had to and didn't have a choice. That her leaving her child was necessary for their survival. She doesn't want what she was forced to do be repeated again when there is no need for such drive. And I am sure she will come around and support Dev and Sonakshi.

Here is where Sonakshi and Bijoy have stuck themselves. They both are still living in the bubble that they are perfect, that they don't need to learn anything. And making adjustments in life that too where they compromise on their thought process is a big no no for them. In the post I made, I mentioned that there were n number of ways that Dev and Sonakshi could have solved her dilemma of whether she should stay at home or go to work. Bijoy who today said he is proud of Dev for deciding to stay back was extremely unhappy when his daughter tried to change. His belief that there is no need for Sonakshi to change has created such a block for Sonakshi that she is not able to see that she is wrong. Her whole "I don't have a choice, "what can I do, woe is me attitude is what we are discussing. She constantly continues to paint herself as a victim and not the author, thereby refusing to take responsibility for any consequence that she feels are less than ideal. When a consequence has the ability to show her in poor light, she just runs away from that situation rather than owning that decision and saying it is ok. I made a mistake and will learn from it.

Even with everything that has happened, she and Bijoy have learnt nothing. Sonakshi who is aware that Dev's guilt of not being in Soha's life is not his mistake still continues to let him bear the brunt but doesn't think of absolving him or sharing the blame. When she talks of equality, she expects him to do his part and share half of her everything. But she doesn't do the same. She doesn't share anything of what Dev goes through. Her love is so conditional that she just expects him to be the one to change all the time so that she doesn't have to. She wants to keep both her dreams and Bijoy's dreams intact and fulfill them without them affecting the other. But that is not possible. Both of them are kind of opposite to the other. To fulfill both of them, she needs to compromise and that is unpalatable to her. It once again goes back to her assumption that she and her baba are perfect. And perfect people don't compromise.

The question that comes to me is will Sonakshi be happy if the experiment succeeds. Will she be happy with being the second best in her children's lives. Will Bijoy be understanding if society labels his daughter as not a good mom, wife and DIL. Dev will come out unfazed as he doesn't really give too much thought to society labels but cares for what his family thinks. He wouldn't be the one affected the most. But can the same be said for Bose family including Sonakshi. Will she really be happy with the results.

@Shaavi, the reason why I said that the scene enacted by Soha and Golu saddened me immensely was because I know that these thoughts are no longer true but unfortunately, there are still a lot of people in our society who cling on to these traditional beliefs...

How overwhelmed I get with episodes is insane

No words to express how I feel and enjoy and smile get happy <3

The subtlety and softness of this show is everything..They dont force you to accept anything but they give you reason to think understand and feel

They are not giving any social message but they are raising some amusing questions..Generations and generations have followed this "so called" rule..because we are made to believe this is right and sadly still in this era we dont want to even see other perspective..accepting is toh out of question

I am a proud and happy viewer who can confidently flaunt of what I watch

I am more thankful to makers to creatives for coming up with something like this..Shaheer for being so convincing as Dev..Erica so wonderful as Sonakshi <3

Every episode is memorable and I can atleast watch it in loop
A proud Dev lover <3 I am

No offense My POV