Suyash, Areeba, the idea is not to show that men cannot be stay at home dads. It is to question the norm that "mom's are more important than dads for kids". In any legal system, when the question comes up regarding awarding child custody to one of the parents, the decision is always in favor of the mother(female). Only if the mom is found incompetent or incapable, the custody of the child is given to the father. In U.S , it is not easy for gay couples to adopt children as the idea is two men will not able to care for the baby better since there is no female present in that equation.
If we are talking gender equality, feminism and women empowerment, shouldn't the converse be true too. The notion that mom is the one who can take care of the children the best or men empowerment is not talked about. Why is the mother considered as the best care giver by society. Why are the men not empowered to be able to take a break to care for the baby. Why is the custody of the baby not given to the father even though the mother is competent and capable. If females are saying that we can do everything men can do, so don't treat us any less than them, then are the females ready to give up their biological advantage. When the parents of females look for a groom, why do they want a guy who is more educated than their daughters, or someone who earns more than their wives. When a couple go for a date or dinner, the expectation is that the guy opens the door of the car, pulls the chair for the lady, pours the wine, pays for the dinner etc. If we are talking about women empowerment, are these expectations right. Why shouldn't both the people pay for their own everything. If a guy doesn't do these etiquette, why do we say that he isn't been given good upbringing or that he is not taught to respect women. Are we as women ready to give up those privileges that our gender provides us, that we enjoy.
Gender equality should not be a one side thing. And that is what the makers are questioning. Why do we expect the men to be the ones to pursue the women. From the beginning even though Sonakshi talks about equality, she has never really been shown to take charge and take the first step. She didn't confess her love to Dev for fear of rejection. As soon as he said get out, she just went with what her baba wanted and didn't really tell him what she wanted. She didn't dare to wait or even pursue Dev at any given time. Only recently during Nisha engagement time, she followed Dev and expressed herself. In the beginning of the leap, every single time she made it a point to say that neither she nor Soha need him, that they are perfect without him. She made him feel useless. She in fact misused her biological advantage and didn't reveal Soha's existence to Dev.
Sonakshi believed in fairy tales. In all those fairy tales, the "prince" is the one shown to go on a quest to find the "princess". But she told Dev that she wants to fight her own battles aand that she didn't want him to be the one to slay her dragons. Dev is doing exactly that. He is letting her be the one to slay dragons. But when she comes back after the dragons are slayed, she will find that she has lost her biological advantage. That he is the "go to" person for her kids. Is she ready to face the reality at that time and say I am ok as to not being called the "best mom, wife or DIL". This not being the "perfect" woman as considered by society will be a big stain on her perfection image. Will she be able to accept it and say that is fine. And that for me is the theme of this season. The tracks are for Sonakshi to finally realize that there is not such thing as "perfect human" and one can be best at who they are. And for a person to be best, they need to compromise and accept that it might not be the "ideal" anything.
@Suyash, regarding Sonakshi absolving Dev of his guilt of not being in Sonakshi's life, what i mean is she is still letting him take complete responsibility of his absence. And from my pov, that is wrong. She shares the blame. So my expectation is that she apologizes for the part she played in Dev not being in Soha's life, admit to her mistake and make amends. She needs to tell him that he alone is not responsible for him not being in Soha's childhood.
I feel this track is especially targeted towards Sonakshi's unilateral decision regarding Suhana where she choose to not reveal the child's existence to him. She exercised her biological privilege at that time. She also got Dev to sign that document when he wanted to take her to IN. So what happens when Suhana and Shubh ignore her when she tries to come back to them after that project is over. What will be Sonakshi's reaction when Suhana considers her as just someone who gave birth to her, as Ms. Sonakshi Bose rather than her "mom". I feel Sonakshi will be then forced to prove that she is worthy of being called "mom" by Suhana. She will be in Dev's place like he was when Suhana called him Mr. Dixit instead of "papa". Will Sonakshi be ok and give tests like Dev to prove herself worthy of being called as "mom" by Suhana. Why should the baby call his/her mother as "mom, just because she gave birth to the child. Why shouldn't the "mom" prove that she should be called as "mom" by the child.
And that is where it all comes to. Is Sonakshi ready to accept her loss of biological advantage. And what will be her reaction to that.
Edited by Shaavi - 8 years ago
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