I’m not sure if I should say this but Hrithik as a character still fails to incite any sympathy within me even after that precap.
Maybe I am too jaded, idk.
I understand he’s under pressure, his wife treats him horribly and the verbal abuse has stripped away what little confidence he had. His self esteem is zero, his mental health is zero…
I understand all of that…
Yet I find it hard to sympathise with him. I don’t know why he married Mittali but his rant today against Tulsi made me think he’s still too immature, pathetic and worse of all, wants to be babied. He’s holding his mother’s absence as the reason why his life fell apart as if her presence was assured as a constant forever.
I understand how an abusive partner, even a mentally, emotionally, verbally and psychologically abusive partner can do a number on a person; and yes Mittali qualifies as an abusive wife in this regard, she’s inflicting mental cruelty on her husband, she’s a terrible mother… but that still doesn’t change the fact that Hrithik wants to hold his mom accountable for his miseries as if she orchestrated these circumstances personally to ruin his life.
I understand that the makers are trying to go for the hurt child angle here, show that the child is affected when parents have a problem in their marriage and how their split inevitably affects their children, particularly the most sensitive children the hardest, this still falls short and doesn’t seem to inspire the kind of reaction they are seeking, at least from my POV as a viewer of this show.
For one, Hrithik while perhaps the most sensitive child of TuHir was no child when things went wrong and they fell apart. He was an adult and he had to grasp that his mother was so terribly wronged, for a second time. Daksha’s scene ensured that there was no ambiguity regarding the matter, Hrithik was present and had to have heard how Mihir has cheated on Tulsi again, for a second time.
Just like one doesn’t necessarily have to burn their skin with acid to know that it’s dangerous and can inflict pain and injuries so severe that you might wish for death to stop feeling it, one doesn’t need to be married and cheated on twice by their own spouse to get what Tulsi must have felt back then.
Heck, Hrithik couldn’t handle Munni’s lies and their relationship, if it could be even called that was merely online and involved nothing beyond chatting with each other. Yet here he’s having these lofty expectations from his mother? He’s angry at her for choosing her sanity, dignity and self respect for which she needed space? Really?!! Is he serious?!
To me, Hrithik appears as someone who’s found a scapegoat in his mum to blame for the mess that his life has become rather than a child lost and hurting for his mother.
Tulsi’s departure from the home can’t be blamed for Hrithik’s lack of confidence in navigating his own life, for the decisions that led his life here. Today he can say his mom leaving was the reason why everything went wrong because she’s back. But what if she couldn’t be back?
Parents, including mothers aren’t immortal, even if we wish they could be. Tulsi could have been dead, been in an accident that left her in a coma or as a vegetable, she could have been paralysed, age could have caused her to lose her cognitive abilities, some sudden stroke could have caused her to be bedridden … point is, parents are not responsible to look after us all our lives. They might wish they could and they would if they have the opportunity to do so for as long as their bodies permit them and life allows them but they are also limited by their physical abilities that slow with age and of course their own mortality.
Hrithik wasn’t so young as to be unable to grasp these hard realities. He’s not even now.
Initially I saw him fail as a son when I saw he had married Mittali despite everything and today I saw him failing as a father.
He blames his mother for leaving; when she merely chose to walk away so as to not suffocate and die while she stayed back in SN after knowing what Mihir did; but his mother still left with her head held high and with the assurance that she won’t kill herself, even though even she briefly almost was suicidal but she didn’t actively take the step to kill herself which Hrithik did today.
Ironically, Hrithik was doing the same thing he accused his mother of and taking it to an extreme; had he succeeded he would’ve hurt his daughter in a far worse manner than Tulsi ever hurt him.
Even though she walked away, she didn’t leave in a manner that wouldn’t even allow Hrithik the opportunity to hope to get her back again someday. What he did could have ensured a door closing permanent for his own daughter who wouldn’t have even had a good mother to care for her in his absence, something he already knows.
It tells you something when Pari is far more aware than Hrithik and willing to take accountability for her life, decisions and their outcomes than her brother who was supposed to be the more responsible one of the two at least.
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