*Season 2, Week 28* Analysis Thread - Page 21

Sam, you said it all and I did read spoilers that Sonakshi is going leave Dev and IN saying that her "freedom" is more important to her. And Ishwari explaining to Dev where he went overboard. If we go by the parallels from season 1, then like Neha, Dev also may send "divorce notice" to Sonakshi saying "here you go. You want your independence, here it is. You are free to be what you want to be,independent of me or my love. Jaa jeele apni zindagi". Or maybe the other way around where Sonakshi files for divorce and Dev sends the "maanasik utpeedan" notice like Ranveer. Both the above options will be interesting cause Sonakshi will no longer be able write herself to be victim of circumstances nor will she be able to direct the blame towards someone else and say she was not wrong. She will have to take responsibility for both her decisions and actions irrespective of "intentions".

Originally posted by: Shaavi

Sam, you said it all and I did read spoilers that Sonakshi is going leave Dev and IN saying that her "freedom" is more important to her. And Ishwari explaining to Dev where he went overboard. If we go by the parallels from season 1, then like Neha, Dev also may send "divorce notice" to Sonakshi saying "here you go. You want your independence, here it is. You are free to be what you want to be,independent of me or my love. Jaa jeele apni zindagi". Or maybe the other way around where Sonakshi files for divorce and Dev sends the "maanasik utpeedan" notice like Ranveer. Both the above options will be interesting cause Sonakshi will no longer be able write herself to be victim of circumstances nor will she be able to direct the blame towards someone else and say she was not wrong. She will have to take responsibility for both her decisions and actions irrespective of "intentions".

@Shaavi: I will be really angry with these two if they get all the way to divorce papers, and at their families if they let that happen. All they need is for Asha to lock them up in a room and tell them she will take Soha away if they don't play nice. Honestly, they are both being ridiculous. 😡

Wow So much to read..Wonderful guys..Oh I see Sam so active..Nice

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@Shaavi: I will be really angry with these two if they get all the way to divorce papers, and at their families if they let that happen. All they need is for Asha to lock them up in a room and tell them she will take Soha away if they don't play nice. Honestly, they are both being ridiculous.😡

The reason I mentioned divorce is based on how both Sonakshi and Dev are behaving. If Ishwari tells him where he is wrong and how he has pushed Sonakshi away by trying to hold her tightly even giving her own example of what she did, then Dev who is ever ready to correct himself may see this as a way of truly setting her free. His logic will be she doesn't want to be Mrs. Sonakshi Dixit but wants to remain Ms. Bose, so this way she can remain that forever and be happy with her freedom.

Sonakshi on the other hand takes every one for granted as long as they validate her and make her the center of their universe. She keeps changing her stance to keep her image of perfection intact without really paying attention to how it affects her near and dear ones. Now that Suhana is also involved I feel Sonakshi has to stop to pay attention to what they are trying to tell her. She has to not just hear, but listen, not just to what she wants to hear, but also to that which she doesn't want to hear. For that she needs to lose. Only then she will stop paying attention to what she thinks someone wants from her to what they are expecting from her. Only when she loses that unconditional love that is given to her will she realize what kind of love she has been giving them.

Suhana had asked Dev if you couldn't keep mom happy, how will you keep me happy. At that time she by herself didn't know her 'papa' and went by what was told to her. But now she has seen her 'papa' put both her and her mom's happiness above everything. So if Sonakshi leaves Dev, she will have to tell Suhana the reason. And given how Suhana loves her papa, she cannot really tell her lies. And I also feel that given a choice she may choose to stay with her papa saying that Sonakshi has everyone and she will stay with her papa to take care of him as he also needs someone. Asha locking up anyone is not going to solve anything as long as Sonakshi maintains that she never does anything wrong or as long as that image of "perfection" doesn't break. And it has to shatter for Dev and Sonakshi to have a healthy life. Both Dev and Sonakshi have to admit that Sonakshi is imperfect and flawed. And this is the way it can happen for both of them to come out of their assumptions and go with the truth.

Thanks everyone for your analysis after Friday, 07/28 episode. Everyone's reviews are so deeply thought of and well analyzed. There is so much to learn from each and every one of you. Thank you.

I am just confused about what is going on with these two characters: Dev and Sonakshi. Somehow, instead of making a general statement about a particular situation or episode, I always end up conversing with them.

I remembered a quote after watching and hearing Sonakshi yesterday:

"My mom was my role model before I even knew what that word was." ~ Lisa Leslie (American basketball player)

My daily dose of wisdom to Sonakshi:

"Sonakshi, you are your daughter's role model already. The day you became Soha's mother, you automatically became her role model. She will look up to you for each and every little experience in her life not just your career. And if you choose to continue your career, no one is really stopping you. Work from home, especially for working mothers, is very common in this day and age. I am a little confused on why you resent that idea so much? Is it only because it came from Dev and not you? I am saying this with my experience that kids do not look up to mothers just for how successful they are in their career. There are other measures also why your daughter looks up to you as her role model like being a good human being, loving mother, understanding wife, caring daughter, your own contentment with your life and so on... Your approach with balancing your life with different situations around different relationships will be the biggest influence your daughter will have from you and that will be your achievement - believe me! Otherwise it may end up hurting her more than helping."

As far as Dev, here are two quotes for him:

"Over possessive nature will kill your relationship, you can't call it love while true love has freedom and faith." ~Unknown

"Holding on to anything is like holding on to your breath. You will suffocate. The only way to get anything in the physical universe is by letting go of it. Let go and it will be yours forever." ~ Deepak Chopra

My daily dose of wisdom to Dev:

"Dev, there is no denial of immense love, trust and pride between you and Sonakshi. All you both need now is the understanding of each other's views and realization of the fact that everyone expresses their feeling differently. Holding on to her so tightly, that she can't even breathe, will only get you further away from her as she will feel suffocated. Have faith in her that she will take care of her as she promised you, give her freedom to flourish and you will see the results of your choice."

So I am not sure what both Dev and Sonakshi are thinking at present? What they are doing the best at present, in my eyes, is disagreeing, arguing and imposing their own views about what is best for their daughter and themselves; without realizing they are hurting Soha more than them being a role model for her. They quickly need to get their acts together and meet in the middle ground and resolve their disagreements, if not for themselves, definitely for their daughter, who they both love unconditionally, equally - without a doubt.

Same disclosure from my part: Above are only my views and not meant to hurt anyone. Please do not take them personally.

Wow!!!! The thread jumped 3 pages in the time I finished writing this post so need to catch up with it.

Have a blast this weekend and see you all invisibly after Monday's episode unless there is something "write worthy" prior to that.

Thanks.

Ji 😃😃😃

@ Shaavi

Originally posted by: asha2012

Now seven years later, Dev and Sona decide to get back together. However, now Dev feels she should let her work take a backseat and she should be a housewife.

I don't think they separate anymore, it's been done too many times.