So, I have now made myself acquainted with all the posts that I had missed in the previous week's thread as well as this one...
Since, I am away for the past few days... Today, I would like to talk about stuff which is loosely based on our show, but more on my personal views regarding the various discussions that take place on this thread as well as on some interesting themes/subjects that are being touched in our show...
1. As usual, I have enjoyed all the posts but I guess, my favorite one was @Shaavi's post on Ishwari and the ensuing discussion just added more spice to an already sizzling subject...
Whenever someone writes a post on Ishwari and her motives or her psyche, it reminds me of the time when I used to read articles/stories on Voldemort's perspective during the events in Harry Potter series...
It always left me slightly dazed and in awe of the individuals, who had the courage to look past their actions and understand the inner mechanism which made him commit his deeds as well as transformed him from Tom Riddle into Lord Voldemort...
It is very easy to say that he did a crime because he is Voldemort but very difficult, what made him so comfortable with what he does...
The same scenario also applies to Ishwari... It is so easy for us to hate her because of her actions... But, kudos to @Shaavi and all the writers who tried to decipher someone, who goes by the name of Ishwari Dixit, for their courage...
This is one of the reasons that I am such a frequent visitor to this thread... This space is, for all intents and purposes, the place where I believe everyone can share and discuss their perspective... Without any kind of fear of getting bashed or facing undue criticism...
2. After watching Friday's episode, I can clearly say that we are seeing an incomplete picture and it would be unwise to jump into conclusions...
I am finding it quite interesting on how they are using Khatri as a plot device to reveal the fundamental problem in Dev and Sona's relationship... In one of my previous posts, I spoke about how both of them are currently walking on separate paths and until, they start walking on the same road, they will continue to face hurdles in the form of each other's interference and misunderstandings...
Trust, like morality is not absolute, but relative in nature... It is not given to someone by asking someone else whether they trust the former or not but, needs to be proven and earned through your actions...
It needs to be incrementally built and is a time-consuming task which cannot be rushed...
So, I am looking forward on the changes that will occur between the characters due to this track...
3. Durjoy Dutta's blog was an unexpected but a pleasant surprise... It revealed some aspects of the characters which explained some of their current behaviour...
He touched on a lot of things about how Dev and Sona feel about their love, how they are both stubborn and incorrigible, when it comes to their own views and beliefs...
But, I want to bring into attention some of the statements that was made by him, which I felt were quite critical for us to understand, so that we could solve the puzzle known to us, as 'Devakshi'
3-a. "They are riddled with flaws and that's what makes them interesting. They are real and incorrigible and unpredictable."
In very simple words, he explained the essence of both the show and the protagonists...
3-b. "They falter repeatedly and don't emerge as better as a consequence. They are stubborn, and they hold on to what they think it's right. The truths for them are relative, even convenient. They see things from their vantage point. And that's how people are. They seldom change after a certain age."
This statement, surprisingly reminded me of the Constitution of India.. Before, you start searching for my address to come and beat me... Please let me elaborate...
Our Constitution has been written to enforce certain fundamental ideas and concepts (like freedom of expression, equality for all, etc) and it was heavily influenced by the ideals and beliefs of the leaders during Independence movement...
But, now after 70 years of our Independence and innumerable additions and modifications to our Constitution, the core and fundamental pillars of this document has not been changed. And, they will continue to serve as 'North Star', till the end of eternity...
So, this document should be taken as an absolute truth but again, we see that it is not so.. While we would love to be absolute in nature, but like everything in life, it is also relative...
There have been several instances throughout our long history when individuals, communities and governments have used and tweaked the rules, to suit their own purposes and fulfill their own desires...
This example, again leads me to another thing... Newton's first law of motion, also known as 'Law of Inertia'..
According to the law, every object continues to remain in their existing state of motion, even after the state of motion has changed.. In other simple words, an object remains to be in a state of motion, even after the object comes to a rest.. Hence, it explains an object's hesitance and resistance to change.
So, using the above mentioned examples, I would like to explain on how these supposedly non-related concepts combines together beautifully in the context of humanity and its complexities...
People are a combination of habits and behaviours.. These habits and patterns are a result of circumstances.. And, these circumstances are a product of the events and the values and ideas being passed to them, especially in their childhood years...
The beliefs, core values and ideals passed down to us, during our early childhood and teenage years, become the axis on which our adult life rotates... These become our guide and our reference points...
I am not saying that people don't change... They do change but as time goes, these changes come at a more infrequent or gradual pace... They no longer happen instantly or occur in a matter of hours, days or months.. Our hesitance and reluctance to go against our core values also becomes a plays a crucial role in this process...
For example, babies who start sleeping in a separate room from an early age, accepts this change much more quickly (in a matter of days or weeks)... But, children who have always slept with their parents (like 6 to 8 years, even longer) will face more difficulty in adjusting and adapting to this change...
Now, coming back to the story and how the above concept applies to our characters...
Both Dev and Sonakshi are a product of the beliefs and circumstances that they have been exposed to, in their childhood..
Both, before meeting each other, continued to believe in their values and were driven by these ideals... Both of them have achieved respect and success following the same values.. For them, these were some of the values which were absolute in nature...
But, as time passed by and their relationship went started and went through all the changes, these values, while continuing to remain important, became relative in nature..
There have been several instances throughout their story when these values took a backseat but their reluctance to let these ideals go and hence, change themselves have always been challenging for them, not only due to external factors, but also themselves...
For example, Dev's habit of always blaming himself for not being good enough or his inability to let of his past... Or, for that matter, Sona's habit of protecting everyone or intervening in the matter of others due to her concern...
I am not saying that they cannot change but now, after living nearly 35 (or 33) years on this planet Earth (27 or 26 years when they initially met), they will no longer find it to change their inner selves...
I guess, the same applies to other characters, especially Ishwari and Bijoy and hence, their resistance to change their stance... They have believed in something for more than 50 years..
Chances are, even if the situation between Dev and Sona improves, their perspectives regarding each other and their children's desired partner will probably, never change...
3-c. "They know for a fact that no one, absolutely no one, can love as they once loved each other, that despite how it ended, no one has felt the love they have. It's the kind of arrogant, rude, superior love that lays waste the feelings of other people."
This statement was an interesting one... For me, it explained why they continue to listen to their hearts and sometimes, act in a way, which goes against the expectations of the people around them... When they listen to the whispers of the inner selves, they don't really care about how it will affect the feelings of people around them, especially those who are closest to them...
3-d. "They love deeply and passionately but that doesn't make them kind, and that's a welcome change. They seldom feel embarrassed about the things they do. They move on, brush them under the carpet like it didn't happen, and that's how most of us behave. When they fight, they pick the points that are most convenient to them, ignoring instances and arguments that don't suit their side."
Now, this probably, was the most fascinating aspect of the blog... In this forum, we have continued to always debate and discuss on the question on, 'why doesn't Dev/Sona understand or introspect on where they went wrong and then, correct their mistakes?'
And, I believe me that we have finally received an answer to the above question.. The above statements spoke about how both of them, not only knows their own mistakes but also has the empathy to understand the other's point of view...
But, still doesn't do the necessary introspection, until and unless they are pushed into a corner.. They continuously try to pick instances and events which support their own thought process and hence, use them to justify their own actions...
They are both stubborn and hence, doesn't like to look at the other side of the coin, so that they could continue believing in their own set of values...
For example, Dev never really wants to know on what challenges has been undergone by Sona during their separation or even during their marriage, since he knew, once he comes to know of the extent pain and the trauma...
Then, his relationships with his family members, especially Ishwari is going to take an even worse turn and that goes against his core values that have been ingrained in him since his childhood...
This also explains why Sona didn't like Dev to speak out his mind (like he did in an inebriated state), since he speaks about his pain and his anguish.. Something which makes Sona uncomfortable since she knows that she is also partially responsible for his torment...
She was never able to see Dev in pain and especially, if she is the reason for it (as she explained to Dev after bringing him back from the engagement ceremony).. But, his continuous, yet unintentional outbursts forces her to see things in a way which also leaves her in an anguished state..
They both don't have the ability to see the other in pain, and hence, they continuously try to turn a blind eye to the other's perspective to avoid that situation but then, something or the other happens which forces them to see the other side and this breaks the walls that they have carefully built around themselves.. And, hence, forces them to reflect back on their shared past...
I feel, we are slowly reaching a point where they will not only be forced to reflect but also, will be required to act on their reflections...
4. And, after seeing yesterday's episode, it is safe to conclude with Vicky-GKB's absurd plan and Bijoy's comeback, the drama quotient is going to turn up a few notches and I guess, I have to go back my former routine to analyze the whole week's episodes instead of analyzing and dissecting each episode (which has been the case for the previous week's episode).
I also wanted to contribute on the change in dynamics between Dev, Golu and Soha... But, I feel that I have already said enough... And, if time permits, I would add my views on the topic..
But, in my opinion, Dev needs to learn to balance his roles as 'BigCha' and 'Papa'... But, this is not as simple as it looks..
I know that I sound vague, and I would definitely like to clarify and elaborate on it... But, due to time constraints, I would address them in a separate post...
Waiting for all your replies and questions...
-Suyash.
