And, I guess, your post gives me the perfect foundation to elaborate on my previous post when I mentioned about how Dev needs to balance between his roles as Golu's 'BigCha' and Soha's 'Papa'...
And, I know that we all wish to see Dev actively playing the role of a father for Golu..
But, we are missing one important thing in our discussion and i.e, Dev's perspective towards his relationship with Golu..
He does consider Golu as a very important member in his family... For the last 7 years, Golu has been the primary reason for his connection with his family... He has also performed some duties similar to that of a father..
But, what we fail to realize is that Dev doesn't consider himself as Golu's father.. According to him, he is Golu's BigCha as well as his nephew's best friend... Vicky's absence or to be more precise, his negligence has led Dev to undertake some of the responsibilities, associated with that of a father...
In many ways, Dev acts like a second parent, cool uncle or a Godfather for Golu... In fact, his role is more on the lines of the role played by Jatin in Soha's life...
In fact, if we look at things objectively, then we can clearly see that the above mentioned role is true... It is true that, for 7 long years, Golu had Dev's undivided attention but at the same time, we have also see that Dev was never really a constant presence in Golu's life...
Till Dev comes to know of Soha, he used to remain away from his home (and, hence, indirectly Golu), for long periods of time... Also, we have to realise this that Golu was fine with the distance.. He missed Dev during that period, since he lost the only person who gave him the love and the attention that he craved and yearned for...
But, as far as I know, being a father is a 24 x 7 responsibility... You couldn't step in or step out from that role.. But, Dev seeing how Golu had a father never really actively took the responsibility of being his 'nephew's father'... He only covered the void that was left by the negligence of Vicky and Elena...
If Vicky had been a better father, then, the influence and the emotional dependence of Golu on Dev would have been less... But, that is not the case...
For Golu, Dev is his 'true family', while for Dev, Golu is a 'part of his true family' (the other members being Sona and Soha)...
On the other hand, for Soha, Dev is the last piece that completes the puzzle of her 'perfect family'... Even before Dev, she was happy with her childhood but at the same time, felt the absence of her father... Hence, her curiosity to know more about her father...
But, when she finally accepted Dev as her father, her father completed the picture of her story of 'being a princess' for her parents... While she loves Dev, she is not clingy or is jealous of Dev spending more time with Golu (till now) since due to the abundance of love and affection that has surrounded her since her birth...
We have to also recognise that, for Dev, Soha is not only his daughter or a symbol of his relationship with Sonakshi... But, more importantly, Soha is a part of Sona (the Sona that he fell in love, his Khargosh)... And, hence, his desire to know and be a part of Soha's life (as a father) makes him slightly more partial towards Soha..
This discrepancy between their respective perspectives is one of the primary reasons for Golu's increasing jealousy, apart from Dev's partiality towards Soha...
I know that partiality and favoritism shouldn't be accepted but whether we like it or not, it is something that all of us are guilty about...
@bold - Considering I am a twin... I could safely conclude that (at least, in my case), resentment or insecurity between twins really don't exist... We might slightly feel jealous of each other, sometimes, but I don't think that we ever were hostile to each other or resented each other..
In fact, we consider each other as a part of ourselves and we feel that we complete each other... In fact, we are more like Yin and Yang than two bodies..
We fight, argue all the time but we also derive strength from one another.. And, consider each other as an irreplaceable part of each other lives..
On the other hand, I feel that since, we are so used to sharing our loved ones with each other, the feeling of insecurity or abandonment never really gripped us... We are usually more confident about the people and the relationships that we share with them...
In fact, I always tell my mother that usually the first relationship that a child creates is, with his mother... But, in my situation, my first relationship is with my sister..
Sonal (that is her name) is not only my sister... She is my twin, my Yang, my best friend, and most importantly, the one person who I know is going to be my support and will love me unconditionally, irrespective of my decisions...
But, like I said, we are a part of a family where everyone loves us and hence, I think, I should feel lucky to be a part of such a family...
I am sure that there are cases where favoritism caused havoc in the relationship shared between twins but these cases are extremely rare... Usually twins are emotionally more stable than than other children and hence, their relationships tend to be more stable...
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