*Season 2, Week 17* Analysis Thread - Page 15

Originally posted by: gaya1234

Very insightful posts on balancing relationships - parents, family, spouse, children! I do think it is a life long learning process and evolves with time and persistent efforts! I think Dev-Golu will patch up and have their ups-downs (normal when another sibling is in picture)

Coming to recent promo- cheating in the game, I have a different take on it. I am hoping it opens Dev's eyes to start say STOP/NO to Ishwari's manipulations just like Soha did to him! Soha being sensitive will suggest him to not break Golu's TRUST and hurt his feelings. Dev is similar to his mom, and can go to any extent to be a good parent. But no parent is god.. and they must be told upon for their flaws too..Ishwari needs to hear 'stop cheating' from Dev's mouth! Hoping for this to happen! 😕

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

@Grace, I would hate to make this personal, however, since you mention your own example..

How does your dad keep health-wise?

I got your point. You wanted to know whether I would have yelled at my father if it was just days after he fell seriously ill. In that case, we would not have allowed him to travel alone to Kolkata. Since Asha had allowed it, that too not even before 10days, that meant he was perfectly alright. But, to answer your question, it will depend upon the situation. If inspite of his health not being fine and he starts getting hyper & is not listening to anyone and it is needed that he will calm down only by someone shouting, then for sure I will shout at him. Without no regrets...😊

How did he feel when you yelled at him within 2 weeks of your wedding in front of his new son-in-law (your husband)?

I liked this question of yours. Bcos, it reminded me of something that happened within 2 weeks of our marriage. Don't worry. It was not a fight. But it's something that hurted my father's feelings. My family was visiting us at my hubby's house and we all were viewing our marriage album from my side, when my MIL came & asked which album was it. So, instead of saying 'my side' I just said the name of my hometown which was immediately noticed by my Papa and he hurtly said, in one week you have made us paraya. Only then I also noticed my words. I tried to comfort him; but it didn't work. Later, when I visited them, I sat & spoke to him in his way. And he had no way than to accept the fact, because that was what he had asked my mom soon after their marriage - to give primary importance to his parents & siblings...😊

In Season 1, Bijoy was actually fighting Saurabh's corner when things spiraled out of control at IN.. In season 2, why did Saurabh let Bijoy go and defend his medical condition (or the lack of (diabetes)) to the Dixits when he knows Dixits are still family simply because that is Soha's house too?

This happened before Dev came to stay with the Boses. So I think I have given the answer in my post above. If it happened now, I believe Saurabh would have gone & told Dev directly about it.

I would be very surprised if we dont see a follow up chat between Asha and Bijoy or Saurabh and Bijoy to clarify this and make the Boses realize that they need a raincheck... They are hiding things too many times now and unless Bijoy is not made to feel secure about Sona and Soha it will keep on getting worse

Bold - Totally agree with this part.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Sona reminds me a lot of Jo. I feel like she looks for grand gestures to prove her love and loyalty because unlike Dev, she doesn't have confidence in her ability to reach out to people and build relationships slowly, through little gestures.

I think this is why we haven't seen Sona reaching out to Golu as much, though I would say he is equally important to Dev, if not more important than Ishwari, at this stage in Dev's life and would be a much more accessible way to support Dev in a meaningful way. Sona trusts her ability to nab a hardened criminal more than she trusts her ability to make friends with a little kid.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Personally , i'm very much against shouting to our parents for wat so ever reasons but i've heard from some of my friends that they hav to undergo such things sometimes. I hope, this will make some positive changes @

Aarcha

True. Bijoy is extremely uncontrollable when he gets angry. So it is impossible to make him sit and listen to the other side of the story. He won't listen to Saurabh if he humbly tries to explain. He did try yesterday but no.. Bijoy did not care what he wants to say.

Usually Asha will take the charge in such situations but she kept quiet seeing Saurabh say her words. She is relieved now that her son finally learnt to voice his thoughts. She did not interfere though Saurabh's tone and body language made his outburst look over the top and disrespectful. She can't help it but let Saurabh continue.

Asha's purpose will be achieved. Bijoy Bose can not but introspect his behaviour and Saurabh's reaction to that. There are two ways open for him. Either he has to slow down and analyse the situation that made Sona prolong her stay or continue sulking against his own family who now won't hesitate to point a finger at him for overdoing things.

Above all he should learn to keep Suhana's happiness as the topmost in priority list . He should leave behind his bitterness towards Dixits .No need to show his one upmanship before Iswari It is a thing of the past. Present holds new challenges and problems for his children who needs his silent support rather than aggressive interference Positive changes should be welcomed by Bijoy and by Iswari to keep their children live with peace and happiness.

Lakshmi