Hey all! Just finished watching Tuesday and Wednesday's episodes and I couldn't wait to put a few thoughts down before I resumed my catch-up session.
I see where Ishwari is coming from. It doesn't make it any less infuriating that she is constantly throwing cold water on Dev's happiness, but having a grandchild meant a lot of things to her, and in Tuesday's episode, she confirmed
this analysis from the fake pregnancy track. To her, having a grandchild was the sign that her struggle was over, and that she could watch a child grow the way it was supposed to, without any burdens or cares. Soha is therefore her worst nightmare; her problem is not that Soha is not enough like Dev, but that she is too much like Dev was at that age.
Of course, it is very hard to sustain sympathy for her because her pain is self-inflicted. How could she think that she would spoil Dev's child when she refused to free Dev himself from the shackles of their past? With the entry of Sona into his life, she had the perfect opportunity to let him experience the happiness he never had, but she chose to be selfish and cut him off from his ticket to freedom. The story has been woven in such a way that the pain Ishwari inflicted on Dev has passed on to Soha. As long as she continues to dampen Dev's joy, she will never see the Suhana "Dixit" she wants to see. It's beautiful how all the relationships are now woven together so inextricably through Soha.
Second observation is about Mrs. Mandal, who I think is a very smart lady. When she came to talk to the Boses, I think what she wanted was an honest appraisal of the situation between Sona and her husband. How bitter was it? How much did this issue take up the day to day energy of the family her daughter would be joining? But when she asked honestly, Sona was ready with her stock answer that her issues would not have any effect on Dada and Ronita's relationship. Mrs. M was not happy with this response, and so she chose a different tactic.
She spoke Bose. Instead of focusing on her specific concern for her daughter, she began speaking in abstract principles, the first of which was, "we are all family now." This got an immediate positive reaction out of Bijoy. She then went on to say "a child needs both mother and father." This got a rise out of Sona and her reaction gave her all the information she had been searching for; the exact status of Sona's relationship with her husband, and a partial picture of the custody situation -- Soha lives with Sona, predominantly. It was not ideal that she had to manipulate this information out of Sona, but I also don't hold it against her. The Boses are holding their cards close to their chest in the hope that this ristha will work out, and Ronita is already smitten. Mrs. M is putting her practical foot forward first.
Some more information that she may or may not have noticed: the entire time she was there, Saurabh didn't speak a word. When you look at the situation through an objective lens, all of these red flags make a huge difference, especially in an arranged marriage set-up. This whole interaction reminded me a lot of when the Boses showed up at IN, and that conversation between Bijoy and Ishwari after which Bijoy told Sona to reconsider forming a relationship with Dev. I am curious to see whether Mrs. M shares her observations with Ronita, and if yes, how she does so.
Anupamaa
