Originally posted by: blabbermouth
Hey
There is so much strength in your story. I just have one request to make. Please keep telling your son that this is not normal behaviour and he can't hit a woman like that. I have seen my own father behave rudely and hit my mother when I was a kid. Now I am older I realise it is because he grew up in a family where domestic violence was normal. What is worse is my own dadi encouraged him to hit wife and kids . Keep in mind both my father and mother are very educated. I understand where everyone is coming from but don't encourage it.
That being said he is also a rare example of a case where a man can change, then again if he did that shit still I will be the first one to call the cops.
Luckily as annoying as my bro finds my constant lectures I teach him not to treat women rudely and respect them. And treat them the way he will want his own sister to be treated. Such education starts at home. So as amazing and educated your son may be, he may have noticed behaviour he may emulate later. Better to keep teaching him examples of what NOT to do in his married life in future.
First of all a big hug to u my dear for sharing this part of ur lifeđ¤Unfortunately,domestic violence is a hugely prevelant problem in our society.Most people don't realise it because the victim almost never speaks out.I can understand what u and your mom must have gone through.It is wonderful to see that u r supportive of ur mom and also emphasize on the right things with ur brother.đ
Thank u for ur encouraging words and suggestions.I always tell my son that my husband's behaviour is not normal and should never ever be emulated.I emphasize that what he is doing is wrong and that kind of behaviour can never be condoned.
I think the children who grow up to emulate such behaviours are often those who idolize their violent fathers. They do this because they often see the father as wielding power and the mother as a weak person cowing down in fear and helplessness. Children tend to look upto to the one who is powerful and here they see the father as being powerful.I make sure that I never ever cow down,relent or take a step back in fear. Fighting back does not mean getting into a shouting match or indulging in a game of oneupmanship. Often a calmly said word or a look speaks volumes .I take a stand for what I believe is right and never ever let my husband dictate my choices or actions. Children are hugely influenced by our actions My son has seen my behaviour and and also remarked about how I stand up to my hubby inspite of being much smaller physically...He tries to do the same nowadays.He also speaks out in front of my husband quite often and argues that what he is doing is wrong.My husband doesn't doesn't take it very well,but that doesn't deter the kidđ.I don't think he believes that his dad is a role model..and am quite certain that he won't t follow in his footstepsđ
