Hey all! I am having a bit of an insane week, so won't be on here too much until the weekend, but I have loved catching up on the discussions! After I saw the episode yesterday, my knee-jerk reaction was also disappointment in the Boses as many of you have expressed here. I was absolutely apalled that Bijoy's big plan to conceal Soha involved playing hide-and-seek. And Elena's remark about the Dixits/Tripathis being opportunists was a hoot coming from the woman who has shamelessly availed of free childcare for 6 years. On top of that, everyone from Dixit parivar was on their A-game where it came to manipulation and deceit so I ended up feeling very cynical about the episode But when I slept on it, the morning brought a fresh perspective, especially on Sona.
Here's the thing: I think Sona is leaving the door open for Dev. She's not inviting him in, or telling him that she wants him to come, but she is leaving the door open in case he wants to use it. When this explanation came to mind, a lot of things fell into place for me, including the new spoiler about Sona bringing Soha to the doorstep of IN. During her story about the surajmukhi as well, Sona stated that she waited for Dev after their separation, for days, weeks, a year. She also left the option open for Soha to meet her father when they came to Delhi. What she is not willing to do is take the initiative herself to invite Dev back into their lives. She wants him to bang down the door and decide for himself that he wants her. Remember, she still believes that he is under Ishwari's thumb, so she has been holding herself back for the past seven years from repeating the mistake she made after the first break-up -- letting Dev back into her life when she wasn't totally sure about his feelings.
In a previous
post, I mentioned my definition of "dil ke faisle" vs. "dimag ke faisle." From both Dev and Sona's side, the decision to get married was one they took out of fear of losing each other, and the motivations of that decision defined their entire marriage. Becasue of that fear, they were unable to be honest in their communication, which ultiamately doomed their relationship. By going back to the beginning, Sona is demanding that Dev make a "dil ka faisla," one in active pursuit of his happiness rather than one taken out of fear of losing her. The ramifications of Sona's stance are complex and debatable, especially where what's best for Soha, and fair to Dev is concerned, but it helps me to understand where she is coming from.
Like we have discussed, Sona was very scared from the beginning to bare her vulnerabilities. Even when she first fell in love with Dev, she convinced herself that it was pointless to confess to him, but much like she is doing now, left the door open for him to claim the love that was there in her heart. For a person who has that fear in the first place, to put themselves out there is out of character and after coming out of that comfort zone, to have your heart broken to bits makes you recede further into your safe shell. That is where Sona is now -- afraid to trust or depend on anyone.That is why it has to be Soha's decision explicitly to meet Dev, because Sona is so scared that if she initiates contact, it will come off as her using Soha to get close to Dev, and she isn't willing to leave any loopholes in her approach to him. It's all or nothing, she has made her peace with nothing, and she refuses to settle for anything else.
Bijoy senses this and is absolutely horrified by it. He wants to shut that door forever to keep his daughter and grandaughter away from Dev and the Dixits at all costs (Sona marrying Jatin is his answer to this). He knows that once Dev finds out about Soha, the jig is up. It's only a matter of time before Dev is back in their lives. The part of Sona that is Bijoy's daughter is also scared, that Dev will take Soha away from her and she will be left with nothing, but as it is plain for us to see, that is not the part of her making the big decisions -- to come back to Delhi, back to their same old house, and to stand firm in the office she shares with Dev. I am beginning to see that this is a very deliberate tight-rope walk on Sona's part. Much like us, she seems to be waiting for the axe to drop but is unwilling to let go of the rope herself.
Why Dev didn't pursue Sona to see if the door was open is another topic for another day. 😆
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