*Season 2, Week 6* Analysis Thread - Page 6

Originally posted by: areeba_blossom

Shavi beautifully penned.

I think without ay qualms, we can agree on one aspect without arguing. After the first break up, Sonakshi was never the person she had become during courtship between her and Dev. Instead she would shift between herself and her father's daughter quite often. Her trust in Dev suffered a severe blowback when he didn't let her say anything for them and broke up with her for sake of his mother. Sonakshi's feared rejection of her love by Dev when she fell for Dev and Dev breaking up with her, in her eyes was a rejection of her love. The validation she required, being herself faltered and she couldn't recover from that. This point forward, her relationship with Bijoy shifted and she was not ready to let another important male in her life to walk away from her in disappointment because she couldn't fall under a bar of approval.

Obviously Dev's place in Sonakshi's life was very different then Bijoy's but the ideals that Sonakshi grew up with taught to her by Bijoy, it brushed over relationships as if they all can be dealt with one algorithm. That was the flaw of Bijoy's parenting on Sonakshi.

I think it's important to know Dev and Sonakshi at core to understand there ways of commitment to each other.

The story is about the good kids fallings in love and that was very clear since first episode since both Sona and Dev were individuals molded from the expectations of there parents. People who had no concrete self of there own and depended on providing for there parents.

There were so many times after the break up in Sona and Dev's interactions where Sona wanted to be with Dev and by his side but she couldn't allow herself to choose him completely because of the disapproving words of his father. Even after Asha said yes on behalf of Sona for the proposal to Ishwari, Sona was reluctant to meet Dev until her father nodded approval.

I think in season two, that aspect of Sonakshi's has shifted. Although I would love a monologue scene of Dev and Sonakshi reflecting on what they think were there mistakes, both have seem to come out of the hold of there parents expectations. I think because they both peaked with there professional careers and then with there marriage dissolving, the both found there own selves that they had immersed with one another, lost.

In process of that, they couldn't keep up with the exaggerated subtleties of disapproval from there respective parents, Ishwari and Bijoy; and they let go of the validation they required from there parents for there decisions. I think the fire between them in the last moment of season one was a great symbolic factor in that. Everything crashed down so hard that al the shackles and cuffs tying them to there family came apart.

Sona's bitter motivation to be successful didn't come mostly from providing for her parents but from Dev's terrible words in the last moment and Dev's been living inside a wall of anger, standing just where Sona left him. He can't think beyond that moment for himself.

I think the fact that upon Elina's hesitance and changing expressions of Bijoy and Sona, it was Bijoy who took the decision on his own self reflected on his hesitance on seeing his good girl once again being tempted to share her strength with a man who may possibly take Sona and Soha for granted.

Bijoy isn't exactly manipulative but Bijoy is definitely prideful and thats where he and Ishwari meet in terms of parenting. Both are very proud of what there children are. That pride gives them a sense of power over there children.

- The thing about good obedient children is that they run after making there parents proud and proud parents eventually start boasting about there parenting skills and producing a wonderfully productive human being to the society. I think it ultimately lies in the fact that our hierarchal society lays an important emphasis on a power a certain individual possess. We just rephrase that into honor and respect to justify that we are selfless in wanting best for our children.

I think the custody battle wouldn't be between Dev and Sonakshi. They would have there own complaints session with each other in a language they both understand from each other but the custody battle would be instigated by Ishwari and Bijoy.

For Ishwari, it would be providing Dev with another toy and finding a new toy for herself that she can mold into worshipping and praising her since she never liked the Sonakshi in any form other then a doctor.

For Bijoy, pulling Soha for Sona would mean making sure that his hold over his daughter hasn't gone and that he's the one who gets to dictate Sonakshi's family life. His reaction after Soha first put her desire forth put Soha off in deflecting her decision.

I don't know if I made any sense or not.

edited to add;

personally I don't think Sonakshi would be surrendering Soha's custody. NOt jus because Bijoy would be brutal in backing up Sona in that but also because she has major reasons. I do think she'll allow visitation to Dev upon confrontation only because he became Soha's friend first and she enjoys his company.

edited edite to add;

just wanted to point out that I do not think Bijoy and Ishwari or on a same level. Firstly, Bijoy is just a stubborn man but Ishwari brought up her children on her own under extreme poverty and had a dysfunctional relationship with her son unlike Bijoy. Two can't be equated at all.

Originally posted by: Jiyaaa...

I know we have discussed a lot on how Ishwari was responsible for the marriage failure. After seeing Bijou's action in today's episode. I want to pen down few things from life, why I think Bijoy was also responsible for this. It is just my POV.

I mentioned in some other thread few months back when my parents visited us, I introduced them to Kuch Rang. I am very close to my dad compared to my mom. I usually discuss everything with my dad. This is around the time before Dev and Sona's marriage. I really liked the way Bijoy did not comprise against Ishwari just because they are from girls side. I liked it as my dad is completely opposite of that. In fact I told my dad that all girls parents should be like Bijoy.😆

However after Dev and Sona's marriage I slowly realized that Bijoy is little extreme.

I find Kuch Rang is very real and can relate to my life in some extent. When I got married, I went through similar kind of incident that Sona had. I find most of mother in laws are like Ishwari, maybe not that extreme, but you can see similar qualities of Ishwari in them. I don't want to get in to detail, what all my experiences were ...some those were exactly like what they showed in Kuch Rang.

My dad thinking is exactly like Asha, used to advise "It is always difficult during intial years. You can't expect changes in overnight. It takes time. You can't expect your husband to understand you, take your stand against his mom" I really hated my dad advice at that time.

During the first year of marriage, I tried to change myself according to my inlaws expectation even though I did not believe in their views. Then slowly, I understood you really can't impress them by changing yourself.

For me, I am independent professional working women, why I should adjust? Why can't my husband? For that my dad told me "You don't realize, even your husband has changed for you.. but you will not see that"

My dad knew that my husband is very good person. He always used to say "as long as your husband loves you and gives respect, then other things you can manage with time. Always remember it is very easy to break the relationship, but difficult to repair"

I really liked Sona helping her parents financially when they were in need. I also did that for my parents. I love how realistically they showing it in the serial. Usually girls, when they help their parents, they don't share it with husband. It is not like we don't trust your partner, but because girls they don't want their husband to have a different opinion on their parents. But at the same I did not like when she hid about when she started her company with her brother. I think that Sona would have shared with Dev because that was a major decision.

Ok, coming to my point, when My parents didn't mind taking my help but they never wanted it in the expense of my marriage.

When the slapgate happened, I was surprised hearing the Bijoy's dialogue to Dev - "I will not forget this slap, I expect my daughter also never forget this slap."

When Sona was in her parents' house, I was surprised to see no one from Sona's house worried about what Sona's family must have thinking...No one suggested her that she should at least talk to Dev. I can understand they were in shocking state and their pride was hurt. Dixits insulted them. But as parents, you also think about your daughter, right?

I did not like that fact that Boses sent Sona to return the check. I think, Sourab should have returned the check. Again, I was surprised when Asha said no DIL have done that what their daughter is doing.

When Sona came back after retuning the check, Bijoy was telling Sona: "Will we get this house back?" Sona promised them that they will get this house back. I was wondering, what was Bijoy's expectation?

After the slap gate was happened.. Looking at all these, I can see Bijoy basically wanted Sona to break all ties with Dev and take care of them.

Another thing, when Dev came to apology Bijoy with sweets . . . Bijoy insults Dev, when Asha tries to say - Dev is their Jamai...Bijoy says, Asha is his wife..He expects Asha to support Bijoy because she is his wife. I always wondered. . .why he did not say the same thing to his daughter, you should support your husband.

That is why I always thought, Dev and Sona's relation broke the day the slappage was happened. The prenup, Vicky throwing them out of their house, it just addition to those...

Unknowingly/knowingly Bijoy wanted Sona to fight for their insult. Actually Sona basically took the responsibility of the daughter. Sona is just like Dev, she kept her parents pride above her marriage.

Before this leap, I was discussing with my dad. He told the same thing. What is the pride in the expense of your daughter's happiness?

I can understand now, my dad always showed me right path when it was needed. I am so glad I listened to my dad. I have been married for 13 years...my MIL is better with time her insecurity is reduced. My husband also learned how to balance between wife and mother. As my dad said it didn't happen overnight. It took couple of years. Thanks to Kuch Rang, looking at Dev I understood my husband situation better now. I pity those guys, who will completely sandwiched between two important ladies in their life.

I saw SBS video where Sona comes to Dixit house with baby. Happy to see that she tried to contact Dev. I really want to see, did Sona's parents ever ask her to rethink her decision? Because even they clearly know that Dev always loved Sona.

I never tried to analysis Ishwari...why she is like that. It is better to ignore, than thinking about her. Only time will help ...That is what I did in my life too...

Originally posted by: aaliah3108

hello everyone.

I have been away from the forum for quite sometime now due to personal commitments. Have been an ardent reader of the views/ discussions on this thread specially.

Thanks for starting and continuing it all this while.

Originally posted by: deepsel

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