Originally posted by: jasw
Yes they should have supported each other. The support level may not be the same. Normally a stronger person has dominant role in the share of support. And Sonaskhi, being the stronger person always supported Dev. She supported in Honeymoon fiasco, birthday fiasco, Vicky fiasco. But when it came to infertility thing, she no longer was the strong person because of her inability to conceive. She was just a shadow of her former confident self, when she asked if the fertility doesn't produce the result, then what. This one time she was asking Dev's support. She had some hope, some expectation from Dev. And we all know how Dev miserably failed. In giving his mother importance he reduced his wife to an emotional wreck. And of course then 5cr bungle happened, cheat/thief, slap and what not. Do you think she would have still wanted to fight for this kind of marriage?
On the first day of her job as nutritionist, Sonakshi inspects the things in kitchen and lists all things that should be stopped. Dev is with her and questions if it was necessary to stop completely or could it be allowed sometimes. He also asks if she knew what she was doing. She does not just say yes, but gives an example and says you don't need to teach me my job, same way as you know your job.
When Dev told her that he loves her and as a man loves his woman, he thought she understood stat. From his pov, they were already man and wife from that point forward. He treated her that way. When the first breakup happened, he could not understand why Sonakshi had taken his words at face value this time. Why she did not argue or say you do your job, I will do mine. But later he accepted what she said as he felt she knew better. Meaning she was the one to whom he would go to advice for relationships. Hence he thought she is right. His love and her role in his life could not accept it. He did all the things he did.
After marriage he just assumed that she understood that they were husband and wife. There was no need to prove that to anyone. He did not understand why Sonakshi felt like she had to prove her role as wife or DIL or anything else if she did not find the need to prove herself as a nutritionist. Why she was not confident with herself. He tried to tell her time and over that she had nothing to prove and she was the best. But Sonakshi was looking for this validation from Ishwari and Bijoy that she was still the best.
After the initial separation, she lost confidence in herself. This is one of her flaws where Sonakshi is not good at accepting failure. What Dev expected from her was to say this is what you get, deal with it. This is who I am, the way he accepted himself. He knew he was not the worlds best husband, but accepted that he was a work in progress and that was ok. He wanted her to think the same way and not try to go overboard with wanting to be the best wife or DIL. Her flaws or failures did not matter to him.
Here is where Sonakshi failed. She could not accept anything less than best. She wanted herself to be best wife and DIL. She became to engrossed in that vision that she failed to see how it was affecting Dev. He felt left out. He tried to include himself with her that he tried to do things similar to her. If she said we should gift your family during Diwali, he did the same with her family. He thought this would make her happy. Although it did make her happy, it made Ishwari unhappy.
For Dev the logic is simple and straightforward. Keep each other happy. You are you and I am me. This is who we are. Be comfortable with that and accept it. Dev wanted her to accept her role as wife and not try to prove she is his wife. He wanted her to take it as her right and assert it the way she asserted as nutritionist. Be confident about herself.
