Originally posted by: -Mayu-
Tia🤗
I have been a silent admirer of you posts for say about 2-3 months. I never watched this show personally but did catch up on the updates. So really can't say much about performance wise, but character wise I have lot to say. 😳 Please let me use this wonderful thread to express my thoughts on this show.
I was quite saddened that you will not give daily posts after new year. I was kinda sad but girl you are back. Thankyou❤️
This is beautifully written! 👏👏 I am sure everyone would have told you this by now. 😆
Love has various connotations, and is the most wonderful feeling for a human! Being loved is itself beautiful and by that I mean in every relationship we/I share. Friends, parents, spouse, siblings and since I am a vet my love for animals😳
For me love is all about the freedom that it gives you, the confidence it gives you, the strength that it gives you. It also encourages you, makes you take stand, helps you differentiate between right and wrong and walk on your life with your principles and your dignity. Love never teaches you to be wrong, it never encourages you to cheat, it instead helps you walk on the right path, however tough it might be, it shows you mirror everyday. In my childhood and my teenage years, that job was beautifully done by my parents and my sibling. My values, my ideals, my principles. Since my father was always on postings in different cities for his job, you can say that my mother bought me up the way I am today, she taught me everything and I am very grateful to her. She gave me life, she raised me to be a better human, she taught me principles, she made sure I never missed my father when he was away, she played both roles with immense strength. She has such faith in her upbringing and her values, she knows that I will never walk the wrong path. She has even given me the right to question her if she is going wrong. She gave me the freedom to choose my relations, choose my friends and the day comes when I will fall in love she will understand my choice too. 😳She taught me to fly, make my choices, live my life according to my principles and my ideals, she made me who I am. This is what a mother is. Selfless and Unconditional support. We have had our share of fights, during my teenage years, my career choices but what always mattered to her the most was my happiness. That's what is a mother's love! Pure and soulful. ❤️ No wonder
Now when I compare Ishwari and my mother, its an insult to my mother or the fact any mother on this earth. So its cringe worthy to see what Ishwari does under the namesake of her so called motherly love with all her children. A mother can never ignore her children, she loves all equally. I was lucky enough that my elder sister was like another mother to me, because of our age gap. I am a bit extra pampered because I am the youngest, but my mother always loved us equally. My mother is diabetic now, on dialysis for her CKD. We don't care for our mother because its our duty, its the relation that I share with her. I have to sometimes be very strict with her regarding her diet and her medicines, her daily walks or exercise, sometimes I give in her demands. Thats because I understand the pain she is in, but that doesn't make me weak, that gives me more strength so I can convince her as well as me that everything is going to be okay. I am abroad for my education yet nothing has changed, our relation remains the same. I scold her, she does the same. So when I read the updates, it makes me puke thinking how come Dev is so helpless and weak, that's when I understand that Ishwari doesn't love him, she is his master and he her puppet. The makers have made a mockery of this pure relation. It pains me to see such a manipulative, sickening mother.😭😭 Probably because in my life I have not met such mothers.
I am not in love in real life, but when the day arrives, I know what to expect from love, what I want from that relationship, what I want in my future. What are my dreams, my aspirations and my stance. So I will doubly make sure that the one I marry ain't no Dev Dixit. 😆
I know I am not allowed to compare characters but another show from the same PH, and their the hero is feminist, loves his woman and his mother unconditionally. He loves his mother but not dances to her tunes. He even questions her decision sometimes, stood tall and mighty against the society for his love. He gave the woman he loved wings to fly, gave her the much needed confidence and made her embrace her new life. A love empowered woman! Now in the show the man lost his stability due to accident, and now the woman is doing all that he did for her, give him wings again to fly, give him the love and care and she is standing tall against society for him. So equality has been beautifully portrayed. It takes a lot for the man to tell the woman he loves, to move on in life if ever anything happens to him. He is mentally unstable, but she is still not able to move on. She has vowed to make him normal, get back to their lives. That's what love does.
In comparison when I read this show's updates, I wonder what is this relation that Dev and Sona share? Certainly not love. Lust maybe. I am not sure how to label their relationship status. For a relationship based on love, its not only romance and romantic lines, it's much more than that. There has to be respect, mutual understanding, mutual respect. There has to be intimacy, where you share your intimate details, you desires, you dreams and knowing that the person you love will always be there holding your hand, telling you to fight the odds, knowing if one partner falters the other will take care. In this relation, calling it love will be an insult to many couples who are actually in love. I have never seen a guy as weak and dumb headed like Dev. I have never seen a man as coward and spineless as Dev. So I fail to understand what is that Dev and Sona share? Can you please explain me?
PS- My parents had a love marriage and their parents had certainly not accepted it. My father's relatives used to taunt my mother, but she never stood there taking all the crap, she always gave it back, because she had got married and falling in love ain't no crime. My father always stood by my mother, but when my dad would leave for work, after that their taunts would start and my mother was no cry baby. She knew that my father will always stand by her. They started living separately. My father's family slowly started understanding my mothers value and finally accepted her. It was a long fight, but having your man with you gave her lot of confidence. I have never seen my father disrespect my mother, and would not anyone do it too. They fight with each other, yell at each other but certainly love each other. No wonder they completed 40 years of married life😳
PPS- Sorry for the rather long post and ranting. Had to get it out. What's being shown versus what is reality. So makers, a kind request don't keep on yelling about the show being realistic. Its not even 0.0000001 % close to reality.
Love,
Mayu
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
