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Honestly, I am tired of Dev's personality loss in front of his mother. I know I am going to get a lot of hates for pointing this out for "precious" Dev. But fact is a fact.
Dev acknowledged that because of Bijoy he got an adventure and their problems got sorted. But in walks his mother and out goes his personality.
Is he a toddler that his mother can walk into his friend's house he was having slumber party in and start accusing the parents of his buddy for not taking care of her grown up son? Does he have any vocal cord or self-respect for his dignity? For heaven's sake grow up.
His mother comes to Bose house and berates them for treating Dev exactly how he treated his own daughter and Dev listens without speaking a word. Because you know little kids should not speak when adults talk.
Bijoy Bose reminded her that what he did worked. Just like Ishwari kept reminding Sona that whatever she was doing made Neha happy. But no, the result doesn't matter to Ishwari when it's someone else's doing. It only matters when it's her who ensured her daughter's happiness by giving the gift of divorce.
Did she think then that Ranveer was her "DAMAD"? And he might be someone else's cherished son?
And Dev, when your mother said that there is a difference between "Beta" and "Damad" and you kept your mouth shut? You fell much lower in my eyes than you could even imagine. Last night you were bragging that Sona's family is yours and this morning you were trying to assert your rights as a son when you were feeding Asha. But where is the responsibility?
You know which Damad become son? The ones who defend their in-laws with same zeal they defend their own family with and NEVER let's anyone, even their own family, say anything to them. Unfortunately, you proved that you are indeed Damad, not a son.
How would you feel if Sona tells your mother that mother and mother-in-law are different? Would you like to hear that?
How would you feel if Riya's in-laws remind her that daughter and daughter-in-law are different? Would you like to hear that?
First learn to take responsibility before you take the rights. Anyone can give lip service but not everyone has the guts to follow through it.
Ishwari did make a valid point that Delhi isn't safe at night, but didn't anyone, most specifically "Nazon se pali gudiya" Dev could remind her that no one FORCED him stay on the street at night? That they could have easily gone to a hotel or even home IF THEY WANTED TO?
If she just asked questions to Dev, it would have been fine. But she has absolutely ZERO right to ask questions to Bijoy Bose for taking a decision in his own home as he sees fit when her adult son didn't go back home on his own will.
I wonder where is Dev's voice which was so high when Ranveer was berating Neha in his home? Where is his wife and her family's (which he so boldly claimed as his) respect now when his mother walked in at BIJOY BOSE's house and started berating them? He doesn't remember his wife's respect, his in-laws respect now?
If Bijoy had walked in at his home and berated Ishwari for treating Sona as she treats him, would he keep silent? Won't he defend his mother saying that his mother didn't treat Sona any differently than she treated him?
Bijoy might have an unconventional way of solving their problem. But it got solved. It didn't reach divorce court like Neha and Ranveer's relationship.
And look at Dida. What a classy lady. Ishwari has zero class and zero respect for anyone. Whatever she had to say, she could have asked Dev in PRIVATE. You don't ask question to parents of ADULT children, you ask the ADULTS themselves. But she went there to claim back her property not to ask reasons.
Asha was rightfully worried. When your daughter gets married to a family who openly states that they think that in-laws are different than their own children, you know what kind of treatment they are shelling out to your daughter.
Dev and Sona walk in and Radha starts berating. But of course, Dev's voice again has the volume of constipated amoeba. Where is that sound which came out in front of Ranveer for disrespecting his wife? Where is Sona's respect now? At least Sone did go to Ranveer's house and his complaint actually had a clout. But Sona didn't call you nor stop you from doing anything. Yet you could not gather volume in your voice? You just kept mumbling? SHAME on you if your voice loses volume to speak the truth.
His Mama has bigger volume to defend HIS wife than he does. Next time when Sona says that this home doesn't feel like hers, please don't open your mouth. You lost that right.
And Sona, you are also equally a disgrace to your family. If you won't stand up for your family, why would Dev? Where is the attitude or tantrum now that you were showing to Dev? Why don't you walk out of Dixit mansion right now to defend your family's honour? If women won't stand up for her family and the son-in-law won't stand up for their wife's family, no wonder people don't want girl child. Why would they?
But no. Your problem got sorted (thanks to your dad, otherwise you'd have been in your room and Dev in your parents without any result) and now who's Bose family?
Riya's marriage talk begins. Another unfortunate soul is entering the DIXIT black hole.
And then Dev's worry about his mother and Sona reminded him Yasoda and Kanha... CUTE. Dev is so absolutely adorable in his bedroom. He is willing to LET Sona turn HIS room into anything she wants. How thoughtful. Let me wipe my tears first.
So Sona bought swing.
Precap: Ishwari asks Sona if Dev knows that Sona ordered a swing.
Me: No, Ishwari. He is going to get surprised. But you should be so happy. Now you can sit in the swing and feed the bottle to your baby. Isn't that a nice surprise?
P.S. Sorry for the rant. But I am SUPER PISSED today at mute Dev.
You know what, we women don't care about our own family. But if our own family points finger at our in-laws, we are so eager to defend them to earn brownie points from husband.
But do we expect our husband do the same when his family points finger at ours? Do we make sure that they understand that they also owe them their loyalty?
And we wonder why girl child are treated differently. First women have to have the loyalty of a man towards their family before they want equal rights.
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
Mangal Lakshmi
