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Posted: 8 years ago
@ Bold: Agree on all points. There is no reason to bring Nirbhaya into a weak TV series plot which as you rightly point out was a TRP gimmick.

@ Red: TOXIC DIXITS... 👍🏼 Very apt description.

I can narrate my grandma's personal experience briefly (I know I narrated many already) - she had a married life of just 5 years and my grandfather passed away when my youngest Mausi was just a month old. She raised 3 girls on her own and never did I see her gulit tripping any of the girls on what she faced while raising them. Of course none of the girls had a monetary status of Dev but all of them have good partners found by my grandmother. And none of the son in laws were ever made to be indebted to my grandmother's efforts of raising 3 girls alone. But then I can call this a normal woman right? So nowhere comparable to Ishwari. I am sure there are many more like my grandma, but as we have all been saying all along - our culture & society always gives uppe rhand to a boy's mother for her efforts in raising a boy and not a girl's mother. Such HYPOCRISY!😔

As I said earlier, why can't the Dixit's enjoy their current success and monetary status and live in the moment? Why stand on the edge always and even make others stand there too? Only the CVs know when they are going to get the story out of this vicious circle.

Anyways... all good discussions. Sadly CVs need to oblige to the channel bosses and be played by the TRPs.

@_Payalj_ 🤗 Kudos to your strength for coming out of what you went through. I shuddered while reading your experience.

And Tia kudos to your mother too for staying strong and raising you alone so succesfully.

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab

I think everyone is going too far on this with so much hypothesis.

The point is:
Dev and Sona fought and the idea of resolve was by pushing them to solve it as a couple, with no outside interference.
Bijoy, a very fair and square individual (and dad) that he is, threw them out since they were at bad behavior.. and told them off, to come back only when they are done with their childish ways.
Secondly, the CVs highlighted how Ishwari behaved like a freak when she called @2am; and stayed until morning. And the conversation between Ishwari & Bijoy indicated that Bijoy is NOT intimidated by her - in the morning too he responded to her rather calmly and then let it go the moment she started her past-how I raised my kids-sentimental-theory.

How Dev & Sona both behaved on the streets, the 2 guys who came to help, kids watching in the morning - was all TRP gimmick - so enjoy and forget any logic on that.


The key difference has been how this whole fight would have been TOXIC at Dixits versus NORMAL at Boses.

Phew! Please dont trap the nirbhaya story here - its uncalled for and irrelevant. And it pains to think of them even now.


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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

People are also saying that there is nothing wrong about Ishwari's behaviour and we are deliberately vilifying Ishwari.

People are also saying that jacosta complex doesn't exist.
Why do you think in spite of being from a conservative background I divorced my husband? I ultimately caught my MIL and husband in the act. my mil always behaved more like a sautan than a saas but I still continued because for me even thinking in those lines was impossible. Even when there were evidences all over, I kept making excuses and fooling myself. But truth ultimately comes out.

So believe me this is not a myth such people do exist and there is no way one can know the truth unless one actually lives with them. On face of it they are all very educated and decent people. It also never comes out in the open. In my divorce case my advocate expressly forbidded me from mentioning this as it is too big a charge and I had no photos or video

In this case, the problem is that Ishwari's behaviour is also giving glimpses of the same problem and that is why most of the people are finding her creepy.

Agreed She has absolutely no physical desire for her son, but emotionally she has assumed Dev to be her life partner which is very very wrong. Subconsciously she has created the same emotional relationship and dependency on him which one has with a life partner.

A mother's insecurity and jealousy, one can understand. We have all been seeing this in our everyday lives. Ishwari's behaviour crosses this line almost always. It's time the makers take a call as to whether they want to show Ishwari's a nut case and show her getting psychiatric help or they want to show an insecure mil who ultimately learns her lesson.



Payal - 🤗 🤗Take a bow lady !! The real heroes are the ones who come out of the pitfall and oh-so-gracefully turning out to be a better person in all like you 👏👏 Wish you and your kid a very good happy healthy life from thereon 😃


And on this Ishwari-Bijoy issue - I agree to the people who say it would be Sona's standalone responsibility if something bad had happened to them and not Bijoy's. Yes, when parents throw us out, we can take a chair and spend the night in the lobby/veranda or the outside area. Roaming around the street was the decision of the couple. And Sona got into the car too once the first bunch of trouble arrived (those boys and Dev's manhandling them etc). If anything serious, they would have left the tea-shop and got into the car too. Big deal ? But in all this, 2 things I found as wrong - Sona's way of stretching the fights till this (which is not a Bose way), but I must put a disclaimer here that it was very humane and relatable stuff to me what she did 😛 I am happy to see she is no superwoman... and 2nd thing is - Ishwari's OTT concern drama, concern my foot, insecurities were written all over her face.. From the moment she started nodding her head to GKB's venomous words at night (Difference between Beta Damaad etc), concern went backfoot and her precious bond with her son took over.. Her son was in trouble, her son was insulted, her son should be worshipped by her and all, OMG ! She is indeed a patient of jacosta complex and Sona should take her to hospital since being in the medical profession she should be aware of that !


And now seems Dev is not happy with the change in his room (swing etc) and again broke his promise ? Harrypotterfan1 - BINGO for comparing Dev's promises to GKB's harsh words. Both make no sense and both I consider as verbal diarrhea. 🤢 I am on the verge of giving up on this show. No character growth since last 180 episodes in fact Dev's character has gone worse he cannot keep a SINGLE promise of his to Sona 😕 Dev and Ishwari should marry each other and live happily ever after without disrupting anyone else's life. Period 😡
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Posted: 8 years ago
Thank you everyone for a lively discussion.
Push-pull, you made very good points. Sorry forgot to mention you.
Neela, kudos to your legacy. Strong women come from strong family and strong values. You are a proof.

Payal, I already told you, but be proud to be a warrior. Women are much stronger than they look. Those who underestimate them are the ones bites the dust.

Pehchaan Kaun, good points, girl. But then you always bring up good points.

Dlavanya, thanks for the discussion. You brought out some good points. As I said you don't have to agree with me to come to my post.

If I forgot anyone, sorry.

But ladies, every one of you are powerful because you are women. Only women can create a life within their body and know their child 9 months more than even their child's father. My husband was saying the other day that a woman starts loving her child the moment he or she is conceived, but a man starts loving their child when they are born.

But love is not always good. Nothing in excess is good, not even love. That's why we oppose Ishwari. It doesn't mean we don't love Supriyaji. It actually means kudos to her acting we have managed to turn against Ishwari.

When people say women are women's worst enemy, there's also proofs that women can also be women's biggest support.

However, we are not blind to women's faults either.

While we criticize Ishwari for using her health to manipulate, we appreciate mothers like Asha who actually thinks about her children's happiness at every step of the way. We appreciate Dida who opened her heart to her daughter-in-law and made her daughter. They are also reality like Neela and I have experienced.

No one know what hardship Dida had to face after her husband died to raise Bijoy because she is not constantly moaning, whining or holding it over her family's head to make them dance to her tune. She is a mother too, she loves her son too, but she has made her son into an independent adult, not her wheelchair.

Anyways, again thanks for coming to my posts everyday and help me see different angles of the episodes. I appreciate all of you.
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Posted: 8 years ago
👏 it's when one woman focuses her synergy on enabling and empowering fellow women instead of focusing them in jealousy or sympathy with loathing, the women power can really take its full effect.. No games played around.. Just pure intention to enable each other for betterment.. Kudos to the women here who are showing the true empowerment.. way to go.. 👏

I am still waiting to rekindle my empathy for Ishu.. One sign of hers with real concern to accept any small change without sulking or grieving about the change that she has to undergo.. And yeah without making the other feel guilty about it too.. 😉 I can completely go with her and cheer for her efforts then on.. Till now she's showing zero signs in that line.. 🤔 She's only hiding her real emotions with one reason or the other.. And that's whe re the CVs too dragging creating instances sych that her actions are justified one way or the other.. And getting relevant sympathy from selected audience who can relate their own or someone's, actions with hers.. 😉 I am waiting to see how long the CVs are gonna try justifying such actions..
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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Dev and Ishwari should marry each other and live happily ever after without disrupting anyone else's life. Period 😡


100%agree

A guy like Dev has no business getting married. Why make commitments which you have neither the inclination nor the capability to honour. When he is so badly emotionally entangled with his own mother, is in fact a prisoner of her, he has no business spoiling another person's life for his happiness

It's not only Ishwari, Dev also treats Sonakshi like his favourite toy. Play with her but moment mummy scolds dump her and do whatever mummy asks you to do. And yes toys are there for your happiness, they are not supposed to have their own desires, feelings etc.

If Dev sides with Ishwari on the room issue Sona should slap him with a divorce notice and see to it that it is served when Ishwari is regaling riya's prospective in laws with the stories of nehas wicked in laws and husband.

I want this mother and son to for once pay the price of their sins
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Posted: 8 years ago

Just wanted to say that I am humbled by the numerous personal experiences you ladies shared on this thread. I won't lie, I feel that on Friday every character made some mistakes. Ishwari was possessive and insecure, Bijoy was careless (in his communication to Ishwari and later to Dev), Sona was careless and didn't quite communicate, Dev forgot all about his mother etc etc etc Let's not get into that. enough said

What stood out on this thread for me is that some of us are personally affected by so many of these things. Thanks ladies... God bless xx

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