Bijoy was so rude today! - Page 4

Bijoy was rude today... Period!!! His behaviour is condescending.. And no amount of explanation changes that. He is almost like Ishwari... Always ridicules saurav... Never ever have I seen him utter one good word to his boy just like Ishwari cannot see beyond Dev... He cannot see beyond Sona.
What is he talking about acceptance of Sona in Dixit family . .. he himself has not accepted Dev on Bose family...Ish at least did grah pravesh properly whether it was half hearted or whatever, she was not rude... Look at Bijoy.. He is hitting a new low everytime. Going by his standards if everything is going the Bengali wali... it is perfect.. . Everybody else 's customs etc are trash and do not hold importance. Im sorry but I cannot accept his behaviour in the name. Of concern for Sona. Whatever it is.. Good or bad... However it happened.. Sona accepted to keep the fast... He cannot dump this decision of Sona on Dev or his family as of now till he sees the picture completely or until Sona explains.
Additionally im. Hoping to see Sona speak up to Bijoy Tomm. .. Id like to see if she can say a word in front of her dad when he is not speaking in a good way about Dev since every person expects Dev to stand up for her in every freaking situation whether he is involved or not. I would like to see the other side of the coin please. Otherwise everyone must keep their voice low in case Dev is unable to take a stand sometime coz the situation is same here.
Bijoy is one hell of a hypocrite person and all. His actions indicate so. I can understand the concerns of a parent but one can always be respect full and not scowl or make faces.

Bijoy is bang on! Yes, he is appearing rude to us. but what he asks, his distrust in Inshwari, his lack of confidence in Dev, him not wanting his perfect daughter to change for sake of someone else.. is all correct! He is a proud modern father who doesnt want his independent daughter to be manipated by evil Ishwari or got stuck becoming brainless like Dev!

He isnothing like Ishwari. Bijoy doesnt do anything behind Dev or Sona's back. He doesnt manipulate behind the scenes to break his daughter's relations or keep them apart. Yes, he agreed for her sake. But he doesnt have to blindly put his trust in Dev or Ishwari.

Even I didn't like the way he behaved
Atleast a nice welcome would have been nice

Originally posted by: rcha_bhrt

Exactly it's their own choice to keep fast or not.no one is forcing his daughter

Noone forced Sona but we all saw how Ishwari manipulated her.. in the name of tradition, sacrifice, health and blessings 😉

Bijoy is asking the right questions for today's society!If I were Sona's father, i too would ask Dev the same questions! I hate society's differential outlook towards women, in the garb of customs and age old rituals! Girls need fathers like Bijoy (and me) in today's world!

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Bijoy is asking the right questions for today's society!If I were Sona's father, i too would ask Dev the same questions! I hate society's differential outlook towards women, in the garb of customs and age old rituals! Girls need fathers like Bijoy (and me) in today's world!

What I am seeing now in Ishwari and Dev is exactly what I and my daughter used to talk about! It is more of a generalized experience, with exceptions here and there!

Originally posted by: yyy

Bijoy's behaviour cannot be justified in the name of concern.A concerned father will not insult daughter's husband.If Bijoy's behaviour is justified then so is Ishwari.

Today he just showed his culture ..how he treats his SIL ...the proud father doesn't bother to talk to his daughter and the daughter doesn't stand up for her husband when her father insults him .Is balancing only husband's job ?

Forget Dev he cannot respect his own son .What a biased father he is ...

Will Sona be OK if Dev gives it back to her father just like she does to RR or Ishwari .She cannot stand a word aganist her father who insults her husband everytime he visits them but her husband fought with his aunt,mother for her.That's the difference

I don't feel sorry for Bijoy when he gets insulted by RR or Dadi Bua because he deserves it .I am waiting for the day when Saurabh will lose his pateinece and will give it back to him .

Bijoy, is not going to make it easy for Dev any time soon. He might have given in for his daughter but he is not going to forget the insults and heartbreak Sona went through. He had very high opinion of Dev in the beginning and showed him respect too. But now he have lost that respect for Dev and will want him to earn it back. He is not going to show him respect just because he is his SIL. Dev will have to win him over with his actions, care n love. Bijoy is not going to let him take Sona for granted and will constantly show him that he is not trusting him completely to keep Sona happy. But what he is he is upfront. He doesn't mask his intention and in the end what Bijoy n Dev wants is Sona to be happy. So they will adjust.

It was really interesting to read everyone's pov here but just wanted to add - There is always a nice way while asking right questions,how can you expect same respect from other person when you leave no chance to degrade him every time?! I feel Asha is really mature,she is a wonderful wife,DIL & mother who always understands her children,support their decisions and advice them accordingly! Being a woman I also support equal rights for men and women and feel pathetic when I see certain customs and rituals are for women only and not for Men! But here,Mamaji kept fast and Dev did not since he is an atheist.I feel after marriage where parents should try to make their children understand that relationship is not built in a day or two its a constant process and both have to make efforts to maintain it as Dev said earlier "banane mai bahut samay lagta hai but todna bahut aasan hota hai" but overprotective behavior and too much interference from parents side creates unnecessary problems in their children's life and even a small issue is made big!I always believe, both should try to resolve their issues untill and unless their is a problem where parents intervention becomes necessary.

Originally posted by: saurdeep

It was really interesting to read everyone's pov here but just wanted to add - There is always a nice way while asking right questions,how can you expect same respect from other person when you leave no chance to degrade him every time?! I feel Asha is really mature,she is a wonderful wife,DIL & mother who always understands her children,support their decisions and advice them accordingly! Being a woman I also support equal rights for men and women and feel pathetic when I see certain customs and rituals are for women only and not for Men! But here,Mamaji kept fast and Dev did not since he is an atheist.I feel after marriage where parents should try to make their children understand that relationship is not built in a day or two its a constant process and both have to make efforts to maintain it as Dev said earlier "banane mai bahut samay lagta hai but todna bahut aasan hota hai" but overprotective behavior and too much interference from parents side creates unnecessary problems in their children's life and even a small issue is made big!I always believe, both should try to resolve their issues untill and unless their is a problem where parents intervention becomes necessary.

I agree to most of the things you mentioned.
Parents should be the guiding light and one wrong step can cause a lot of damage to the relationships that there kids have.
Bijoy is very straightforward and blunt as a person, which is fine because that is his personality. But he was rude to Dev and jumped to a conclusion in his impulsiveness. Given his tone of communication, even a very valid point he raised seemed unsavory and disrespectful.